Hey All :(
This is Jessica Zazy's friend ( she told me to tell y'all that she's in the hospital she had to have a surgery on her leg, but she will be out tomorrow).
( This is pretty much a rant but i need to get my emotions out). My boyfriend of a year & three month's ( I'm 16), broke up with me today. He said he * needed he's space & that he didn't love me anymore*. Well as you can imagine I'm completely heart-broken. He was my first boyfriend, & my first real love. My heart feels like somebody took a hammer & hit my heart over & over. I feel lost, I feel so lonely. I can't even imagine going to school tomorrow & seeing him in almost all of my classes.
Okay my sad rants over. Has this happened to anybody else? How did you start healing?
2007-11-05 11:18:49 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Thanks for the help everybody y'all are great. I feel completly devestated, I know my heart will heal with time. It's just so fresh right now.
2007-11-05 11:31:56 · update #1
don't worry, be happy!
2007-11-05 11:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Jessica's friend! This has happened to almost every girl on the planet! I feel for you. The best thing to to is NOT question it over and over. And do NOT think if I only....or IF I only was more...AND DO NOT THINK IT IS YOUR FAULT OR HIS These things happen when we are young EVEN though you feel totally smashed and trashed and ready to crash try your hardest not to let it get to you. Keep good friends around, watch funny movies, don't talk trash about him
Learn from this lesson. Now you know what it feels like to have a broken heart by this time next year you'll feel totally different. BUT you really have to work at it!!! If you want to be miserable that won't be difficult at all. Those feelings of not wanting to eat and jumping off the nearest Eiffel Tower will fade into sunshine. You lived and breathed without him before
and you can definitely do it again Give yourself some time
AVOID negative people places and things(they will only pull you further down) Put all your concentration into studying don't try to find a replacement because there aren't any just yet. Get an afterschool job if your grades can handle it and even one on the weekends Keep your days busy and concentrate only on what you have to do.Get a good education and graduate(with honors)you can do it because
this is god telling you okay you had a taste of love but nows your chance to finish yourself and become the best you you can be! main thing is if you need to talk about it talk to only one person, like your mom or granny Keep totally busy becoming the most beautiful you inside and out and before you know it you'll be more educated, more busy have more friends be way more beatiful and you'll be
and on top of the world! If you can't talk to mom you can email me I know a girl who was 16 and got totally dumped
BIG TIME She followed my advise and has a 4.0 grade average, an afterscool and weekend job, she is 18 and half and she is off to college soon and most incredible of all she has an engagement ring from the greatest guy for her on the planet.Believe in happy endings cuz the really do exist!
2007-11-05 11:49:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're going through this. Love is hard. The first time my heart got broken at 14, I was going to kill myself over it, it seemed like the pain would NEVER stop.
Someone saved my life that day, by telling me that everything before college is just practice, none of it really counts.
Think of it this way. Getting your heart broken a few times is bound to happen before you learn enough about love first hand to do it right. Everyone I know went through it, survived it, and wound up having better, more real relationships because of it.
You hurt now, but remind yourself, it'll pass, you'll love again, better and bigger than before. So cry, scream into your pillow, wish the guy would get hit by a truck. Just know that in a while when the time is right something will come into your life that'll make all this seem like a crush from when you were 12.
BTW Jessica, pass on a get well soon from Fred Rogers to Zazy, I'm fond of her. :-)
2007-11-05 11:43:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry about ur loss. i know all 2 well how it feels 2 break up with some one u love. its bad 2 say this but sometimes i still feel lost with out my ex bf but i havent even seen him in almost 2 years and i would give anything 2 just know that he was ok. i know it will hurt 2 see him and not have him as ur bf but at least u will get 2 see him. just pray to God and ask him to take all this pain away and if it was ment 2 be u 2 will be together once again if not it just wasnt ment 2 be maybe u will find someone better and who loves u more than anything but just smile 4 now u will feel better in a couple of dayz. just look up and what ever u do dont give up.
God bless and i hope u and ur freind feel better.
2007-11-05 11:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by raven m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im a guy...umm lets see...well i hope ur friend has a good surgery. AND for YOU you never know if that was ur real love or true love because he doesnt love u anymore...hmm what else um..I know the exact feeling in ur heart that some 1 has a grip on it and you cry every time because it feels really sorrowful<-- i had that experience from family relationships though.. but that doesnt matter. well if you think hes the right person for the REST OF YOUR LIFE umm yea you should probably have a real long long conversation about him and how u feel but dont try to sound all emotional sound serious. good luck on your future relationship. =)
2007-11-05 11:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens to everyone. I think the best way to get over it, is by going out and hanging out with your friends and maybe start a new hobby or after school activities. Put all the things that remind you of him away because the more you look at it the more you torture yourself. I know because I'm going through something similar but this is just my friend but I'm falling for him and I'm trying not to. Good luck!
2007-11-05 11:24:22 · answer #6 · answered by golosa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iam soo sri this hasnt happened to me but i can imagine i am going out with my first real boyfriend and were almost at a year and iam soo in love with him and iam also so afraid to lose him as well everyday i dread hearing him say i dont wanna be with u or i dont love u no more or its over and i can imagine all i can say to do is be around ur friends and family for support and just try not to think about it as much and just think that even tho this happened it doesnt mean it was a waste it just means it wasnt meant to be and that ull find some that will be with u forever
2007-11-05 11:25:28 · answer #7 · answered by luvinuislife_16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens to everyone, love, and it happens a lot in one individual life time before you find your true love.
It sucks and it hurts, but you can't dwell on it.
What always makes me feel better is realizing that I'm worth more than this. You are worth being with someone who really loves you and will love you. You will eventually move on and find someone who cares about you. You will be stronger for this experience.
I'm 23 and had my heart broken at 18. I don't even remember why i loved him in the first place. It takes some times (and it may feel like a LOT of time, but it really isn't) but you will overcome.
**And don't eat a ton like some of these other people say to. They make take their emotions out on food, but it will only make them overweight and furtherly unhappy. Try to enjoy whats around you and don't fill the void with food!
2007-11-05 11:23:23 · answer #8 · answered by Malina 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Exactly the same happened to me when I was your age, it was hard, but suddenly you start seeing things you really don't like in him! I started to find all the really annoying things in my ex. Be honest, if your hurt, your hurt! Don't put up a front! I'm now 20, living with my boyfriend of 2 years and am head over heels in love! Of course I will always remember my first love, but it's a distant memory now! I remeber the funnny times i had with him, not the break! It'll take time but if your strong, you can do it!!
2007-11-05 11:23:18 · answer #9 · answered by Lucy W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is awful!! First you need to know that it is NOT your fault at all. He obviously has issues that he needs to work thru - after which, he may come looking for you again - realizing what he did and how wrong he was! It may be too late....
In the meantime, while your upset - lean on your friends! Keep yourself busy. Do some things you wouldn't normally do when asked.
Time will heal you.
2007-11-05 11:24:21 · answer #10 · answered by Jem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, that is really tough.
#1I would first start off by doing something that you love that has nothing to with him or reminds you of his existence. (Watch your favorite movie)
#2. Be glad that it is over now and I am sorry to say this, but he is not your love. He is a highschool boy. You will find your soul mate one day.
#3. If you really care about what he still thinks, build your "single and flirty" side again. Make him realize what he has given up on.
I hope I helped and good luck with your friend and her surgery.
2007-11-05 11:26:15 · answer #11 · answered by Giraffe Noises 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋