We been together going on three years. I know he thinks about leaving her. We never discuss his marriage. It started out as a casual thing. Now we are in love. I think everyone deserve to be happy.
2007-11-05 23:33:55 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok Im going to continue this relationship. I should go after what I want. I guess I have to do whatever it takes
2007-11-06 00:05:28 · update #1
HEARD THAT ALICIA KEYS SONG
2007-11-06 00:11:17 · update #2
I WILL BE HIS WHORE
2007-11-06 00:46:21 · update #3
The wife has no hair
2007-11-06 01:23:28 · update #4
He won't leave her just by you asking him to, or he would have already.
You have to peck away at their marriage until there's nothing left.
Leave "evidence" (hair, lipstick, etc) where she's likely to find it. Make "anonymous" phone calls to her and tip her off on just a couple details of your relationship.
She might leave him when she gets tired of confronting him all the time about his affair.
Then again, that could backfire, make their relationship stronger and he'll stop seeing you altogether.
"Oh what a tangled web we weave..."
2007-11-05 23:40:19 · answer #1 · answered by Nasubi 7 · 0⤊ 9⤋
Honey, what do you see when you look in the mirror? I don't know what's happening in his marriage - that's his business. The only thing worse than someone who messes with someone's spouse, is the spouse that's messing around to begin with.
How on earth can you put yourself on the line with a man who obvioulsy hasn't been bothered by having a wife and a girlfriend at the same time.
Let's say he does leave his wife. Let's say you've been happy and in love and he marries you. What makes you think you're so much better than his wife is that he's not going to start something with someone else down the line.
I'm not saying it isn't possible, but my guess is if he's been ok with it this time, he's going to be ok with it next time.
Walk away from this MARRIED man and find someone who is single and available. I'm sorry, I'm not trying to be mean, but my goodness.
2007-11-06 08:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by Holly 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hello No Hair
You are kidding yourself if you think that this man will leave his wife - he has both of you and he is very happy with the arrangement because it feeds his ego. He loves you when he is with you and loves his wife when he is with HER. It would be no different if YOU were his wife, once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater, what makes you think he would be true to you if YOU were his wife??? You are going to be a very sad person if you do not wake up soon. You are getting older and your chances of getting an AVAILABLE male are getting smaller 0 so get out in the world and look before you are no longer desired because YOU are too old. Good luck.
2007-11-06 07:47:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a cheater... once a cheater, always a cheater.. If he is cheating on his wife, he WILL cheat on you.. give it time.
He's probably not about to leave his wife for you. Do you know how a judge will crucify him in court if he is found to have been an adulterer? He won't get anything much in the divorce.. Judges look down upon cheaters...
You do deserve to be happy and your first step toward that situation is to dump him and realize he's married and not available. Don't you have any dignity or value yourself at all?
2007-11-06 08:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he's married with 3 kids i suggest you leave him, if he's married with no kids then that will be all right, married guys with kids are not able to commit 100% to their secret-girlfriend even though they give you all the sweet promises that they're going to marry you and blah bla blah...that's all bull-sh**t mann...no matter how long you cling on with him he will stay put with his family and wife 'coz he knows that he's got kids and a loyal wife to be with and to take care, whereas you are just a mere partime trader secret lover...so think hard and start to turn into a new leaf and enjoy your singlehood-travel all over the world and find someone who can make you happy and single too...all the best! You deserve to be happy with someone else but not a married-men....pleaseee...
Well, if you want to ruin somebody's marriage life then that is not good, he gotta go up and down the marriage court and it's not cheap too, and many more.....more problems coming up if he married you later on, you have to take care of his kids too...my last words again find someone else and be happy!...you are still single and you are free to wonder around explore single and better men out there!...OK, enough said, take care and good luck!
2007-11-06 07:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by Layla 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Haha! I'm not even going to waste the time typing about how completely OBVIOUS it is (that after 3 years) he has zero intention of leaving his wife for you. Eventually you'll see it for yourself.
"now we are in love" ~ NO..you may be in love with him, but HE is in love with having a back up for sex when his wife is too tired or having her period or just plain doesn't want to put out. If you think they haven't slept together for 3 years you are probably more than mistaking. He's sleeping with both of you which to me is sooo nasty. Don't you have more self respect for yourself than to pick at someone's (the wife's) scraps?? You appear to be confident that he would be better off with you...too bad he doesn't feel the same. Grow a spine and move on (or at least grow part of your brain back!!)
Good luck with your "plans"
Hahahaha!!
2007-11-06 09:03:37 · answer #6 · answered by busymum 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you date a married man?? Also does it not strike you as odd that you have been with him for 3 years and he does not discuss his marriage?? It still is a casual thing..face it he is not leaving his wife
2007-11-06 08:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Dee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 years of him ringing you up and sayen hey baby I miss you how bout it? WOW. Yeah I can see the love.
Honey , if he hasnt decided to divorce her by now he isnt going to seriously open your eyes instead of your legs sweety , your an @zz call for when wifey dont put out , oh I'm sorry :O you thought they werent having physical intercourse this whole 3 year's he's been doing you? hahahahaha that's funny .Just as funny as the lies he told you about her how she mistreats him and ignores him sexually , emotionally how much of a cow she is all LIES!!!!!
Love is about committment , trust , honesty , loyalty , devotion , admiration , the ability to be true to the spouse chosen without 2nd guessing or wondering what if.Love is about the comfortability and acceptance of life as it bring's you peace and happiness and harmony , it's about not feeling the need to get fine jewelry , cars , boats , houses , or going out for romantic dinner's that cost more then the couch you sit on at home to eat pizza , what you have is a convenient root for this guy when he wants it and when he doesnt he can stay with his wife and kid's and pretend you dont exist.Who you kidding? not me ;o) .
They dont leave the wife for the lover , just ask the 5 skanks my 1st husband did behind my back and the old bat my 2nd husband did behind my back , BOTH husband's begged me to let them stay gee wonder why if their skanks were all that.
2007-11-06 07:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he thinks about leaving her and that he's in love with you? Because he told you? LOL You need to get your head out of the sand. He does not love you--he is with you for sex ONLY. If you couldn't have sex all of a sudden, he'd be gone so fast you wouldn't know what hit you. He is not going to leave his wife--PERIOD. Now close your nasty stinking legs and find your own man, if you can.
2007-11-06 08:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop the relationship with him. After 3 years he still hasnt left his wife, obviously he wants to be with her no offense. Sometimes men get bored and they cheat, its what causes many of the divorces today, families get broken up, the wifes heart gets broken, do you really want to be the cause of that? And if he did get divorced how do you know he wont do it to you.
Move on with your life and find an available guy.
2007-11-06 07:51:50 · answer #10 · answered by Sara132 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only a whore lays up with a married man for 3 years; and married men don't usually leave their wives for whores!
2007-11-06 08:40:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋