Help, would like to divorce abusive wife...?

Question

Hello there,

Ive been married for 2 years and it has been hell. The first 6 months were perfect ... but the first day she slapped me for being late, everything went down. I have NEVER hurt her in any way .. but her insults, beatings and threats are killing me. Now we are separated, I want to start new and have a new life but she doesent want to divorce. What can i do? Im in Georgia and dont have a clue of what to do here? Who can help me? any advice?

Yes, We tried help from therapist 3 times and she went to the psycologist, pshychiatrist and nothing... they say she is not crazy but she has a problem with authority, relationships and respect. They put her into anger management and asked me to just move on into a new life. That is why I am trying to overcome this situation as a gentleman.

ok PEOPLE!!! I am enough Man to know that I CANT HIT HER BACK .. that is wrong, low and she could throw me in jail ... so please, dont tell me i am not man enough or just to hit her back cause I just WANT OUT !!!

Answer 1

Hi there.. Your question caught my attention quickly. Hun you are in a bad situation and you need to step out of it before it becomes to late. NO ONE whether it be a man or a woman has any right to touch your body in any way unless you give them permission too. Your wife has a serious problem and needs to get help fast. She can tell you she doesn't want a divorce all she wants too but in a court of law she cannot stop you from fileing and getting it. Especially with her being an abusive wife. Do you have kids? If you do she is probably abusive to them also. Do you want that for you and your children? You know you don't and I know you deserve better. No one deserves to be abused in any way shape or form. I work for a medical office and unfortunately I see cases of abuse. It's not nice to see. Some cases end up in death. Ok.... DEATH! Are you ready for that yet? I don't think you are... Listen hun take some advice ok.. Never hit back, walk away, get out, cut your ties, get help for yourself and some day find a woman who really loves you ok... Don't be afraid ok... I'll be here for you if no one else is... and thats a promise... I swear!!!!!!!!!!!!!! if you need to talk just find me on yahoo... ok......... bye and good luck... YOU CAN DO IT...

Answer 2

Go to the bookstore and get the DIY divorce guide for your state... it is a fast and empowering read... spells things out nicely.
You will either get a CD-ROM with the forms on it with the book, or you can download the forms from the state's website. Fill them out and take them down to the county courthouse with the proper amount of money and FILE for divorce. After that, it is up to the court to serve the papers.
It doesn't matter whether she gets them or not. Just get the divorce going. She may decide to contest the divorce, but all you have to do is stand your ground and speak your truth.

Good luck. Thanks goodness there are no kids involved.

Answer 3

GOOD for YOU : ). you have taken the first step, leaving her. it doesnt matter what she wants at this point. its about you and your needs. you need to find the courthouse and file divorce papers. the reason would be mental and physical abuse and dont forget the threats of killing you. sweetie dont take her abuse lightly. file the papers have her served than she would be put on notice that you intend to dissolve the marriage. you have to not sleep with her during this period or you would have to start all over again as far as the time apart. she needs help and this will help her wake up and get some. you deserve better and am sure you will find a loving and abusive free woman soon : ) GodBless

Answer 4

Mate, you did right! To those who suggest you to hit back is so wrong. Man or women are not, and not, to use their fist to sort, control, manipulate other people. It is never right. You are a MAN not hitting back.
Get away from thet women. Have another better life, i'm sure there's millions of good women out there who will love you.
You go to your district court, ask them for the application form. But you can only apply for a divorce after a certain period after separation, normally 2 years.
Don't lose your intergrity and drag yourself into their low lever.
Good luck to you.

Answer 5

You know, I'm not a perfect husband so I don't want to come across as a "know it all." Yet, when things get tough for me, I get on my knees and cry out to God. So far I have never been disappointed with prayer. It doesn't guarantee that I'll always get what I want, but I have certainly never been left "empty handed.

No one should ever have to live with abuse, but at the same I want to challenge you to pray with all your heart, confess your faults, and ask God to help you and your wife. Then be quiet and wait and see what He does. Try this 3 times a day and see what happens.

While you waiting, trying going to this web site and clicking on the songs by the composer and listening to them.

Answer 6

I cant remember the exact web site, but google abused men. There is a forum of men who are in and have been in similar situations to you. You can put your story up and get replies from guys in a similar situation to you. Male abuse is very hard to understand by other people....its very trickly. Look up the site. Im sure it will make you feel a bit better and you will be able to get in contact with men who have been in a similar situation.

Answer 7

Talk to her about how her rage is seriously endangering your marriage. Get counseling and get to the root issues. See if she is willing to work on them. Maybe with medication she would chill. Exhaust all available options to save the relationship if you love her.

Then, I guess there's a phone book full of divorce attorneys, but I would fight like heck to rehabilitate the situation before resorting to that.

Answer 8

Have you been doing something "fishy" behind her back?I dont think a wife would simply beat a husband for no reason...And aren't you "Men" enough,to defend yourself"?.If u think that you didn't do anything wrong,don't even let her lay her hands off you'....Talk to her and tell her to 'back off'...don't you love her anymore?and did you ever think that divorcing her is the best solution,without even thingking of what might she feel about it later...And u think that's fair for her?....

Answer 9

Its batteredmen.com. LOts of good info there. Good luck with this. Have you tried counseling? My fiance hit me a couple of times a while ago. It hasnt happened since, but we alos spoke to our pastor about it and he talked with us at length for a couple sessions. She gets frustrated still, but doesn't i dont think it crosses her mind to be physiacally viloent anymore.

Answer 10

what she wants dont matter now file for divorce on mental curelity. and abuse pal and start a life with a woman who has been taught to act like a woman not a nut. my opion?