My cousin has missed two years of school. He just starts a semester by attending for a few days, and then he stops without telling his parents. Now he's a total bum, and he just watches TV all day. It bugs me so much seeing him wasting his time away.
2007-11-05 15:52:09 · 20 answers · asked by streetwalker 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I think you should tell him that life as a student happens only once in a lifetime. You will never enjoy your school life anymore after graduation, even if you later become a school teacher.
There are also a lot more things that he should learn in order to survive in the future. This is because his life cannot be sitting down at home and watch TV everyday for the rest of his life. Someday eventually, he still needs to go out and work. This is all what life is about!!
Just explain to him. He may not feel that how good is school life now, but when he grows up, he will definitely miss it. Dont't waste such precious opportunity, coz there's no turning back!!
If he has difficulties in studies and can't catch up with his classmates, sign him up for tuition classes or you become his tutor. By doing this, I think there shouldn't be any problems on making him to go to school, and you just need some patience.
2007-11-05 21:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by LKM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only lead a horse to water, you can`t make him drink.
Why do his parents let him do this. They have to know what is going on. School had to have called or sent letters.
They probably have given up on him ever finishing high school.
Probably is about 10 years, he will be sorry
he acted so foolishly. He will probably blame it on his parents for not forcing him to attend school.
They should tell him to either graduate or get out. Tough love may be what he needs.
You should make sure you take advantage of the educational system. Get good grades and go to college. You may have to support your cousin later on in life.
2007-11-06 00:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by Blessed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant force him to go to school. If you do all that stuff he probably will go for the first few days and then end up the way he was. Oh and if his parents dont cara about what he is doing then why should you. Let the parents deal with this problem
2007-11-06 17:33:36 · answer #3 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. But I strongly suggest you tell his parents as soon as you find out he is skipping school. I know people who wagged everyday and now their parents ring the school everyday to make sure their children are attending classes and any time they are missing their parents are notified.
I think his parents need to be straight with him though. If he doesn't want to go to school then he needs to go and get a full time job.
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2007-11-06 00:14:03 · answer #4 · answered by ★☆✿❀ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
force?- you cant!
If he doesn't understand why, you can make him understand it by force.
It is a common thought that teens must finish school in order to succeed in life, it is not true, sometimes leaving school is the best thing that happened to them. ( and I'm a teacher).
Let him be!
This is his journey!
keep telling him that you're there if he needs help.
keep telling him to take time to think about what he wants to do in life.
Keep telling him you love him and care for him.
don't' force him , it is like a rubber band, if you both hold it and you pull the rubber band towards you, there is more tension, with more tension, he won't do better but only worst.
Ronit
http://www.behappyinlife.com/be_special_be_yourself_for_teenagers.php
2007-11-06 01:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can not force a child to go to school, once they are over the age of 16. You probably aren't in the position to do anything about his lifestyle either. it is up to your aunt and/or uncle to do something about it, and frankly, being in your cousin's shoes at one time, the only thing you can do, is to force the real world onto him. kick him out. don't support him anymore. it's not their/your job to make sure he's got food and clothes, electricity, heat or a t.v., when he's not doing his 'job', meaning going to school. if he want's to drop out so badly, then he should get his GED and get a job and his own place. That's how i learned, and i'm better for it today. ;)
Good luck, and i'm sorry you have to be put in that position.
2007-11-06 00:00:02 · answer #6 · answered by Silver Thunderbird 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go upside his head if that doesn't work get close to him and start saying nice things to him and just when he's feeling comforted break out the belt and start beating the living sh!t out of him until he says he'll go to school.
2007-11-06 00:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by JOhNe=mc² 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His parents need to put him out the house. You should tell them what he does. Its also called BAD PARENTING.
2007-11-06 00:51:01 · answer #8 · answered by Bones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really do anything if he dosen't want to help himself and legally he doesn't have to go to school. One of my family members is the same and he is lazy and effortless.
2007-11-05 23:58:13 · answer #9 · answered by Fabuloso 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kick him out if he doesn't either get a job or go back to school . Why should you support him then?
2007-11-05 23:56:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋