my wife and i are going to get a divorce how do i get co-custody of our children?

Answer 1

ike_humphries

The most important thing you can do right now is to not allow your wife to get any kind of custody other than shared custody. Equal time with both parents. Do whatever you have to do to get that shared custody. If your wife is bitter and is making unreasonable demands, agree to them with the stipulation of shared custody. Things can be replaced, Children can not. They are unique.

If you are bitter and making unreasonable demands, don't. The children are the most important thing of all. Nothing else matters. You must do everything in your power to stabalize the situation for their sake. Stop seeing other women. Stop clubbing. Stop doing all the things that you did when you were emotionally young. Grow up, Step up and Do the right thing for them.

I would always urge you to work things out with your wife. Many women find a father that has a special interest in the children to be attractive. This may rekindle the flame. Divorce is never the answer when children are involved.

Here are some links that will help you get into the right mind set. I hope that your wife will join you in learning what you can do to best care for your children in this time of great need in all of your lives.

God Bless

Frank Pytel

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Answer 2

Most states want parents to share custody of children for the best benefit of the children. Unless there is abuse or severe neglect, it is up to the two of you to determine and make a commitment to do what is BEST for YOUR KIDS, not what is good for your egos. Divorce is a very painful process and it may be tempting to use your kids to get back at each other. PLEASE DO NOT DO THIS...this is very detrimental to the kids development!!!!!!!!!! As painful as divorce is, the kids need to be the first consideration for both of you. If you dont agree on what is best for the kids, the court will dictate who and where the kids will live. It is no longer true that the kids automatically go to the Mom in many states.
The bottom line is this: you and your wife must decide what is best for the kids. You two need to talk about this and come up with a plan that causes the least amount of upset for the kids. For example, depending on how old they are, it may be best for them to remain in the same school. When a divorce occurs, the children lose a sense of security. Moving them into another school contributes to their sense of loss so if you can avoid moving them, DONT. Understand that when parents get divorced, kids feel they are responsible.....do EVERYTHING you can to help them know they are not to blame!!!!!!!!!!!! If you have been a "good father" to your kids...ie: have been a provider of emotional, financial, spiritual nourishment for the kids, then by all means, they need your continued support. If you have been a deadbeat, get your life together so you can be there for them NOW and know it will take time for them to trust you. Same is true for Mom.

Answer 3

Hi

You are gonna have to get a lawyer and go to court in order to get co-custody. Try posting this question in the Law and Ethics Section so you can get better answers. It's located under the Politics and Government category. I wish you the best of luck with your situation.

Answer 4

Get a lawyer and file with your county friend of the court. It can take a while for everything to be said and done and they do go back from the you split for support-it can add up.

Answer 5

if both are good parents..its not a matter of fighting for it..the courts will make sure custody if 50/50

Answer 6

That is a legal question to be made to somebody who knows the law.

Answer 7

you have to prove her unfit to raise the children . and joint cousity. my opon?