We love each other and have two wonderful kids.I have tried almost everything humanly possible. I am not leaving my wife. What should I do for my sex drive, which is extremly high btw.
Should I get it elsewhere or just give up?
2007-11-05 17:19:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Find ways to motivate her....wine and dine her....make her feel young...find time alone without the kids....see a doctor...you might find out that there are many women that need a type of Viagra...hormones are off balance type thing...
best wishes
2007-11-05 17:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like the two of you have been married for a long time.
I have been married to my husband for almost 20 years. I am still young. I have not hit 40 yet. He has a high sex drive, I do not. I can honestly say that i could care less if we ever have sex again. It isn't because i don't love him, it is because it is not what is important to me anymore. We used to go at it like bunnies, and it was cool, but now it is like, we both work, we have kids, we are always on the go. We are always exhausted by the time we reach the bed. For me to actually get in the mood to have that thing rammed into me after i have already had a physical day, he has to get the fires burning. My thoughts as i hit the pillow at night are not what is making the covers float. It is however, rest finally.
Before your wife hits the bed, rub her shoulders, pay attention to her. She will pay attention to you too. Marriage is work. And it is also sacred.
Should you "get it" somewhere else? Well, just don't cheat in your hometown. It will get back to her. My suggestion on that is NO because, you will feel enormously guilty for having done it with someone you don't intend to have a relationship with. And what if the "roll in the hay" turns out to be a life long committment like a BABY?? No birth control is 100%.
Never give up with your wife. She is tired from two kids, a job, a husband, bills, errands, and other family members. Take her for a weekend get away just the two of you. Take the kids to grandma's and split for a few days. Let her get "into you" again.
2007-11-05 17:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just asked this question. This is not a natural state. Have her see a doctor. It could be her hormones or if she is on medication that could be creating her low sex drive. Talk to your wife, see a doctor, try counseling, do whatever, don't ruin a marriage that is good in every other aspect. Because whether or not you are getting it from her, she probable still wouldn't understand you going elsewhere, especially if you haven't really talked to her about how hard this is for you.
2007-11-05 17:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was lady that said almost the exact same thing about her hubby two days ago, the speculation was he was gay. She denied it. Not to be mean, but could this be something that she is accepting about herself??
Or maybe it doesn't feel the same for her, she might be having physical problems that she is too ashamed to talk about. It crazy how many people don't talk to their spouses about physical ailment because of embarrassment.
2007-11-05 17:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Lina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What women fail to understand about me is that for us, sex is like food, we need it. You should sit down and talk to your wife and let her know that if a man can't eat a home cooked meal, sooner or later he will end up going eating out.
If she still doesn't want to fufill your needs, then kick her to the curb and find a younger woman that can keep up with your needs. Then once she gets old, repeat the same process all over again.
2007-11-05 17:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First relax. You need ot lower yours and raise hers.You both need medical advice AND counseling here. Its important to know why things are this way. There are many things that can eb done medically and pscologically. Don't cheat and absolutely don't give up.
Ill withhold the evil wife comments if she tries wholeheartedly.
2007-11-05 17:27:41 · answer #6 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Even if you have a great sex drive. You need to know how to romance her and to get her to want you even more than you want her.
flowers, rose pedals, kissing her ear, kissing her neck, slowly moving in for for the sex, but holding back. Make her beg for it. Give it to her the way she wants it. Make her *** several times before you climax...
2007-11-05 17:32:56 · answer #7 · answered by Mark B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are herbs that will take your libido down a notch and help you relax.
Chasteberry (vitex), black willow bark, hops, sage, scullcap, passion flower. The first link below offers combined formulas that are easy to take.
Consider taking long walks.
2007-11-05 17:40:04 · answer #8 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just asked this question. pal go down and see a dr. and let him know that she isnt into sex no more could be a hormone inbalance on her part..
2007-11-05 17:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um masturbate to porn? You shouldn't cheat on your wife though, or you'd ruin your family's life, sometimes sacrifices are necessary for others to be happy.
2007-11-05 17:23:40 · answer #10 · answered by Closed 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋