scared to let go?

Question

I'm married right now and not at all happy. We've had alot of problems over the years and tried everything to fix it. I can honestly say I don't wanna be with him and don't have anymore feeling for him and the sight of him angers me so much. I know logicly the best thing for me and my daughter is move on and start a new life with out him, but for some frustrateing reason I'm scaredto let go. And its not casue I love him or bla bla. Its becasue i'm scared to be alone. which really makes no sense cause i'm alone with him. he works out of town for 4 days straight every week and we don't even sleep in the same rooms now when he is home. so how can i stop makeing excuses about how hard everything is going to be and just hold m head up and leave

Answer 1

I know how u feel cuz I´ve felt the same thing too. I also have a daughter and I´ve felt too what u have but I keep telling myself and tell u that one day ur gonna find a man who is gonna value u for the person that u are and will love u with ur daughter too. Dont worry about being alone cuz u have ur family and probably have family members that support u. U obviously dont love him anymore and the sight of him angers u so there´s nothing left there but anger and why live like that? u are not happy with him. u will feel better not having him in your life anymore. becuz he doesnt make u happy, instead he makes u miserable so that means that u shoulnt be with him. u will be better off by urself with ur daughter and imaybe u will find someone who will treat u right and make u happy.

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Answer 2

I think that you are frightened of change. Starting again, not knowing where you're going to end up is scary. Are you sure you've tried all you can? If you have, I suspect that you know in your heart what you need to do next. Don't look at the whole picture, just do it step by step, one choice after another. For your daughters sake, i think shed much prefer having a mum that was settled, independant and happy, rather than a lonely, frustrated and growing increasingly bitter mum. Kids would rather BE from a broken home than to LIVE in one.... good luck with your choices

Answer 3

You have to do what is going to be best for you, but my guess is that you have been with him for so long that you are scared of the change and not leaving him. If just the sight of him makes you angry that is not a good sign you should just go ahead and leave after a while you will adjust to the new and you'll be able to be happy. I wish you the best.

Answer 4

It's normal to be frightened of the unknown and you are not certain what it will be like if you divorce him. I can tell you the financial part may be difficult but if you are lonely and miserable in your life, you will be far less stressed once he is out of your life. Your child is not able to learn what a family should be like from being in this situation. It's in no way a good marriage. Divorce him. You will learn as you go to handle situations that arise; you'll be proud of your independence; and you'll be able to eventually find someone who will love and treasure you.

Answer 5

You said it. It is the fear of change. I think we all neglect to realize that change is inevitable regardless of whether it is positive or negative. Looking back, I am sure there were obstacles in your life that you overcame. While I don't support divorce for reasons other than abuse or infidelity, I will say that you would eventually adapt to the change. You will pull through it. It might not be as easy as you hope it will be, but you will get through it. Just pack it up and go! From then on out, you have no one to blame for your decisions but yourself. Good luck in your decision and I hope that you find what you are looking for in life.

Answer 6

First off is you and your daughter won't get to start a new life without him. He'll be in your life for as long as you have his daughter. Make it a fast clean break when you go. Don't give him any false hope. It sounds like your mind is made up. Good Luck

Answer 7

the reason why you feel like that is where you are scared of not being able to make a living for you as well your child i am a man and i thought like that as well it.s called letting go i did back in .2001 and to start with it was hard but it got much better . in the end . my opion?

Answer 8

I can't imagine leaving my husband and starting all over on my own ..w/ my kids.Thankfully I am happily married but the thought of having to pick up w/ my children and start all over is terrifying. Jobs, childcare, ....it's all overwhelming!

Answer 9

have you tried counseling?