omg! my bff is so annoying. she does her hair for like 5 hrs. I don't want her to fell as if no one notices her, so I go "I like ur hairstyle..." She goes, "Oh, this thing... Pshh... It only took me a minute or two..." Then she goes, "Hey do I look pretty?" I'm like "Huh?" And she goes, "I look so ugly!" As her friend I go, "No... ur pretty..." Then she smiles and goes, "oh, I know!"
she is so vain. how do i get her to shut up?!?
2007-11-05 14:26:58 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You basically just described my best friend...
So here's how to deal with it,
If she asks you if she looks pretty, she's obviously fishing for a compliment. Don't give it to her. Simply say, "Yeah, I guess..." and then switch the subject to something about you. As in, "Hey, do you think I'd look okay with my hair up?"
This way, the attention is off her, and she will shut up about how she is "pretty".
Also, just telling her that she is vain pretty much works too.
2007-11-05 14:31:56 · answer #1 · answered by woahman! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in your situation and I know how you feel. You feel like this girl won't shut up and you are getting so annoyed at how much she talks about herself? This is what I did. First I got my other best friend and together we confronted the "miss perfect" friend. Our "vain" friend admitted that she noticed she does talk about herself alot, and we both told her that it's getting very annoying and that we don't understand why she has to be so conceited. We begged her to quit and stop talking about herself and finally she agreed. I must admit though, once someone is vain, it's hard to get them to completely stop talking about themselves. Confront her though, and tell her your feelings. If she is a bff then she will change her ways. But be completely honest to her. If you don't confront her and tell her what she is doing, then she will never change! Hurry, tell her the truth and beg her to stop!!
Hope this helps!!! :)
2007-11-05 14:44:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm... it doesn't sound like you have much patience with your "BFF." Maybe you should not worry about how vain she is and work on how nice you can and should be. Treat others as you would want to be treated. What if your friend read this right now; how do you think she would feel if she saw you wrote that instead of talked to her about it? AND there is more to life that worrying about your friend taking "forever to do her hair !"
2007-11-05 14:34:33 · answer #3 · answered by Colleen D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe the best thing to do is try complimenting something else good about her. like oh i like your outfit, or to get completly off the topic of looks, wow the paper u wrote was pretty good. just something so that she might not focus all her attention on her looks, even if its just when she's around you that she wont worry about it. part of her is most likely insecure so she looks to u, her best friend, b/c she knows that you wont tell her she looks bad or anything like that. but if you focus more on less-superficial things, then maybe she'll stop fishing for compliments around you. that's just an idea. hope it helps!
2007-11-05 14:32:06 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like one of my EX best friend. Most of the the those people don't stay around very long because they are too self centered and selfish. But if ya are really best friend. You should try talking to her about it and if she really does care she would try to change at least a little for you.
2007-11-05 14:31:45 · answer #5 · answered by Livelife5002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you ask me, this girl needs a serious kick in the pants. dont lie to her. if you think her hair looks like $hit, then tell her. maybe itll get her head out of her a$$ a little. maybe you also need to sit down with her and say"this is not what i want in a best friend. u used to be so different,what happened? why are you so full of yourself?" dont be mean but be firm and let her know that you dont think its "cool" to act this way. shell either stop acting like a paris hilton clone or shell quit talking to you(and if she does,screw her. who wants a friend like that, anyway? not me!) good luck hun.
2007-11-05 14:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by babyblooz88 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think shes vain at all..In fact I think shes insecure, constantly looking for compliments to reassure herself, then she doesnt know how to respond when she does get a compliment.
You don't have to dump her, just switch the subject when she's annoying you.
2007-11-05 14:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by Beth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She craves attention. When you tell her that she looks good, you're giving her a reaction. As long as she keeps getting the reaction she wants to hear, she won't stop. I'm not telling you to call her ugly or anything like that, but if you stop giving her a reaction, she'll stop.
2007-11-05 14:31:19 · answer #8 · answered by Buggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know her like this, dont try to change her... love her for who she is!!! Best friends can tell each other everything, tell her that she annoys you when she does that! Clearly, she has a low self esteem.... talk to her... she'll be mad, 3 days - tops!!
2007-11-05 14:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by MEGAN*** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she suffers from low self esteem. The point to these comments such as, "I'm so ugly" are said so that you'll reassure her and tell her that she's not.
Talk to her about her esteem and go from there.
2007-11-05 14:31:14 · answer #10 · answered by iwuvrockandroll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋