2007-11-05 16:08:12 · 18 answers · asked by ike_humphries 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you LOVE her? IF the answer YES then there are thousand way to settle ur problem. In marriage communication really important so you have to communicate with her and try to understand what is ur wife problem. You mention about differences between you and ur wife every couple have the same problems but what important is we have to GIVE and TAKE. Nobody is perfect so you and ur wife need to eccept each other and try to improve it for a better relationship. If the problem cause by you then try ur best to correct it but if its ur wife fault you have to forgive her and try to change her. The power is in ur hand. To divorce or not is in ur hand too. So you the one who need to make the right decision for ur own sake and happiness. If you think you can't handle it alone try to ask help from ur family or marrige counsellor. I believe that if ur love is strong every obstacle won't ruin ur marriages. But if the answer for my question earlier is NO then just let her go and built back ur life.....All the best in ur future and remember that as a HUSBAND it is ur call to guide ur marriges to heaven or hell so be WISE...
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2007-11-05 16:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by fz7481 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure that there is any true answer. One thing I have learned from this issue(which I am living today). If I would have listened when she wanted the seperation and given her more space instead of fighting the issue I would have been in a much better situation than I am today, which is rather loveless.
Address her desire for some space and use the time to strenghten yourself as a person. Show her nothing but pure respect and kindness. Don't fight it, but in return ask her for some commitment to reconcile. This isnt a race to cure every issue.
Maybe someone can give me some advice too.
Good Luck
2007-11-06 00:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also wanted a temporary separation from my husband to work out our differences. He of course would not agree and I stayed in the marriage for as long as I could and then filed for divorce. I was hopeful that he would have at least made some effort to work things out but hasn't and now we are going to get divorced. It was really the last thing I wanted, but was tired of living the way we were and he saw nothing wrong with it. Just separate and see if somehow you can work through it.
Good Luck
2007-11-06 00:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by bobcatlady2u 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is really important to identify those differences and look for where the train went off the track. Was this a gradual change or did it happen overnight? It is OK to have "differences"..we are all not the same, nor do we have to be. More details would be helpful here however...I'd suggest the separation and see what happens. Life does NOT END with divorce.
2007-11-06 00:17:55 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when the time comes that a woman says it's over - it's over - usually... however, women have been known to be able to fall back in love with someone
have you tried marriage counseling? if she is willing to work it out and try counseling, then I would say it's not totally over...if she is willing to separate or go to counseling then I think you might have a chance because if she doesn't care anymore the answer will just be plain no I want a divorce and no counseling
2007-11-06 00:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by beast 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We need some more info here. What differences do you have? Are you both willing to sit down and do some counseling? Tell her I (I mean kttphoenix) suggested she and you do a short term separation, maybe a week or two, to give you time to catch your breath, get into soem counseling and sort the whole thing out.
2007-11-06 00:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and put everything out on the table...and talk about it all and maybe you can resolve your marriage before it comes to divorce...But ...You both have to listen to what is being said and if there is something that you need to do then do it and the same for her......Also TRUST is very important , without TRUST you don't have anything
2007-11-06 00:29:07 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to her about getting some marriage counseling before she decides to go through with the divorce,if she still feels like she wants to seperate honor her wishes and go along with it.
2007-11-06 00:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by demonfirelife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is hard to stay married to someone that doesn't want to be married. If you can't agree to get marriage counseling or try to work things out and she has made her mind up she wants to end the marriage there is not much you can do but end it and move on with your life.
2007-11-06 00:13:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's between the 2 of U's.
Think about it and maybe talk about.
If there is love still maybe just need time for each other space to think.
Love will prevell
2007-11-06 07:26:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋