I have a single male friend that I've been in a platonic friendship with for approx. 10 yrs. He's 45 and I'm 40. In the past several years he didn't want me at his place onless he came to get me (I can count on one hand how many times). When my father passed two years ago, he didn't come to the memorial service or to the house and I didn't hear from him until two months later (Feb.14) when he called. He's always buying me gifts but they're material things. Recently, on my 40th birthday he just called after midnight to sing "Happy Birthday." Every year we have celebrated by going out. When I called him on his birthday (2 days later), he acted like he didn't know me. He's been e-mailing me and sending text messages and I've been ignoring them. I thinks it's time to end the so called friendship. What do you think?
2007-11-05 11:22:05 · 9 answers · asked by peaches6 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There's absolutely no kind of intimacy. He's taken me on all kinds of trips, restaurants, shopping and I've met his mom, brothers, aunts and nieces, but I've only met his daughter once. I noticed he's been distancing himself since my father passed. I feel like he's been part of my life, but I've never been part of his.
2007-11-05 11:34:26 · update #1
he is not your friend
he takes you for granted and you know you are more than that
from the way i see it he is going to hurt you more along the line, so i think you should end your friendship.
2007-11-05 11:28:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it sad so many answerers don't know the meaning of platonic. Your really going to have to think this over, has this just started, or has there been other little hints. The birthday trip sounds like he may of had company, one he didn't want to know about you, or you to know about them. Instead of backing off, call him ask him whats up, get it out so maybe you won't lose a friendship. Good luck.
2007-11-05 11:42:00 · answer #2 · answered by WACVET75 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing games. He must have someone else. men are liars. When you called for his birthday...the other woman was there, so he acted stupid. he might be 45 but he probably acts 5. does he buy you things and then you feel the need to give him sex? If so, thats why you get gifts, so he can have fun with you at that time. You are being bought. just like a hooker...but you aren't standing on the corner. sorry but move on so you don't feel used.
2007-11-05 11:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by toonice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it sounds like he has something else going on and doesn't want you to know about it. Why, though, is unclear if you are not in a sexual relationship at all. It is time to find other friends that are going to be there for you all the time not just when they choose to be.
2007-11-05 11:28:42 · answer #4 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End it
2007-11-05 11:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No this is not a true friend a true friend wouldnt be ashamed to have u as a friend
2007-11-05 11:24:56 · answer #6 · answered by Adorkable 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
END IT!
2007-11-05 11:26:51 · answer #7 · answered by Zesty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO : I
2007-11-05 11:27:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
End the friendship. DUH
2007-11-05 11:31:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋