I have written a piece for publication about Friendship, Unrequited Love and Bereavement Grateful for ideas.?

Question

I would very much appreciate any thoughts and ideas and criticisms on the short piece I have written about love and death and friendship which will be published soon.
Here is the link to the short piece of writing:
http://meanderingtrevor.blogspot.com/2007/08/this-is-love-kiddo.html

Answer 1

I read your piece. And am sitting here trying to think of what to say, that would have any real meaning for you.

To lose someone you loved so deeply, is really tragic. This has never happened to me, because I've never loved anyone so deeply as you have.

You write quite well let me say, before I go on and forget to mention it.

Pain, especially emotional pain, is something that we all want to get away from if possible, and try to prevent its occurrance in the future.

But if we put up barriers in such a way, we run the risk of missing out on something that could be even more beautiful than the thing we lost and caused so much pain in the first place.

You lost your loved one to the grim reaper rather than to a competitor, but nevertheless it was a loss for you.

It's very human for you to gear yourself so as not to be placed in harms way so to speak; but life has away of getting around self constructed walls, as you are now experiencing.

The experiences of "coincidences" you've described are really weird, I agree. But that you can continue any kind of a relationship with this person that has come into your life, I personally don't think is a wise course of action for you. And as painful as it may be, I think you should back off now while you still can. You would only be opening the door to a potential relationship, that could only end in disappointment and pain for some one: either his present lover, or you, probably you.

The most important thing to learn from all this, is that you've come to realize that you are still capable of caring for someone in a most deepfully, meaningful way.

That's what I hope you will take away from the experience. That you are still capable of loving deeply, but to try to be "just friends" with him would only lead to more pain.

Sorry,

Wotan

Answer 2

you made me smile, you made me feel sorrow, you made me remember the bad experiences, and the good experiences, that I've had with love.
you made me feel like I wasn't the only one.
good job.
i like it.