I HATE MEN. I've been working in an office for over 2 years, and am pretty close friends with some men and women. But mainly men as they're into sports, like me.
I've started to hate them though. They think of me as a friend, but just drop me when someone better comes along. I'm ok to go to the pub with and watch the football with, but other than that they just don't care.
When i'm talking to a guy friend, if a hot girl comes along, they'll just ignore me mid sentence and walk off while i'm speaking to go talk to her. My girl mates NEVER do this, they always finish talking to me before talking to a hot guy.
After a night out, i text my girl friends to check they got home ok, and they always text back, but the guys never text back, and then I find out theyve been texting some hot girl all day.
If i'm walking into town or I need a lift, my girl friends will drive me or offer to walk with me, the guys never do, but will gladly offer to someone who's gorgeous.
WHY????
2007-11-06 00:13:43 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
PS: They DO think of me as a friend. They've told me. Just this weekend one of the guys said "you're my best female buddy" but he's been rude all week as usual ignoring me and talking to hot girls
2007-11-06 00:14:36 · update #1
I feel so let down by it and isolated that I've actually found another job so I don't have to be treated like this. I'm leaving in 13 days
2007-11-06 00:15:11 · update #2
Face it, you're a FRIEND. Either 1.) They see you as another guy because of the whole friendship thing, or 2.) You must be one ugly female.
It seems that you like the guys (that you hang out with) as more than just friends. If you're just trying to be our friend, expect it. If you're trying to be something more, then say something for christ's sake.
Men aren't pigs, it's just women are too damn COMPLICATED for their own good. Do you just want to be their friend, or do you want to be more? (Very straightforward answer/question)
EDIT: Guys do this with other guys, when we do it we generally know what's going on, and never think twice about it (Oh, John's going to work his moves on that hot chick over there, I'll sit here and wait till he gets back) Men, as friends, generally have this code between us, so if you're a friend, chances are you'll be treated like one of the guys. You aren't in a relationship with them per se, so if they're trying to talk to another female, just let them.
Females do it too, you know? Majority of my friends are women (because I like hanging around girls, and I'm straight XD) and my god the things they do are more piggish than what guys do. (Ex. Female friend goes have SEX with another guy, in the same house. Then talks to the other girls and me about it.)
2007-11-06 00:22:20 · answer #1 · answered by Fuh Q. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not all men are insensitive pigs. My boyfriend is never like that and i am pretty close to male friends and they arent like that but some men are. All some men care about is girls, football, beer, girls, sports, girls ermm girls and girls etc while others are different.
They probaly do this because they think of you as a friend and ONLY a friend.
But also at the same time they think of you as just another girl. So they walk 2 some hot girl.
2007-11-06 04:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by Faith--x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are turning into 'one of the guys.' You are the girl that likes sports that all of them think are totally cool. To a point.
Now what is happening is you are seeing the man's "inner piggy." That filthy lust-driven side of the brain that has exactly one thing on its brain cell. Not to mention that if they are at a pub, probably one or more beers in the gullet tends to break down respectful boundaries.
At that point, it might be time to wait until the end of the next quarter and tell the guys, "well, it's time for me to go before I turn in to a pumpkin," then take an exit and save yourself some grief at the same time.
WIth kind regards....Finn.
2007-11-06 00:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by Finn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They obviously see you as one of the boys! They go on like that amongst themselves, so they must think that you think like a man, and therefore would not get upset by their reactions to a 'hot girl' . But in reality you are a woman, and you are getting upset.
But don't interpret all this as all men being rude, they are just being men! I'm sure they do like you as a person, and have no idea about how they are making you feel. But to change your job over this is a bit over reactive, its not your job that needs to change.
2007-11-06 00:30:04 · answer #4 · answered by Christine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly love all men are like this. i have been living with a my bloke for 2 years and its the same when there watching a a hot girl on t.v blokes arnt like us wen it come to friendship and the way we care. they are to "easy going" its the smae at my work place i work in bcfc and its rare that a good looking girl works or comes in to the place so they give me attention and talk to me all the time untill they see a "fresh piece of meat" and to be honest i wouldnt actually mind if they spoke to me about the girls they like and as im a girl i could help them! lol its so hard wen it comes to men,. and we will never understand why they are such pigs but then men will never get why we are so amazing! Good lluck sweetheart!
2007-11-06 00:21:54 · answer #5 · answered by Charse** 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Uh oh it looks like you've fallen into the best friends trap. Are you sure you're not talking about a SPECIFIC guy friend as opposed to all men? And would you happen to have a bit of a crush on this guy friend?
2007-11-06 00:43:48 · answer #6 · answered by caretoshare2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY??.... well the men (and women too) who are rude pigs must not of had a good bringing up from their parents. probably their home when they were younger they were not taught right how to respect other people.
not all men are rude pigs... (note... women too can do and act like this...)
yes I do understand some men can be a real pain, a jerk.
but not all, I know of some men who are so sweet to their partners.
I am divorced because of my x being so rude cold hearted selfish pig. he abused me for his own gain.
but not all men are like this.
2007-11-06 00:51:37 · answer #7 · answered by JOYTOMYHEART 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just men being men - you've got to brush them off in the same way they brush you off! You will never change them - in my opinion they aren't as thoughtful or considerate as women - it's just a fact. They do have many qualities that are good though, so if you can, try and focus on the good rather than the bad!
2007-11-06 00:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by Clare 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think it's the individual rather than all men in general although i agree the older i get the less respect i have for men as a whole. My male friends however would not behave in this manner, perhaps its the guys that you are hanging out with.
I think it's easier to find a good male friend than a good male partner. it took me 35 years to find a male partner i could trust.
2007-11-06 00:17:38 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are leaving in thirteen days then why post the question?
all men are not pigs, mine is fantastic! men at work feel obligated to act the pig, otherwise they look weak to the other men in the pack, just either ignore them or talk to them individually and I am sure you will see a different side to them away from the pack
2007-11-06 00:25:36 · answer #10 · answered by fairy queen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋