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I just got back from my school. Today I was away, and my friend told me that the band rehearsal was at 7:00 or 7:15. I didn't want to go because I was too scared and nervous, but my mum made me go. It was my first time. I showed up at around 7:00 and my mom insisted that she'd come in with me, so she did. When we went in the music room no one was there so my mom was asking all of the janitors if there was a band practice and I was really embarrassed and paranoid that everyone from the band could here me and they were all laughing and me because I couldn't find my way around. I was so embarrassed that I almost started crying and told me mom to take me home because I thought that everyone could here me and they were all laughing at me.
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2007-11-05 11:44:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science Psychology

So well eventually the janitors told us that there WAS group getting together in the drama room, which is right beside the band room, and I was so scared that they heard me and my mom talking and they are all making fun of me and laughing! All of this discouraged me to leave and go home. Now I'm TERRIFIED to go to school tomorrow and I think that everyone is going to be talking about me and laughing and I don't know what to tell me teacher because he told me to come and I said I would.

2007-11-05 11:44:37 · update #1

and my moms IS REALLY MAD that I didn't go and she said that I was acting weird. Please give advice!!!

2007-11-05 11:45:14 · update #2

16 answers

Don't worry about this, the thought that they would be listening to you is not very credible. They would be intent on the activity in that room I wish I could look you in the eyes and try to get you to realize that no one was listening, the door was shut and you don't have a thing to fear. You are a sensitive young woman and you are too critical yourself.You are a beautiful young woman you are very smart and you will do an incredible job tomorrow. I can tell by the way you write that you are extremely intelligent, and you will take good advice and you will be fine tomorrow. go to bed at your normal time and you can rest assured that you have nothing to fear, If you were just being silly I would know , you are not being silly and i think you will be fine

2007-11-05 12:20:45 · answer #1 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0 0

Paranoia? No, I don't think so. I do think you over-reacted though. Your Mom did the right thing by taking you there and comforting you. I think if anybody had heard you and your Mom and started laughing that you would have heard them. Besdes, I doubt that happened. It sounds like you're shy. I can relate to that. So was I when I was in school. Being in the band would certainly help you make friends, overcome your shyness, and boost your self esteem. I think you should go to school tomorrow and pretend as if nothing happened. I'm sure that no one from rehearsel will even say anything about what happened, because they probably don't even know. Also, apologize to the teacher for missing rehearsel and ask if you can go to the next one. Good luck, and e-mail me tomorrow and let me know how things turn out. By the way, give your Mom a hug. She sounds like a wonderful person.

2007-11-05 11:58:44 · answer #2 · answered by Rick 2 · 0 0

Like I've been told before, "Colder, just because you're not paranoid doesn't mean people aren't laughing about you behind your back." It's gonna be a tough life for you if you don't learn to take things with a grain of salt and lighten up a bit. Talk to your counselor. Maybe there's something deeper here going on than meets the eye. Good luck!

2007-11-05 11:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by colder_in_minnesota 6 · 0 0

i'm 32 now and stay a typical existence; I walk my dogs previous due at night throught the woods. I lived on my own by using college and for the period of my husband's deployments. I inform you this because of the fact whilst i became your age, I felt a similar ingredient. I placed it right down to an overactive mind's eye. in specific situations I observed or felt issues that weren't there. I even crawled out my mattress room window whilst i became 12 and jumped from the 2d floor of my residing house because of the fact i became afraid somebody became contained in the residing house. i in my opinion do comprehend. I only % you to be attentive to which you will the two mature out of it, or you could look for help if it would not get extra beneficial contained in the subsequent couple years. i'm in specific situations nonetheless a splash jumpy, yet existence is common. only save your suggestions busy so your mind's eye would not get overactive.

2016-09-28 10:11:05 · answer #4 · answered by dotterweich 4 · 0 0

Tell your mom you need to see a shrink. This (plus the symptoms you described in another posted question) are not normal, but are signs of some sort of mental disorder. I'm not qualified to say which one, but I do think you should be evaluated by a psychiatrist. Try printing out these questions and all the answers, showing them to your mom, and ask her what SHE thinks.

There's no shame in having a mental illness -- I have two -- but it is important to get treatment, as many mental illnesses get worse if left untreated.

2007-11-05 12:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by Skepticat 6 · 1 0

It seems like you're just self conscious. I'm guessing you're a teenager, and in junior high or high school? Being nervous and wondering about your peers judging you is normal, everyone goes through that phase. You'll eventually grow up and figure out that what people think of you doesn't matter.
Maybe see your school counsler and work on your self consciousness.

2007-11-05 11:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by Abbey 3 · 0 0

you poor little angel. I dont think your mom should have said that you were acting weird. shes suppost to be your support system. You go to school and act as tho nothing happened, if someone says something shrug and say huh? act like you always do. dont worry your fears are unsubstantiaed. paranoi, never works honey, dont use it. you sound like a sweet little teenager going thru normal growing up. school is tuff sometimes. you hang in there sweeti, God has plans for you!!!!! being humbled is not gona kill you, and anyway, you just act like nothing happened or if it did, its no big deal you never thought that much about it, is what you say if you need to.

2007-11-05 12:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You need to learn that it doesn't matter what other people say.....you will learn this as you get older. You have absolutely NOTHING to be afraid of. There probably wasn't even anyone paying attention and if they WERE paying attention, someone would have come out and gotten you. You don't necessarily have a paranoia problem but you do have a self esteem issue.....

2007-11-05 11:49:50 · answer #8 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 1 0

No of course your not paranoid. I would be embarased too. U have to go to school so if any1 says anything pretend like u have got no idea what theyre talking about, i promise it will go away quickly

2007-11-05 11:54:01 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ bunny ♥ 2 · 0 0

Paranoia? Nah. I would suggest fear of social events and different places. I bet your mom was just trying to help you with getting out so that you can overcome some of these fears. Work at it, and do things to improve your confidence in yourself. Good luck!

2007-11-05 11:49:15 · answer #10 · answered by The Bard 2 · 1 0

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