OK why am I still Marryed?

Question

I have a bipoler Daughter(28)( wifes kid ) who has 3 kids and is working ,but we end up sitting the kids 5 days a week. And both of us are working full time also,( we are in the 40+ age group). I'm so dam tired all the time. I love my Grand kids but not all the time. Do I go or stay?

Answer 1

Time to help your wife become a responsible parent. If your step-daughter is working, then the fact that she is bipolar doesn't make a difference. She is still capable of taking care of her responsibilities. Her children are her responsibility, not yours. However, your wife has allowed this to interfere with your life, and needs to stop damaging her own life in order to make things easier for her daughter. It's time for your wife to cut the apron strings and help your step-daughter find other suitable childcare. Grandma and Grandpa are there to HELP, not there to enable. Offer to have the children one night a week. Once that night has been determined, work out a plan to wean your wife and step-daughter into the new set-up. You are allowing your wife to enable your step-daughter, which is not going to help anyone.

Answer 2

what the hell you mean do you go or stay? and you said in the same damm sentence you love your grand kids? what t.f. my youngest daughter had a baby she is 6 now and my wife and i have raised that child from 6 months till now and i would never even think of leaving that kid out of anything. we are both in our 50's me late 50's and i feel that kid keeps me feeling young because i am her daddy and grandfather and she needs both because her so called father left when she was 6 months and has never came back and the mother hasn't much to do with her she lives away from home.
so suck the sh*t in and be a man and settle your a@@ down and be there for those kids. sure maybe 24/7 isn't what you had in mind when your daughter married and had kids but now you have too so find yourself a little spot in your home or outside you can breath some fresh air, but you be there for those grand kids. don't desert them.

Answer 3

I think rather then running from your family you should really make your thoughts known to them and help your daughter find alternative means to get someone to watch the kids. Oh and of course you say it is your wife's kid. Maybe you feel jealous and like it is not your place to take care of someone Else's grand kid. Would it be different it she was your biological daughter and they were your biological grandchildren. Maybe your not happy in your relationship and your looking for an excuse to leave.. You should seek some counseling before you do anything...

Answer 4

What is a bipolar daughter?

You could plan a schedule and have some time for yourself. But at your age, you are not expected to just work and do baby-sitting!

Answer 5

ur daughter cant expect u to look after her kids especially wen u got a job so ask her to giv u some time off..they are the ones that had the children in the first place from what i understand
and they cant expect tht from u
u mus stay because this cant influence ur marrage

Answer 6

You need to sit *everyone* down and have "the talk". You are grandparents, not a free babysitting service. Establish ground rules and stick to them.

A helping hand is expected, not a hand out.

Answer 7

Sounds to me like the better idea is to let the daughter go. . . If your marriage is worth having and saving, it is time to say 'see ya' to the daughter. I don't mean this to sound harsh or mean, but you didn't marry your step daughter, you married her mother, and her mother needs to see this as well. . .

Good luck!

Answer 8

the daughter is going to have to find some other child care and realise her responsibilities,why leave over this issue?

Answer 9

I would tell her that the arrangement is not working out for you and she needs to make other arrangements. She will bring them to you as long as you let her.