i came out on ncod (this year) but whenever anything comes up about anything related to lgbt everyone gets quiet and changes the subject. my dad usd to always joke with me about wut guy i liked but now he doesnt. he hasnt said anything about my coming out either. WHY!?!
2007-11-06 00:22:19 · 15 answers · asked by walks with goats 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i'm 15, bi, female, the whole family.
even my bff doesnt talk with me about
my sexuality.
2007-11-06 00:31:02 · update #1
ncod is National Coming-Out Day
2007-11-06 00:33:09 · update #2
cavorim:
i'm not a child. i'm a teen. i'm not having sex.
ur sexuality isnt about sex. it's about wut gender of people ur attracted to.
i'm attracted to both. i'm a virgin and a very strong believer in sex only after marrige and only with the person ur married to.
2007-11-06 00:38:22 · update #3
Hi there..
It just will take a bit of time, people, especially older people need time to get used to the idea.
Your dad, and most dads, find things like this a bit harder.It doesnt mean he doesnt love u, of course he does!Nothings changed.
Its just that this is new to him and he isnt sure what to say, but everyone will get used to the idea.
You're right of course sexuality isnt about sex its about how you feel inside.
You're wise to understand this, I think u are very intelligent and balanced.
Your friends will get used to the idea too..people take time to adjust to things.
Lots of best wishes
Paul
2007-11-06 01:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main thing I can say is just to be patient. Family will come around eventually. I am going home for the first time at Thanksgiving where my family just found out that I was a lesbian much less a transman. It will all work out in the end just keep your head up and deal with it. Look to see if there is like a pride center or LGBT center, other than PFLAG, in your area, it really helped me when I came out as being trans. Another thing about the center is that there should be someone there who counsels people who maybe you could speak to about your coming out experience.
To the lady who thinks that sexuality is all about sex, I hate to say it but you are wrong. Sexuality now a days is much more fluid especially among teens. It almost determines where you are on the pecking order of society in high school.
2007-11-06 02:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by Liam H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK 3 things
1. Whats NCOD?
2. Who goes quiet on the subject?
3. You a M or F?
then maybe could answer.
2007-11-06 00:27:13 · answer #3 · answered by Bi Forces Guy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first off, you are very brave for coming out..
i think your dad and others around you just dont know how to handle it, i am sure this will get better in time, perhaps your dad is embarrassed. try talking to him? tell him you feel things have become a little uneasy and you miss his chatter etc but that he doesn't need to be worried or embarrassed, that you are syill exactly the same daughter.
tell him how important it is to you that he is so understanding and that his assurance and reliability means the world to you.
it is important not to compromise yourself or your sexuality in order to make other people feel better, but in this instance you should try to find a balance and help your family understand you as they may be a bit stuck or lost for words..
maybe print out the answers you get for youre questions to start up a conversation..
good luck!
2007-11-06 00:30:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people just arent comfortable with the subject. Don't worry, u not doin anythin wrong!! mayb just give them a bit more time 2 get used 2 idea. well done 4 being true to yourself & coming out!
2007-11-06 00:27:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, congrats with being against pre-marital sex. That's rare these days. Second, people probably just think your embarrassed about it, or they think that you wouldn't want to talk because you could be shy about it or something. For a lot of people, it's just an awkward subject. Even though it's wrong, a lot of people grow up talking wrongly about people just because of their S.O. and when they find out they know someone, it just makes it sort of awkward for them. Try bringing it up yourself, in a confident manner. Show them you want to talk about it, and you are not shy or anything about it.
I just found out my friend was bi, and my other one was gay, and this is how I handled it.
Good luck!
2007-11-06 00:47:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most people will be uncomfortable with that sort of thing at first. You just came out so they probably are experiencing a little shock and denial. You may have accepted it but you also have to realize that it will probably take some time before your family and friends accept it as well.
2007-11-06 00:28:41 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Sexi Man 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's uncomfortable and unsure how to respond. He may need a bit of time to digest this new information about you. The fact that you are still a part of and active in your family means that they haven't abandoned you.
Have you refered your family to PFLAG? This is a good organization that helps friends and families of GLBT learn about their loved one's concerns and issues in a nonthreating way.
Good Luck.
2007-11-06 00:35:52 · answer #8 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its crazy the way people are making firm decisions about sexuality when they shouldn't even be having sex yet. Your dad doesn't want to talk about it because its not appropriate. Maybe when you grow up it will change. For now why not spend your time being a child which is what you are.
2007-11-06 00:34:02 · answer #9 · answered by LillyB 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
oh dear how difficult. like any sensitive issue, your dad is embarrassed. give him some time. dont know how long since you came out or how old you are, but these might influence your dads feelings about it all. my workmates daughter is gay and he prattles on about her and her partner like all the other parents in the office, so it can happen
2007-11-06 00:26:53 · answer #10 · answered by Georgie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋