This question is for a man who doesn't trust women or women who are in love with a man who doesn't trust women
Men: What does a woman have to do to gain trust from you and to prove that she REALLY loves and cares about you?
Women: What are some things that you do to try and gain trust from the man you love.
It is so hard loving someone who was taught to never trust.
My love just told me he was raised to not trust women and that he is skeptical about me. How do I deal?
2007-11-05 17:41:34 · 6 answers · asked by Tnisha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The first thing you don't do is just dump him because he was being honest with you. Second, ask him what you would have to do to gain his trust. What does trust look like? What did the woman/women that were in his earlier life do that made the trust issue come into play? I'm assuming he was taught not to trust women by his Dad or older male relatives. If there was one thing in particular that a woman did, then he'll be especially sensitive to that. Did said woman cheat? Steal money? Get pregnant by some other guy behind his back?
If any of these are correct, then do everything in your power to show him the opposite of that. I think that it is possible for him to learn how to trust women...but you'd have to have a LOT of patience and deal with a lot of crap to get him to that point. Do you think the relationship is worth it? If so, then follow these guidelines. Don't just do what you THINK is trustworthy--ask him specifically what he needs to see and be honest with yourself as to whether or not you can do these things.
2007-11-05 17:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair that he's already decided not to trust you without a good reason. Just because he was raised that way doesn't mean he has to keep that same belief. That's a choice he's making.
I would suggest you move on and find someone without trust issues.
2007-11-05 17:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine Queen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a huge issuse in a relationship and I know exactly what your going through. My man was raised not to trust women either. You have to show your man that you will be there no matter what, through thick and thin. You have to make him realize that your not there to screw him over and that you are in the relationship because you love him and you want to be with him. The more he realizes that the easier it will be for him to gain trust. Believe me, it's hard but if you love him, its worth it.....I wish you the best of luck.............
2007-11-05 17:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say find another man to love. Because there are plenty of guys out there willing to put it out there for you to pick up. But if you must stay be open and always communicate your feelings to him. Always follow through with what you say your going to do and allow him the courtesy of knowing when you can not come through in time he will learn to trust. However, there is a fine line between allowing trust and being in a controlling relationship.
2007-11-05 17:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by Time To Go 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My experience with my ex was there is nothing you can do. His previous girlfriend cheated and that was it. He was very controlling, over-bearing. Did not want me to even have female friends. The list goes on and on..............
If your man was raised this way, I don't think you have a chance. Sorry.
2007-11-05 18:06:01 · answer #5 · answered by Lina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant because he.s been hurt by one in the past but one thing he isnt looking at all women arent like his past . my opion?
2007-11-05 17:46:33 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋