I feel so guilty as i have a perfect marriage with nice kids!!Honestly i dont think the houseguest thinks the same!there is a 10 year difference between us.Please friends advice!!
2007-11-05 16:40:15 · 24 answers · asked by Kisses an Wishes 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he is also very good looking!
2007-11-05 16:54:42 · update #1
he was brought in by my husband.its work related.he will be there for a year.
2007-11-05 16:56:09 · update #2
I ahve been reading all your answers. You guys are amazing.Love you all for all the support.
2007-11-05 17:08:15 · update #3
HEYYYYY IM GONNA KICK YOUR @RSE<<
STOP THOSE THOUGHTS RIGHT NOW!!!
your like me, married with kids, dont even think about it!, lol
your probably hormonal at the moment, you get those days!, but really once u do something you cant turn back time, your marriage would b over and its so not worth it,
my sister had an affair and ruined her marriage, and i asked her if it was fun and exciting at least,,, and it wasnt,, she said all men are the same!, so dont bother,
you need to get him out of there,, even tell your hubby bout your feelings and your hubby will get him out real fast,,,
say it in a nice understanding way though, imagine it the other way round, what if a woman came in the picture, you wouldnt want him hitting on her either, goodluck, dont get weak, im here if u wanna email me, xxxxxxxxxxx love rockmum
2007-11-05 17:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by ROCKMUM LOVES BOWIE 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with a fantasy - maybe use the 28 year old is reminds you of someown or even younger days (keep in mind I am older than you). Questions you should ask yourself:
1. Do you really love your husband?
2. Do you really think your marriage is "perfect"?
3. Is there anything you would like to change ?
4. Why does it matter if the house guest felt the same?
Why is the house guest at your home? Maybe the guest should find somewhere else to go.
Good Luck
2007-11-06 00:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by longhairguypa2003 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Oh my! It's a test...temptation at it's best...and SOUNDS LIKE you're about to give in!
Don't do it! You will regret it and more than anything it is the just the mind game of something young, fresh and new. But, when the novelty wears off, along with the excitement, you will feel like a hot mess and will have betrayed your husband and children in the process.
I'm glad you posted this, cause I now see why my husband has ALWAYS said another man couldn't live in his house, not even his own brother!
2007-11-06 01:00:44 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Albritton 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Out some distance between you and him. Try as best as you can not to be alone with him AT ALL. There will always be a suave guy, or rich guy or some man who strikes you one way or the other- when you think of those men, imagine the swedish bikini team offering to be your husband's slaves. You'd want him to say no thank you right? It's normal to be attracted to other people- it how you react that makes a difference.
2007-11-06 00:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
There is alot of scientific evidence to support the fact that men experience their sex drives early and women experience them later. So a younger male and an older female would probably be very attracted to each other in a close situation. I wouldnt give myself grief over it, but I would stop to appreciate the reality. If you have a family and a husband, you're done, you're set on your course in life. Finding another person attractive in a sexual sense is not something you want to break up your famiy for. And I'm assuming you are a normal woman who loves her children, so would you want to lose them? I don't think so. Just take a step back, and if this young man is too intoxicating then make him leave. Remember who you are, what you have, and keep it.
2007-11-06 00:49:48 · answer #5 · answered by mastermindme 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
If you value you your marriage this may be the time for the house guest to leave. There is nothing wrong with a crush when you are married but it seems to me that you are thinking about crossing the line or you wouldn't be asking for help on this list.
2007-11-06 00:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by lvthebeach 2 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Just think of him as your younger brother.
If you think of having sex with him, you might as well give way to the temptation and this will ruin your marriage, destroy your husbands heart, damage your kids' lives and could turn them into virtual orphans.
Sinful thoughts have come to your mind, just make sure it does not translate into sinful actions.
Good luck and may God give you strength!
2007-11-06 00:54:09 · answer #7 · answered by Protik Maitra 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your probably just kinda bored with your marriage. If you do make an advance on him you'll lose the respect of your children and you don't want that.
I love my husband but things get kinda stale every so often so when we're "in bed", I pretend he's someone else to spice it up.
2007-11-06 00:45:16 · answer #8 · answered by Crocodile Dundee 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
its normal to become attracted to someone but if you don't want it to go any further you need to change the situation and fast you never said why you have a young male house guest but its obviously not working you are headed down the path of destruction and its like being on a slide it goes quick and you can't stop.
2007-11-06 00:47:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
at the same time you claim that you have a perfect marriage and want to have a relationship with a young house guest. adultry is a ultimate sin. so you get to choose. either you 'accidently' walk in on hm naked or keep your mariage vows.
2007-11-06 00:50:43 · answer #10 · answered by thesongfairy 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋