I have this problem: I have this friend (Seiji),who was one of my only friends in the beggining of sixth grade, since I wasn't a big social magnet. We've had sleepovers, hang outs, and lots of friendship stuff... Now, In 7th grade. He's calling me a stalker because we ended up in the same class and my locker's right next to mine. I had no choice for my class and locker. He'd start bullying me, and when I try to talk to him, he wont talk to me coz he doesnt talk to "Fat A$$e$". I feel really hurt about this. I try to say sorry about what ever I did. HE NEVER FORGIVES ME. I need help. I really want to be his friend again.
2007-11-05 15:46:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
as you probably know, this isn't easy to solve. im ur age, so i know the whole "ignore it" thing doesnt really work. just chill. this dude has issues. i know u guys were friends and all, but he's just gonna keep torturing you. this hapened to me, and i dont know if its different with girls, but i just didnt talk to her. she pokes a jab at me, i ignore it or say "*gasp* thanks for noticing" , "thats the nicest thing anyones ever told me" or, my favorite, "wow. that REALLY hurts [and/or wounded me]"
all i can say other than that, is good luck *crosses fingers for good luck*
2007-11-05 15:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all no ones should ever talk to you like that! You said sorry and you obviously are unable to change his mind. When he speaks to you like this again out loud - speak back just as loudly and tell him to buzz off and speak to someone as cultured as he thinks he is. Go to your school councellor and talk things through. You could ask if you could move your lockers away from each other or he moves his. Could you not change classrooms? If he is not acknowledging you in the classroom setting then stay there, but make sure the teacher knows what abuse you are getting from this kid. You do not want to be placed in groups with him in it. You do not want to be a friend to someone who even consider treating you like crap. Move on and there are others who will treat you with respect and kindess. He doesn't deserve to be your friend. Do not accept his friendship unless he apologises. If he doesn't apologize then he will never treat you with the respect with the years that go by. Are you sure you want his friendship? Think hard of your choice.
2007-11-05 15:57:57 · answer #2 · answered by Izzy h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for what your going through I am acutally going through the same. I am female 15 years old in 10th grade and i was a troubled kid and i went to a group home for 45 days and i came back home and i called her and she wouldn't answer and at school she would always call me fat a*s. I did not do anything to her. But if it becomes a problem a big one go talk to the principle of the school and tell him the problem cause its not nice to call people mean names liek that well anyway good luck
2007-11-05 16:30:05 · answer #3 · answered by Brittany J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to forget about this guy he is not your friend,if he was he would not treat this way or would be so cruel to you.Ignore him and put yourself out there and try making new friends.The next time he tries to put you down,look at him straight in the eye roll your eyes and walk off in another direction.Nobody deserves to be treated badly and it seems like to me you were nothing but a friend to this kid.But to be on the safe side i would take self defense classes to protect myself or tell your teacher what he has been saying and doing to you.He is obviously doing this to be popular with another group or friends and to be popular he has to pick on you.You are way better of not being this kids friend.
2007-11-05 15:56:36 · answer #4 · answered by demonfirelife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude one thing you gotta know.
The freak in this situation is him.
You dont need a friend like him screw him.
And as for the bullying part, only one way to stop a bully.
Either bully back stronger and harder or give him a big a s s whooping.
Trust me bro you dont need him.
Hell i guarantee you that where i come from, we dont put up with "bullys"
So you shouldnt either.
2007-11-05 15:53:25 · answer #5 · answered by O00-ACE-00O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would forget about him because he is making things more difficult. Forcing him to be friends with you will only makes things worse. If you really want to be his friend again, I suggest not talking to him or ignoring him for a couple of days, and see if he apologizes
2007-11-05 16:01:27 · answer #6 · answered by Faderal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look you dint need friends like that on your life trust me he its not you friend and about stalker may bye he its gay and that its playing games on hes head you need some friend to be there for you not to use you like hes puppet you deserve good friends I'm not very big guy but I'm a guy that know how to figth but that don't give me any reason to bull anybody trust me I have fell some times to bit the **** out of couple of people but i have t control myself cos i don't khow when to stop but people like that its not healthy on your growing up can get you on trouble usually that type of guys think with the *** not with the head good luck with other real friends
2007-11-05 16:30:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all hun, why would u want to be someones friend if they hurt u? Ive been in a place like this in my life too...I fixed it wit that person things was going great till something happend....this person treated me worse....the only reason they hurt u is bc they know u will let them...if u dont pay any mind to them it kills them bc they thrive off of seeing you hurt...what u need to do is let the person go if he says something to u...keep walking pay them no mind...untill they talk nice to u...then be nice in return...if they see(ur acting) dont care about what they say and do...they will stop bc they know its no longer hurting u...take my advise....its better this way....trying it the other way only leaves u hurt that much more...
I hoped Ive helped
Much love!
2007-11-05 15:54:23 · answer #8 · answered by fufu16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget him you dont need a friend like that ignore him and he will come to thing like that happend last year when i was in 7th grade to. just dont talk to him for a cupple of weeks see what happends from there if u need any more email me or im i u just wanna talk
2007-11-05 15:51:52 · answer #9 · answered by Sienna<3 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
may just cut him out of your life entirely until he stops treating you like garbage, but if you HAVE to see him, like at school, play head games, like treating his jabs as compliments, once he sees that you're not going to break down to the immaturity he's sowing, he'll most likely stop saying them
2016-07-11 13:49:51 · answer #10 · answered by Wolfram 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋