Should the Male be the Head of the House?

Question

Traditions in many cultures say yes. I am talking about a happy relationship only where the man respects the wife.

Answer 1

This question is more about opinion than fact. That said, I believe that evolution and maybe genes have equipped men to be heads of household in a normal situation. The interesting thing here is that women seem, also due to evolution, to be able to step up to the job of being HOH when the male is out of the picture for whatever reason.

I have observed several marriages in which the woman behaved as head of the household. I cannot say that the women were not competent as HOH , but every one of those marriages either ended in divorce or continue with much conflict and dissatisfaction.

Before we got married my wife and I discussed how our marriage would be structured. I said that I wanted her to have her own carreer, not be a housewife, have her own friends, share household chores,and basically live as she had always lived only when it comes down to deciding what and how we are going to do as a family I am the head of the family and the household. She agreed saying that is as it should be.

I grew up in a household run by a woman because my parents split up. I think my mother did a fine job. However, under "normal" circumstances it should be the man. If a woman is in a marriage in which she is more qualified to be HOH then she has married the wrong man.

Answer 2

i'm Filipino and in our lifestyle the male, regularly the daddy is the top of the family members. In his absence, the area right now is going to the 1st born son regardless wether hes have been given an older sister or none. this prepare originated from Spain for the period of their colonization of our united states yet remains practiced via previous families in recent times. yet, women individuals may additionally assume duty if there are no longer any men interior the kinfolk. In my case, through fact dad had died, mom is the authority and head of the family members.

Answer 3

No, definitely not. If a decision is a 'tie' (between two people!) then an alternative solution must be found. Tradition dictates these things for a variety of reasons, none which apply to modern western culture.

How could a man respect his wife if he claims the position of head? It denotes that she is a subordinate. That's not respect. That's a load of tripe.

Answer 4

Decisions should be made in a 50/50 agreement. Times have changed, but I think most men are still considered the head of the household. It may not be as obvious since women work outside the homes.

Answer 5

It depends on whom is more capable of the decisions that need to be made. take myself , i am in charge of making sure that all the bills get paid on time with money left over to buy our necessities and wants, if this were up to him god help us. my husbands job is to make sure all the household repairs are done as well enforce my rules to the kids ... oh and to kill creepy crawly critters. but we dont look at it is who is the head of the house . Because we are a team . but ultimately he makes the tough choices and if i agree we are set if not then he has to rethink his choice. But we respect each other . I grew up in a home wher my dad was an *** an alchoholic and an abusive husband and my mom took care of us he made the rules , and she followed or else. and believe me none of his choices were right . BE a team but yes one of you will have to be responsible for the tough tjings, Just make sure the other atleast partially agrees.

Answer 6

"Head of the House" assumes the man is always acting in the best interest of the entire household. This almost always means putting others' needs/wants before his own.

I don't think most men are really ready for that kind of sacrifice. Actually, due to human nature in general, it works better to be like a team and each use your strengths to accomplish the family's goals.

Answer 7

Every couple has their own way of doing things, so if that is an arrangement a certain couple wants to make, and if it's agreed upon, then i say it's OK>

These days, lots of couples each have their own careers, and like to make individual choices.

From my perspective, i think each individual needs to work to take care of themselves, and not depend upon someone else. Last boyfriend i had wanted me to move right in, take over bill paying, cooking and laundry. He wanted a maid... and mommy. Obviously we are no longer together. I can't go there.

Answer 8

NO it's 2007

Answer 9

ok...yes the male is the head of the house, however that doesn't mean he's dominant throughout the relationship. you can be a healthy couple with a head of household whether its man or woman
blessings and luck to you

Answer 10

My husband is the head of the house and always will be. Nothing will change that. Why should we let time change that? As a wife, it is for me to support him and for him to lead. Of course, he will discuss with me on any family issue before making a decision.