What happens to a marriage with no sex life!!!!!!?

Question

My husband and i have been married for 6 Months and have been together for 7 1/2 years. Just recently his mom had a stroke, and it has taken a toll on our marriage as well. i don't want to sound selfish about this because i really love his mother. I know he is going thru alot i wouldn't think so much about this if we had not already been thru this before. he once cheated on me about 2 1/2 years ago, and the same things we are going thru now seem to be the same way everything happen before. The only differnece is his mom being very sick. Can someone please help me out.

Answer 1

it dies!

Answer 2

You really need to talk to him - heart to heart...he needs to know that you are there for him during this hard time with his mom, but because of the relationship issues you have already had you need some reassurances from him too. How long has it been? Are we talking 2 weeks, 2 months, longer? If it has been less than a month than I say you back off...and be supportive. Good men love their mothers and this has probubly taken a huge toll on him emotionally - especially if she is not out of the clear yet or if this was a severe stroke. And even if it wasn't major he may be facing for the first time in his life the fact that his mom is getting older and will eventually pass on. It is a major sex drive killer...In situations like this you have to put his needs first, that is not to say that you should turn a blind eye but if this happened to your mother how would you feel? Would you need him pressuring you about sex? Don't smother him with your willingness to be there for him right now, but I bet if you make it known once everyday that you love him and that you are hear with him and for him - he will come back around to you. If it has been a month or more and mom is doing fine and well, share your feelings with him. But don't make it about the sex...tell him you don't feel close to him right now and that you know this close call with his mom has hit him hard but that you don't want loose what you have struggled to build together for almost a decade. IF ALL else fails, be butt-naked when he walks through the door at the end of the day - after all MEN are VISUAL creatures. They don't do hints! Naked speaks VOLUMES!!! You might want to START with NAKED - it might be a great way for him to relieve some of the stress he's caring around! Good Luck!

Answer 3

I don't care what anyone thinks, sex is important in any relationship and when its not there you cant help but wonder if there is someone else, and since he has a history of cheating before you might what to think about it, but don't throw the baby out with the bath water, make sure you are 100% sure!! A marrige without sex is just like haveing a roommate

Answer 4

Maybe you should try spicing things up... Whatever you do normally, don't do it.. Go buy some sexy lingerie or something and surprise him. Have him come home to candles and a sweet one on one dinner. Let him know how much you love him and appreciate him and that you understand what he's going through.. If that doesn't work then well you just have to come right out and say it... I NEED SEX! Lol, it's not the best thing but I've had to do it before and hey it worked!

Answer 5

maybe you should go to a marriage counseling to help you both with your relationship. I know that's hard for you. But your not being selfish. He should know how to balance his time with you and his mom. And he cheated?! Keep in mind that if he cheated again maybe you should talk to him about it.

Answer 6

Get some home health people to come in periodically to give you a break and plan a date.

Answer 7

this book can probably help you get the love life you always wanted

Answer 8

divorce.