I've been with my boyfriend for 2 yrs and I want to get married. He always says "some day". I know he loves me and I know I love him I just don't want to wait forever. Help... please.
2007-11-05 14:45:55 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you push him into it, it won't work....take a break from each other....
2007-11-05 14:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that when a man is really ready for marriage and ready to assume all the responsibility that comes along with it, then he steps up to the plate and does it. The worse thing a female can is nag a guy about marriage or try to give him ultimatums on the matter.
Now we all have free will, and it's a person's choice (male or female) to stay in a relationship for years with a person that is not seemingly ready to say I do. BUT, take from someone who got married at 24 and had fantasies of being married long before @ the age of 17 or so...MARRIAGE is NOT for punk and punkettes, it is no joke and absolutely not a union to be rushed into. It is not the same as living together, dating etc.
Just be patient and know that what WILL BE...WILL BE. Whether it's with your current mate or someone else.
2007-11-05 14:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Albritton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know you or your boyfriend,
but a lot can happen over time and two years may seem like a lot but it really isn't that much compared to the rest of your life. Marriage is a serious thing and it will have its ups and downs and hard times that you have probably had in the past two years, but marriage changes a your whole life. It is a challenge and you will have to wait till the both of you are ready and be sure it is something you really want before you make such a commitment. You may be sure it is something you want but dealing with marriage it has to be something you both want and are ready for.
2007-11-05 14:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are so much different than girls. My boyfriend can sit and talk about getting married with me all the time, but when I want to look at rings or anything, he just laughs and says "not today." or something of the sort. Guys have to really KNOW its right to make the committment. Don't let it get to you too much. Don't push it either. I know I'd feel guilty if I was on his case and then he was like "allright, will you marry me??" it wouldn't be a surprise or mean anything special...he'd just be trying to make me shut up. =) Patience is the key.
2007-11-05 14:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by lilg058 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Annette:
This is REAL LIFE!
It is NOT a Hollyweird Dress Rehersal!
Get to know him for 2 more years~
AND/OR~
Wait until you are AT LEAST 25 years
or OLDER! Do NOT get pregnant until
you are around 30 +!
(OR have a 1/4 million dollars banked!)
Our brains are NOT Fully Developed
until we are over 25! You ~or him~
probably have NO clue what REAL
Life LOVE ~*Really is!
For a man?
There is NO Benefit to get married!
It's a chick thing!
If you push us?
YOU LOOZE!
Don't be so DESPERATE!
2007-11-05 14:58:19 · answer #5 · answered by LedHead 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's my best advice. (But all of the following depends on your age. If you are 20, you need to find some other focus in your life besides marriage.)
Your boyfriend is not in sync with your timetable. Clearly you are interested in marrying him now. He is not interested in marrying you now. You need to find someone who is in sync with you. Yes, I know you love him and he loves you, but that doesn't mean you will be happy waiting indefinitely (maybe for the rest of your life, who knows?) and it does not mean he would be happy getting married if he's not ready for that. So just tell him that you do love him but since you and he are not at the same stage of life, you need to date other people. You can tell him that you still love him and if he should happen to move into the same life stage that you are in, before you find your husband, then perhaps you could see each other again and find out if you are ready to marry each other. And if that doesn't happen, you hope he will find someone who will be happy with him at the stage he is in. Do it.
Many women have been in the place you are in now. It's not a happy place to be, so be honest with yourself. You cannot predict that he will be more in sync with you in the future. What if you marry and want to have children and he says "someday" until you are too old. You and your marriage partner really need to be in sync.
2007-11-05 14:56:39 · answer #6 · answered by treebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he doesnt wanna get married yet? is it becuz of his family? financially? wants to finish his education? does he wanna get married over a certain age? ect. Yeah 2 yrs is a long time to wait plus he´s trying to making u wait even longer. Find out why he thinks like that and then see how can u can change things. but is u are under 20 then I´d suggest u wait more time to get to know him and have a stronger relationship with him and marry until ur more mature.
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2007-11-05 14:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him and ask him why he wants to wait there is a very good possibility that he has a good reason for holding off a little longer, plus if you both are in love what's the rush. Just what ever you do don't put to much presser on him or you'll end up losing him.
2007-11-05 14:50:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just doesn't want to get married and he doesn't want to say so. He could be afraid of the commitment or just not see the need for marriage at all.
Ask him what would need to be different for him to marry you. That way you'll know when "some day" is or if it's ever coming at all.
2007-11-05 14:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by EZSum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was w/ mine 4.5 years before we got engaged and we were married 6 years from the day we met. and you know what he said to me a couple months later...why didn't we do this sooner???? If you love someone you want to start a lfe w/ them...time flies...we are still together ...married 8 years now.....couldn't be happier.
2007-11-05 14:53:56 · answer #10 · answered by Chestersmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CHILL OUT!..
It will happen when it is supposed to happen.. Wouldn't you rather him ask you when he is sure and wants to, instead of you naggin about it. I think that just makes it harder for them to ask.. Leave it alone. Let him do it when HE is ready.. wont that make it more special, and then you know that he for sure is asking to get married because he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.. not just because he wants you to stop asking..
I bet if you stop.. he will be more serious about it within 6 months!.. promise!
good luck!..
2007-11-05 14:51:28 · answer #11 · answered by angelalee76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋