occasionally when my husband and i are not getting along perfectly, when he says goodbye he says 'goodbye friend.' I jokingly say, 'oh i have been demoted.' He laughs and says 'maybe' and leaves. i hate this... any remarks?
2007-11-05 11:36:15 · 27 answers · asked by Becca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my husband is the type that is very sweet. at the very least my husband and i are really really good friends, i think that when he said that, he meant that even when times get rough, we are still best friends... but still, I had a lot of guy friends in college and i do not want him calling me that.. :)
2007-11-05 15:12:06 · update #1
But the two of you are friends when you really think about it. Of course it's more then that, but I consider my husband my best friend.
In fact, my husband and I have gotten in the habit of calling each other "buddy" - it's cutesy and I find it quite endearing!
Don't worry about it, he's probably just teasing you.
2007-11-05 13:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I feel friends are great things and some of the best marriages are based on friendships. Just give the goodbye you usually give and don't acknowledge his "friend" comment at the end. If it upsets you that is probably why he is doing it after you are not getting along. Or he could just possibly be saying you are still a dear friend to him even though you hit a rough patch in that friendship / love relationship.
2007-11-05 11:46:04 · answer #2 · answered by Jill M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is being petty and immature. He has to come first and if you disagree with him he lets you know that you are no longer up there on his list. He was either the only child or the youngest and coddled by his mother. He thinks that he can't be wrong about anything and that you, as his wife, should agree with him just like his mother did. Well he is wrong here. It is okay for you to disagree with your husband as you are 2 separate individuals with 2 individual upbringings and 2 different brains. He is a spoiled brat and not mature enough to be in a marriage. The 2 of you should go to couples counseling to learn how to better communicate with each other without demoting yourselves right out of your marriage.
2007-11-05 11:43:43 · answer #3 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a quote from a song, goodbye my lover, GOODBYE MY FRIEND, maybe he means nothing by it, and just want's to get under your skin. I would just say "see ya " and laugh it off. Unless he has given you a reason to think there is something more!!
2007-11-05 11:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by 2sweet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he just does it to piss you off. You have to be able to laugh at things that bother you so people will stop doing it. You can either talk to him about it and let him know your weakness. Or, think about how its kind of funny and laugh. If he says it again, say you are too funny. Bye friend and laugh. It may stop him if he cant tell if he is bothering you.
2007-11-05 11:39:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea. let him know that you dont like it. it makes it seems as though he is saying that he thinks as you as nothing more than a friend as of that moment. thats an uncomfortable feeling. even when me and my hubby get into arguments, he never says anything like that to me. i could not be talking to him and he would still come up to me and steal a kiss and says he loves me. he always treats me with respect. because at the end of the day, i am his wife, and i am always going to his wife. our disagreements doesn't change or affect that. you need to tell your hubby that you dont appreciate that smart comment he makes, and that he needs to stop saying it. or next time he says it, dont reply. say nothing. and if he asks why you didnt reply then just simply say "because i'm more than just your friend, i'm your wife."
2007-11-05 11:49:27 · answer #6 · answered by nicky3162002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like innocent play on works and guilt. Don't let it get too far out of hand. You could ask him not to say it anymore. Or just keep it on the joking plain.
2007-11-05 11:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him why he says this, and told him how it makes you feel? It could be something totally inocuous. It also could be that he has feelings he is not expressing to you, so get it out in the open so you don't have to continue to wonder. Communication saves marriages!!
2007-11-05 12:58:17 · answer #8 · answered by latebreakfast 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least he is saying goodbye instead of just stomping out the door and giving you the silent treatment
2007-11-05 11:40:32 · answer #9 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2017-03-27 22:35:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋