ok I did something that could ruin my marriage!
The thing is i don't feel bad nor do I regret what I did!
Why is it that I dont feel bad for what I have done!
Ok so y'all know I cheated on my hubby!
Is it bad that I dont regret or feel bad or feel guilty
for what I have done?
2007-11-06 00:00:43 · 28 answers · asked by boobear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think its a bad sign, but can't judge you. It's a sign something there is really wrong or really empty, to the point that you feel no regret, almost as if something is justifying the behaviour. If you have a good relationship with hubby and things are good between you, you'll feel bad, even just a little. It could also be that the cheating was so recent that reality's not checked in. If so.. It will. If you do appreciate your marriage, give it a chance; talk to the guy, establish what went wrong. If you care about him, the cheating WILL catch up with you emotionally. It's human.
2007-11-06 00:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by Sugar 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's bad whenever we do something wrong and don't feel bad about it. At the very least you should feel bad that you broke a promise you made. I don't even care what he did or didn't do, marriage is a commitment. If you can't keep the commitment, you walk away BEFORE you break your promise to be faithful.
To NOTAGAIN if you're still out there. I'm sorry you've had a bad experience. There are just as many men on this planet who also cheat, lie, and take advantage of women. Women do not have the market cornerned. I hope someday you get over your fear and learn to trust, love, and respect women. It's a shame to see people who hold onto that hate....it's just to short a life.
In the meantime, back to the original question. Please reassess your situation and either make things right with your husband or move on. Life is definitely hard sometimes, but that doesn't give us the excuse to misbehave and break our promises......
2007-11-06 08:31:53 · answer #2 · answered by Holly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Cheating" is sex, and sex should be fun. So if you had fun there's no reason to regret anything. Please don't let the moralists here talk you into feeling bad.
Continuing an affair is not advisable though because it increases the risk (a) that you get caught and (b) that you fall in love with the other person. Both can create enormous problems.
And you might ask yourself if there is anything missing in your marriage that made you look outside, and then work on that.
2007-11-06 09:01:51 · answer #3 · answered by cyranonew 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a bad person - regardless of the circumstance you are acting outside of the contract of marriage.
You don't regret it or feel guilty because you have no heart in your marriage.
You should feel bad for what you have done to your husband but you don't. Therefore your marriage is over and you should end it now before you waste any more of your husband's valuable time on what you are - a hopeless case for him.
2007-11-06 08:18:18 · answer #4 · answered by Paul M 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you feel bad? My guess is a lack of morals.
You omitted that you know you did something bad.
I think you have answered your own question about not feeling bad or regret, just by posting this question.
2007-11-06 08:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by Manny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is a good sign.
Guesses could be that you aren't actually in love with your husband, that you will keep repeating this behaviour because you enjoyed it, & that you are treating your husband badly as a result.
You need to really look at yourself to understand why you feel this way after what you have done.
2007-11-06 08:15:55 · answer #6 · answered by Sashaaa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not going to judge u, but, hun, it is not fair on your husband if u feel this way. He needs to know how u feel and u also need to asses your marriage, ask your self if marriage is what u want. and be honest with yourself. Cause, think about it he also deserves to be happy, and have love in his life and if u are not going to provide him with these things then best to move on, so he can find it.
2007-11-06 08:38:44 · answer #7 · answered by bokkaroo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how dare you act so nonchalant about cheating yes you should feel bad and your husband deserves better than you that is a horrible thing too do you know i have read from alot of different people that they have cheated but you are the first one i came across that doesn't show one sign of remorse for what you have done and for that you should be ashamed!
2007-11-06 09:05:09 · answer #8 · answered by dawn l 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its bad for a LOT of reasons. You have no regard for your husband... no respect for him just as a human being... and thus, you don't care that you've hurt him. What about your vows? What kind of person makes a promise and then goes against it on a whim? If you don't feel bad about what you've done to your husband, what about what you've done to yourself?
2007-11-06 08:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I did same thing recently. But I love my husband and not planing on leaving him. I was just after sex.
And I do not feel bad about what I did. And person with whom I did it does not mean anything to me.
It is actually pretty exiting. Isn't it what men always do and consider this normal? Then why it should be abnormal for a woman? Discrimination?
2007-11-06 08:23:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anderson 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋