What would you do?

Question

After a four year relationship with an 18month old baby, i'm unhappy but going along with it for the sake of the child. I have a dog which the guy has grown to hate. he keeps yelling at and hitting the dog, sometimes when i'm not around. the dog now flinches when I approach him you see? so I warn him not to hit the dog again or I'll report him and he'll get fined for it. he says if I betray him by reporting him the relationships over because he sees it as a betrayal. i think i would be betraying my obligations to protect the animal from danger and harm if there's any betrayal at all. would you call his bluff? what would you do? getting rid of the dog is not an option, he keeps me sane and he's my child 'friend', he loves him. what do i do?

Answer 1

first of all do you know any cops or does any of your friends know cops if you do then ask them to give him a stern warning or he could face jail time for a first offense 30 day i think so try that route if you can. by the dog flinching obviously he is being abused and what could happen is your child might accidentally hit or hurt the dog in which case the dog will probable bite or even attack your child if you let the abuse of the dog go any further.so at least try the police officer or any type of officer to warn him severely, if this guy doesn't change his way he should be put out . because he is obviously jealous of the dog due to the attention that you give the dog and he should be getting the attention sounds like a little kid huh. not to be anything but do you pay more attention to the dog than you should, example sleeping in the bed with you guys,always on your lap do you give the dog a hug and a kiss before your guy. like i said not for anything but think about it and if you think that you are change up a little bit and ask your man if he is jealous of the dog. he will probably say yes then change it up a little bit with the attention thing and see if he changes his attitude towards the dog

Answer 2

I would definitely report him.. He does not need to be hitting an animal like that. If you are not going to do it then unfortunately getting rid of your dog may have to be an option if you plan on staying with this guy. I understand it's your child's friend but your child is young and will forget about it. That's not fair for the dog to be around him.. And as for your relationship in general, if you are not happy maybe try taking a break. Do you have a friend or some family that you can go stay with for a while? Preferably something further from home that way to avoid conflict you can just say you are going to go visit for vacation or something. Maybe you two have just been around each other too much. If that doesn't work then don't stay together just because of ur child. If you aren't happy your kid is going to see that and the child seeing you two fight or argue is going to do more damage then if you were to just split from this guy. Kids' minds are like a sponge and they're very impressionable. I hope everything works out for you!

Answer 3

If he acts to a dog like that I can only wonder what he does to you, or the baby. I'm going to validate you and say that you are in a abusive relationship. You should get out, in the end it will be better for your and the child. There are a lot of none profit places you can quietly go if you need help, its in the phone book. Also if it was me I wouldn't even try to talk to him about this, I would just leave. If he finds out that you are not afraid of leaving him then he will fined something new to hold over your head.

You need to keep in mind I don't have the hole story and I'm not you, so this could wrong, but he is beating a dog. Wish I had more infow.

Answer 4

Who the hell cares?? you should not be with someone like that! i don't care how much you hate an animal, you don't hit it. And not only that but I think it's bullshit when people say "I'm staying in the relationship for the child" Well children are not stupid, if they can see and feel that they parents are not happy, then your baby will be unhappy as well. Leave the asshole and get on with your and your baby's life!

Sorry to be so blunt, but that guy sounds like a asshole

Answer 5

Stand up for the dog. The guy is only trying to intimidate you. I would report him. He only wants to see if you will chicken out. If you report him, he will get what he deserves and the dog will be saved. However, if you do not, he will get by with animal abuse and well if you know it is happening and don't do anything...they might charge you too if they ever find out. The dog is more important than he is. He needs to be punished for his actions. I say kick out the guy or whatever and do whatever it takes to help the dog.

Answer 6

People who hit animals have serious control issues. It is easy to take his angry aggresions out on the dog. This could be the start of a worse abuse issue with you and your child. You should be very careful.

Answer 7

Is the relationship unhappy ONLY because of the dog?

If so, I don't know why an animal is more important to you than another human being.

Answer 8

If he hits the dog it won't be long before he hits you and your child. Get out of there as soon as you can!

Answer 9

run away from him already. if he's hitting your pets, than who knows what's next? he could end up hitting you or your child one day. and if you're unhappy, there's probably a good reason. doing it for the sake of the kid, usually never works out, because in reality, you're still never gonnna be happy with him. please just get out while you still can and be happy.

Answer 10

Call his bluff and if he does hit your dog, be prepared to leave. He's already trying to manipulate you, and it could get worse.