Why are Purity Balls considered "controversial"?

Question

It doesn't make sense to me.

Answer 1

can you give a link to a website showing what you're talking about? I'd love to answer, but i'm not exactly sure what you're talking about. ;) Will check in again soon. ;)

Good luck!!

Edit:

Okay, looked it up. I'm not sure why that would be considered controvercial,,, but i wouldn't have liked it.

I kept my virginity until i was almost 19, and lost it to the man i love, whom i'm still with to this day. we're on 7 years now. We are also not married. We also don't plan to any time soon... and we're both christian. Not that it's a bad thing, i just know that i wouldn't have 'pleged' something like that to my father, simply becuase I was aware at a very young age that my life was my life. I was also aware that i wasn't going to sleep around as a woman either. The plege to save yourself should be between you and yourself. Not something you promise your parents, or a friend or a brother or some guy you don't even know... it's a very personal private thing. But hey... if it's right for you, it's right for you. Nothing that someone else should'nt do... or anything that someone should tell you you shouldn't do....

did ya get that? not sure if i was very clear or not.. it's late here. ;)

Good luck!!!

Answer 2

--They show that the fathers have everyting to do with a daughter but that the mother does not.
--They let it be known that a father owns his daughter and then her husband does. this is very controlling and in every way wrong.
---They portray women as being weak and needing protection.
--They show that it matters that a woman stays a virgin but does not matter that a man stays a virgin until marriage. There are only Purity Balls for women, and no equivalent for men.
--They are basically very sexually oriented...there is something eerie about a man and his 7 yr old attending an exclusive dance and talking about sex in public all night. This is very obsessive behavior on the part of the man, it borders on unhealthy.
--They put pressure on kids to stay abstinent till marriage and promote ignorance toward safe sex. This is before a kid can even grasp the concept of "purity" or pledge to it.
--The high pressure of the event and the comittment sets kids up for failure.

I'd never let my kid attend one of these. They don't feel right...something is very "off" with them. George Bush is promoting them and spends hundreds of thousands of dollars a year to promote these almost 100% white only events.

Answer 3

I easily consider Gnu experience -- women could learn that they are valued for soooo many different motives than their sexuality! the assumption of a "purity ball" places an undesirable volume of emphasis on virginity as a "priceless treasure" or a "present." It makes the females experience that as quickly as they lose it, they lose a large degree of self-well worth, which isn't real in any respect and not the message they must hear from their fathers. And the reality that it comes from their fathers makes it particularly creepy...and degrading, dehumanizing...and so on. little ones are not a make certain's assets, and on a similar time as I understand and thoroughly consider wanting the wonderful on your newborn, you may in no way cause them to experience as though they seem to be a failure while they do no longer not sleep on your expectancies. it particularly is why i'm additionally appalled via the assumption of the mummy whose loss of life desire grew to become into that her daughter proceed to be a virgin till she grew to become into 18. i do no longer merchandise to the age or the sentiment at the back of it....yet think of of the strain! it particularly is controlling. And the purity balls for boys, the place they pledge their purity to their mom? Oh, they do no longer exist? guy, they may be so Oedipal. yet honest is honest - if the females could bear the creepy ceremony, why do no longer the boys? If that is advantageous for the adult males to have intercourse till now marriage....who're they having intercourse with? truthfully they are in a position to't all be gay. the full subject is virtually implementing damaging stereotypes approximately lady sexuality, the place adult males can pass off and have intercourse with whoever they want, yet in basic terms the virgins are in good condition to marry. Yuck.

Answer 4

I'm not sure if we are thinking
about the same thing.
Hang on, I'll go check.
Edit:
Good grief.
I never heard of these before
and am thankful that my late
hubby never knew about them,
I can almost hear all the
comments he would have had
about these silly THINGS.
Promising your dad that you'll
keep your virginity is by far one
of the most outlandish bunch
of crapola, I have ever heard
and trust ME,
in my 59 years...I've heard plenty.
If you trust your daughters you just do,
making them make a pact with dad
sounds like something
out of the Middle ages or worse.
I had to Google this,
you can't begin to imagine what I thought
a "Purity Ball" was,
I just figured they are calling"Ben-Wah" Balls,
something new.
SURPRISE...SURPRISE...SURPRISE...!

Answer 5

Because the kids usually never actually stay pure and is sort of forced by their parents. I saw statistics and like 80% or more still had pre-marital sex.

Answer 6

It's sick.
It never was, still isn't and never will be any of my father's business who I have sex with.

It seems almost incestuous to make a promise to your dad to stay "pure".

How many ways can you say CREEPY!

Answer 7

often closely associated with U.S. Christian churches, particularly evangelical Christian churches.

Answer 8

because they are b a l l s

Answer 9

eww idk wat that is but it sound sick