Me and my "best friend" used to be great friends we would have crazy fun like no other and then we started highschool and about 5 months in maybe this new girl transfers and now mty friends barely talks to me and when she makes the effert i just turn away and i feel replaced becasue she tells this new girl everything and me nothing i think im jealous and then again she rarely told me anything and she comes out of no where and says she cant trust me but over the summer she said she did trust me then i lied to her about lots of stuff and she found out about it took her forever to forgive me but that was in the past right? back to the new girl... all i wanna know is should this friendship be destoryed and should i confront her i asked my sister about this she said its not worth the time and i could do better? some one help me please please!!!!!!
2007-11-06 00:30:27 · 7 answers · asked by Kaitlyn G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ok after i lied to her i texted her then called her and fix the whole problem and then like a week later i got into a huge fight and i go 2 bruised ribs one on each side... so i called her after i got done at the hospital and i tole her io wanted to make things right so i did and that was a turning point but shortly later it all f**ked up i tried and tried but school start and i had to worry about my school s**t and i just dont know.. and this new girl didnt help our problem any but my friend just doesnt see our friendship slowly fading away i really wanna fix things and start fresh but i cant because my whole school is based on drama and she has alot of drama herself......
2007-11-06 01:16:36 · update #1
Hi -- You will find, during the course of your life that people walk in and out of our lives all of the time. So, your situation isn't odd, or rare.
Perhaps your friend and the new girl have a connection and she's moved on.
I know it's painful to lose a friendship, and more painful to hear "i can't trust you" from someone who you thought was a close friend....
Lying about things to people isn't a good way to keep a friendship, either. And it's a terrible habit to get into, hon. I know a 50 year old man who lies about EVERYTHING... no one respects him, and do you wonder why?
Don't try to destroy friendships or lives... just do the best to make yours better -- YOU are in charge of your own happiness, and we can't depend upon others to feel good.. happiness comes from INSIDE, not from friends or other people in general.
I hope you can see that it's time to move on, make new friends, and go forward. hugs
2007-11-06 00:42:15 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, you won't want ot hear it but yu broke this friendship by lying to her.
If she really meant that much to you you would'nt've been able to. I have two v v v dear friends & I physically CAN not lie to either of them.
She prob just said she forgave you cos you'd been so close & it's always hard to let that sort of friendship go, but now she's come to realise, may-be with the support of this other girl, that actually, if you did it once wen she found you out then you've prob done it before & will prob do it again,
Back off for a while, give her some space & if the friendship is strong wenough you will make it up eventually.
2007-11-06 08:37:50 · answer #2 · answered by Bubbly Blonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A similar situation happened to me. I went on a trip with my best friend at the beginning of the year, and after she totally ignored me. When I asked her about it she cussed me out and said she didn't want to be my friend anymore. I didn't give up and neither should you. She probably just needed a change of pace. I am now back to talking to my best friend everyday because I let her come to me on my own. Let her know how you feel. And maybe you might like the new girl...
If you lied then it is partially your fault and you should take part of the blame, but when you tried to work it out you got injured then maybe you do need to "move" on.
2007-11-06 08:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by Sam H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friendship should never be destroyed. you made a mistake, so just do what is right and say I'm sorry,
Lieing is the worst of all things that humans can do.
you can mend your friendship, it may take time to heal the broken heart.
give your friend time to cool down. hang in there friend,,((hugs))
2007-11-06 08:38:57 · answer #4 · answered by JOYTOMYHEART 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you deff. can do better.
move on and find a new friend.
i know you'll miss her at first...
especially if she was the one who "dumped" you.
if she does it once...
TRUST ME...
she will do it again.
dont let her use and abuse you.
move on.
2007-11-06 08:33:48 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you lied to her you ruined your friendship.
2007-11-06 08:33:11 · answer #6 · answered by webjen26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it, and yourself!
2007-11-06 08:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋