I'm 17, and I just found out that I am pregnant...?

Question

What should I do?
I love children, but I haven't even finished high school!
I mean, I graduate this year, but I still have college!
I am kind of anit-abortion, but I don't want to bring a baby into this world that I will never be able to fully care for!

WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?

To all of you who think I am irresponsible for having sex, think again.

i didnt choose to have sex.
I was raped, by my ex-boyfriend.

I am 100% anti-abortion.

I just don't know whether I should put my child up for adoption, raise them myself, or ask my parents for help!

Answer 1

I'm 17 as well, and my period hasen't arrived yet.
I went through a scare, however a bloodtest proved it to be wrong.
When you first think about it, or in your case know about it.
Its just a bombardment of confusion and just wanting to snap out of the dream.
I am severly so sorry that, that was the reason for your pregnancy.
Report the Bastard.

I think the best thing to do pshycologically, is to write up a list, of what you think will best suit you.
Adoption, Termination or Keeping.
If you are anti-abortion than that is your answer. But considering your circumstances, its really a situation about whether you can handle it or not. Yes, there are many success teenage pregnancies, that are very admireable. But different people can handle different situations.
You said you were 'kind of' anti-abortion.
That suggests to me insecurity about the topic. Babe i think you should, sit down, chronologically sort and rearrange your thoughts.

And even if you didn't get raped, and just consented sex and fell pregnant. How can age justify the age of our mentality?
But I guess, learn from your mistakes right?

Goodluck Babe.
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Answer 2

Ok this is occurring to plenty of my peers just lately :-( because of this you must wait till marriage however besides, do not need an abortion. Baby killing is mistaken. Ok so holiday it in your moms and dads now and ask them what's their opinion in this. Usually they're plenty wiser than a few random individual on Yahoo. Go with them to a health care professional to look if you're quite pregnant. After you get the whole thing straightened out with them inform your boyfriend if you're. Adoption is the great option. That's all I might say for now. Good Luck to you and if you're now not pregnant permit this be a caution signal.

Answer 3

don't do anything you will regret.any thing you do be sure its what YOU want and not what your boyfriend/mom/family thinks would be best.I'm 15 and 27 weeks pregnant,we don't have alot of money but we have been doing fine preparing for baby.with all the help and stuff Ive gotten form family and friends were doing much better than expected : ) my baby boys dew feb.2.08,feeling him move and seeing the look on my boyfriends face when he feels it to is an unbelievable feeling.in my oppion being anti-abortion don't do it,the babys the consequence of your actions and now your responsibility.you CAN do it and make it through,i am.keep in mind that after you have him or her and if you still cant be that responsible,you can make another couple that are ready very happy by adoption.dont abort,if you arnt ready someone else is,that baby desirves a chance
good luck and godbless you,hope i helped
p.s-it might not have hit you yet but you have your own cration inside of you,thay need and love you more than anyone eles ever will.relize whats acculy happening before you make any dicisions

Answer 4

I had my first child when I was very young. I think the thing that saved me was that I did not drop out. I stuck it out in school and graduated. I would suggest the same to anyone who does not want to flip burgers forever to do the same. The only way to make it anymore is with education to back you up. Education is always the answer. With that behind you, you will be able to provide for you and your child and serve as an example of what TO do when faced with adversity. Apply for all the benefits you need now and get that help from the government and when you graduate you will be a functioning member of society instead of a leech sucking the system dry, you will be able to give back and have life experience behind you.

Answer 5

i just had my baby a month ago and i was 19. I didn't know what to do when I found out I was pregnant either. Trust me though abortion is totally out of the question its murder people who say they aren't baby's yet are bs-ing you my baby was the size of a ciggarette pack at 3 months and was sucking his thumb on the ultrasound. I am glad you are against it. As for adoption i would advise you not to do it. Both of my biological parents are adopted and not knowing where you come from and feeling like your parents didn't want you is going to make your child feel abandoned its whole life. However if there is no choice in the matter i suggest an open adoption and don't settle for anything less. Having my son changed my life and i didn't know what i was going to do until the moment he was born. I had no idea how to take care of a child but as soon as he was born i knew right away and having and keeping him was the best thing that ever happened to me.

Answer 6

I had my son at the age of 16, he is now 16 himself a honor student and plans to go to college for Engineering. My point is you can raise a child, as long as you are willing to grow-up very quickly. I finished highschool and even went to college (night school). I have never been on welfare and his father has never paid a cent of child support. I am now a single mom with 3 beautiful kids and they mean the world to me. I know I made the right choice for my son and I. But you have to be ready to be a mom, but abortion is never a answer, there are alot of people that would love to raise your baby if you feel you can not do it. That baby didnt ask to be conceived so please give it a chance at life either with you or someone else that will love it as their own.

Answer 7

hi i am so sorry for you and i would never have thought you were irresponsible any way! i hate people who are like that. i found out i was pregnant at 17 and i am now 18 and only 4weeks to go. i think you should have a long think and a Good chat with a friend or your doctor on your feelings and your options, whether you want to keep the baby or not its your decision don't let anyone make you feel differently. i wish you all the luck and if u wanna chat or ask me any Q's just email me

Answer 8

i would raise the baby if i were you.
There are so many support groups and ways of getting money from the state to help teen moms. My friend had a baby at age 16 she graduated high school and now is in her sophomore year of college she got straight A's all threw HS. If she can manage you can manage. you will regret giving up your baby. this will just make you a stronger person. i'm glad you are really against abortion, it is so horrible! i just learned taht they abort the baby by cutting all its limps off : (

There are going to be a lot of tears and you will be scared but with time that will all pass and you will think back and be so happy that you have your child with you.

Answer 9

Have you prepare to be a mother.. a mother has too many responsible.
I know that you a kind of anti abortion. The only solution, you need to talk with your parent. Do not force the beast to marry you.. you are too young and might get divorce when you come to 20... Don't make yourself suffer. Need to finish your college... you only have 1 choice.

Answer 10

You could still have your baby and go to college.I think you should speak with your parents and your baby's father, they may be able to help you with your decision,and there is always the choice of adoption, good luck, i hope you can figure something out soon.