Can a married man stay faithfull after 12 years of being married, 2 daughters and having two affairs?
2007-11-05 16:42:17 · 21 answers · asked by Good Moma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO, get out now. run for the hills. You will end up 50 years old, and he will still be cheating. And he will do it under your nose. Then you will some how find out. You will seperate and then divorce. You will have 30 years of marriage under your belt with nothing to show for it but a cheating hubby. And the women you know will give you strange looks and stuff. Like they feel sorry for you, but wonder if you are the reason he went to cheating. Get out now! 2 Affairs is 2 too many! It won't stop. That's just the two you caught him in. There could be others.
2007-11-05 17:45:50 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that if he cheats once, maybe he should be forgiven if he is truly sorry. I dont believe in the usual "once a cheater always a cheater" nonsense. But twice? There is definitely an issue with your marriage. If you love someone deeply you do not cheat on them, no matter what.
Look deeply into your marriage and see why he feels he needs to cheat. I suspect that with two affairs under his belt, he may be at a point in the relationship that he is no longer in love and wanting to continue it. I would say, look after yourself and your daughters and decide if you want to put up with more heartbreak.
2007-11-05 18:12:11 · answer #2 · answered by Cafe au lait 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends on him. It's like drug addiction, if the person believes they have a problem and they get help and fight to stay clean, they'll succeed. If he feels remorse, if he is ashamed, if he gets help, and he decides never to do it again, then he probably won't. Most people will say once a cheater always a cheater, but everyone is different and I don't think that blanket statement is true all of the time.
2007-11-05 16:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you expand cheating to cyber sex, then I'm guilty of it a couple times several years ago. I lost my first wife mainly bc of that and a net porn addiction. (been clean since 1/00 yay!!) I haven't looked back to be sure. However if you're talking about live sex, it is possible for anyone to feel guilty enough over that, as tempting as that lifestyle may be to some, to use that feeling to never cheat again. There are people who do chronically cheat though. You have to have full transparency and openness from the cheater. It is their responsibility to rebuild the trust, and if they aren't, the sitch is ripe for them to cheat again.
2007-11-05 16:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no! once a cheater always a cheater. my cousins she has 3 kids& her hubby cheated b4& after they got married & all through all her kids prgnecys&the last1 they had she was in labor 4 over an 1h & she had her mom&dad call him on his cell&he would't answer& to find out 1 of her friends was going to the hospital& pass his truck& he was @ A STRIP CLUB & every time he has cheated on her, she took him back exepted this last time
2007-11-05 17:12:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he learned his lesson, he'll stop cheating. I don't believe once a cheater always a cheater. Sometimes people just have to grow up. Hopefully he has. I'd say 3rd strike and he's out though.
2007-11-05 16:52:16 · answer #6 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think if they were a cheater once that theres a good chance they may do it again if the right person shows up in their life.
2007-11-05 22:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no - even if he does not cheat with affairs - they will find a new outlet.
Couseling (sp??) is the way to go- get to the root of the issue.
2007-11-05 16:53:30 · answer #8 · answered by longhairguypa2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't necessarily believe that once a cheater always a cheater....some people actually learn from their mistakes...but a guy with TWO AFFAIRS under his belt....I would be hesitant to believe that he will remain faithful....
2007-11-05 16:47:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
After the second time (that you KNOW of), he'll just do it more often. Not only will things never be the same, but you'll start to hate yourself for putting up with this crap.
2007-11-05 16:50:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋