I am not Indian...and I always wonder how Indians feel about arranged marriages. Do you think it's right? Are a lot of the marriages arranged? Do they work out? I am just curious.
2007-11-05 10:25:35 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not Indian, though I have been there often. I have many Indian friends who have had arranged marriages and most have worked out. Yet I know of one where the girl's husband routinely beats her. She will never leave him because that would be embarrassing to her family. So the real question should be....... are they happy? Because many times even if they are not, they stay together anyway. One reason the divorce rate in arranged marriages was so very low was because in some parts even if the couple split up it was not noted as a divource. But the reason the divource rate is rising in arranged marriages nowadays is that the women are more educated than they were in the past. Back even 20 years ago, women had no choice but to accept whatever her husband decided to dole out. That could be love or could be a smack....... Where could the women go? They couldn't go back home so they just had to bear it. But that is slowly changing as more and more women are standing up for their rights.
Many are quick to blame the Western culture for the rise in divource rate in India. But you cannot have CNN without MTV. And I don't mind saying I am getting a bit tired of reading that this is due to western attitudes. Maybe it is just that the women of India have decided to be treated as women and every bit the equal (and then some) of men. Perhaps they have had enough of being looked at like property or second class citizens rather than how they should be treated.
Yet, I do know of some arranged marriages and both parties seem to have learned to love each other very much.
When it is right......... it is right. Regardless of how you get there.
2007-11-05 12:41:44 · answer #1 · answered by ezgoin_newyorker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a very close Indian friend who is in an arranged marriage so I am trying to understand the complexities involved with that cultural tradition, but in general I am not in favor of them.
By the way Goddess of Love, she's most likely referring to Indians from India as opposed to Native Americans. Arranged marriages don't apply to them.
2007-11-05 10:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a gf/bf that you want to marry or is there a person that you like which you want to increase your relations? if answer is yes, than definately go ahead and marry that person. If you do not have anyone in mind, and you think its time you want to get married. arrange marriages are perfect. there is nothing wrong in it. Indian people are trained from childhood about arrange marriages..so they are expecting to be arranged at a certain point unless they are already in a relationship.. ITS NOT TRUE THAT THERE ARE HIGHER DIVORCE RATE IN ARRANGE MARRIAGES. They work out very well.
2007-11-05 10:38:02 · answer #3 · answered by Desert Fox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe, they tend to have lower divorce rates since there are less expectations in the marriage. People from the majority of western culture sometimes may have unrealistic or too much of a perfect, idealistic marriage. For example, the concept of marriage now is, if you're not happy, then get a divorce. I mean, it's probably why people get divorces in the first place, but, marriages is not just about you. It's about your spouse and family, what's best for them. Till death do you part or at least you know? But, lately, I've heard arranged ones've been getting higher divorces too due to western influence.
2007-11-05 10:31:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My marriage wasn´t accecly arranged but I had help to find my husband. So it is something like that. In Europe some friends made u to meat a person so it is something like that.
I´m from Europe and my husband is from india. We are married since 3 years and we have a child of a age of 1. And it is working. The parents knows u very well but both should meet and talk befor they marry. When it is in this way it will work.
2007-11-06 06:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by Susanne S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am an Indian and i don't believe in arranged marriages.yes a lot of arranged marriages work out well and so do love marriages
2007-11-05 14:30:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im an indian and i think arranged marriages are totally fine. my parents had an arranged marriage and they're extremely happy and love each other...you do feel weird in the beginning but later on, it turns out fine unless your partner has some real issues.
2007-11-05 11:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by Joanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course being Indian,I do agree that arranged marriages last the full life time.I am looking forward to celebrate my platinum
jubilee of our wedding anniversary.Hope to live that long.We have not had any serious tiffs so far nor do we expect to in the future.It is all in one's approach to married life and the grace to
give as much as you expect to take.
Compatibility may tend to be brushed aside as a cliche but it does work.
2007-11-05 12:34:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.100 %.But in any case in love marriage or arranged marriage the risks are same. it may work out, it may not. It is more of a heartburn when love marriage fails.
2007-11-05 12:28:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't believe in this although i am an indian but it still happen in INDIA AND ASIA. some of the marriage work out while some married partner start cheating after they got married. they cheat with others that they fall in love with which causes divorce.
2007-11-05 10:33:44 · answer #10 · answered by firewall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋