MY LIFE JUST CRASHED!!! I have 14 YEARS OF WORK experience, but I may need welfare, WHAT DO I DO?

Question

My dad died, my car got stripped, I had a miscarriage,
now the owner of the home I have lived in wants to sell...where would one go for help? At the same time I have been soooo wholesome and good that I just don't see how I went wrong...Please advise if you know where I can turn!!!! My baby boy and I need help...

Answer 1

http://www.govbenefits.gov/govbenefits_en.portal

http://www.fns.usda.gov/fns/

http://www.ssa.gov/top10.html

http://www.hhs.gov/grantsnet/

http://www.govspot.com/

Answer 2

First of all, take a deep breath and calm down a little. This is a bad spot, but you've got plenty going for you yet.

Most important, do not panic. Take things calmly, and work out a plan of action. Make a list of agencies and organisations to contact, and a 'to do' list for yourself, then do the things on the list one by one.

If you panic and start selling your stuff you will raise maybe a few thousand dollars, not even enough for three months' rent, and you will have no stuff!

You will be much more employable with decent work clothes and a computer than you would be without those things. Imagine finding a good job and not being able to accept it because you don't have the clothes to wear to do the job!

Please do NOT wait until you have nothing before seeking help. While you still have some resources, you are in a MUCH better position to seek work and find the support you need for yourself and your child.

If you have some extra things you can sell and buy a cheap car for transport to and from work, do that, but do not strip yourself of everything for short term needs, it is a false economy!

Contact the government links provided above, and find out what government services are available to you. You can do this by email and save yourself the cost of a telephone call (see, the computer is already working for you!).

Governement 'safety net' services are there to help people such as yourself, who are usually givers, not takers, but have hit a rough patch and need some breathing space while they get back on their feet.

With the taxes you pay from the next job you get, you will more than repay anything the government gives you, so do not hesitate, contact the appropriate services today.

Also speak with your landlord and find out how much time you have left in the house ~ can you stay until it is sold, or have you been given a set time to vacate?

You NEED somewhere safe to sleep for you and your child, and to be able to wash yourself and your clothes, and secure your possessions. BUT, it does NOT have to be anywhere great. It's temptoing to take the cheapest place you can get, but if you have a little time you can be a little more choosy, and get a bargain instead of just a bed.

Also, I have put one additional link below, to a service which helps people who are grieving by providing someone to talk to who knows what you are talking about.

Parents are so often the ones we turn to for help and support, it must be overwhelming to be facing the loss of your father and a miscarriage, as well as the financial difficulties you have run into. This service also offers support for kids.

It's also important to remember that this is a temporary situation ~ don't make permanent arrangements around being poor and out of luck, always treat it as something that you will be finished with soon ... attitude really does make a difference, especially as your child will be looking to you for emotional support.

Take care and very best wishes :-)

Answer 3

Contact the child welfare services in your area or state. They will make sure you know what services are availible to you and your child. You should always seek out the help of your family and friends first and then your church.Most churches have support groups and services set up to help anyone in situations such as your self. It sounds like you not only need financial assistance but can probably benefit from some spiritual help as well. Things are never as bad as we perceive them. Think about struggles you have had in the past and you will realize they were not as bad as they seemed at the time and you somehow got through them. This time is no different and you will get through it and be in a better place in no time at all. Good luck

Answer 4

You do not need any help . Just pull yourself up by your boot straps and face the facts life is not fair or easy for anyone .

Start by selling everything you own < clothes , furniture , ect of any value for any price . You need money badly at this point . The car has a salvage yard value of more then 100 dollars usually . Watches , jewelry , toys and anything you have worth more then a dollar sell for whatever anyone will offer . In no time at all you will be out on the street without money ..

If you still have a job make sure you keep it no matter what if not you need one now . This means any job you can get . Start knocking on doors and calling people and offering to scrub toilets for $2.00 . No matter what it takes you do it . No one in this world does anything for free and as a woman you have something that men will pay for if it comes down to it .

I have heard plenty of women say all I want is to get married and have babies and take care of a home . Those women are no different then the woman who takes care of 10 men a week to pay her bills and charges them 50 dollars .

Since no doubt you will be selling the computer you can cancel your network service now . Start looking for a place to stay right now .

The other alternative is to check into a womans homeless shelter , those are listed in the phone book .

Get cracking because wasted time is irretrievable and time is money .

Answer 5

Relax. Breathe in. Breathe out. Everybody goes through tough times. It will pass.

Amidst the sarcastic posts here there are some tips for options. Depend on family, friends, social organizations and church outreach, government programs, creative thinking and imagination. Grieve your father's passing, remember him fondly and in time you'll move on. Got car insurance? Did you file a police report? You'll recover from the miscarriage. It's a crappy real estate market, so unless he's giving the house away your landlord won't be giving you the boot soon. Gather your resources, make a plan, adapt it as your situation changes, move ahead one day at a time, one hour at a time if necessary.

Answer 6

First up take a deep breathe. Second ignore any morons either here or any where who give you sarcastic answers.

I am sorry to hear about your father and your lose of a child if your Mother is still alive or you have brothers or sisters perhaps that is a place to start. While their are government agency to help the best place to begin is always family and friends. While it can be heart breaking and embarrassing to ask them for help, you will be surprised how quickly they will run to your aide on many occasions.

If there is no family to turn to then, deal with government agencies. If you are unemployed because you have lost your job, then there is the possibility of unemployment insurance, if you are unemployed for other reasons there are job corps and other agencies to help you find work.

Public Assistance is also an option especially if you have a small child at home. They will also help you with your housing situation, just because your landlord is selling his house does not mean that either he or the new owner can just put you and your child out on the street.

Good luck, know that I am and others will keep you in our prayers

Answer 7

Might as well use the little bit of resources provided by the government, while they are there. Contact your local Health and Human Resources. A case manager will be able to assist with an assistance you need.

Answer 8

Another job/jobs...family members, besided your Dad...what happened to your years of work?? Funny, I thought I saw you walking the streets today with head down...was that you? Turn to Social Services, welfare system...although, you'll have to pay the money back when you get back on your feet. Seems fair.

Answer 9

There used to be an OLD TV show on in the '50's & '60's called, "Queen for a Day." These different ladies would "compete" for prizes by telling their own "sob stories" and the one found to be the "sorriest" (for lack of a better term) would win. They would haul out this long, flowing velvet, fur-edged cape, place a sparkly tiara on her head, a sash across her chest, and give her a scepter, and then rain upon her the prizes which would hopefully ease her woes.

Well.. congratulations... YOU have been chosen QUEEN FOR A DAY!!!!!!!!!

(and I can't think what this all has to do with politics anyhow.)


Have a right-wing day.

Answer 10

Catholic Charities. They help anyone regardless of religion.

http://www.catholiccharitiesusa.org/NetCommunity/Page.aspx?srcid=-2

Also, you can pretty much walk into any goodsized church, regardless of religion, and ask to talk to the pastor or a deacon. Just say you need help. Often churches have local ministries just to help out the members of their community. It's worth a try.

Answer 11

If you need government support, get it for you and your son, then start looking at how you can move _OFF_ of it.

The programs are there to help people in your situation. Just remember its not supposed to be permenant!