I was speaking with a friend of mine earlier on the phone, she was really upset and crying and stuff. She said that her boyfriend had just beaten her up and that she can't take it anymore. I'm in shock as I never realised and feel SO guilty about this she said it's been happening for a while.
I don't usually get involved with people's business as I prefer to lead a quiet life but I can't stand by knowing such a wonderful person is going through this. It pains me that she's having to suffer in silence I said to her why she had not told anybody she said she was afraid no one would believe her.
She's asked if she can come over and stay at my house tonight, I've only met her boyfriend once she's never really mentioned him, so I don't really know what to say. Do you think I should get involved or merely point her in the right direction? she's such a beautiful person and does not deserve this.
Thank you for your help.
I've yet to call her back as I write this.
2007-11-05 09:29:01 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
yes invite her to stay with you, confide in your parents as to whats happening as they may give you good advice, and get her to phone a domestic violence unit who are proffessionally trained to deal with this sort of abuse, then report the incident to the police as he will keep on abusing other women if its not stopped right now....be there for her if she is a close friend and look after her. get her to also tell her parents so they can protect her from this brute.
2007-11-05 20:20:45 · answer #1 · answered by Kerry A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes, take her in tonight and help her out. That's what friends are for and she really can use you now. She is lucky to have you, now you can steer her in the right direction. All you have to do is listen and that will be alot for her but she needs to do something about this. If you look in the phone book you may be able to find some hotline numbers she can call. She should leave him, get a restraining order against him, and document everything that has happened- time, date, incident, and take any pictures that she can. She needs to call police and inform them, that way it will be documented. Please help her though, by her calling you it is her way of crying out. Good luck with her!
2007-11-05 09:47:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her stay at your place, and offer her all the help she'll take from you. Don't do anything 'for' her that she didn't ask for, like calling the police 'for' her or beating up her boyfriend 'for' her.
You do need to talk to her and try to get her away from him. Be warned that this could be heartbreaking for you--if you get between the boyfriend and her, and the boyfriend pushes her to make a choice between you, chances are you'll get kicked to the curb and she'll keep getting beat up. So watch how close you get (especially if she doesn't like following your advice), and be careful with the boyfriend. You should still do whatever you can to help your friend, but please be careful. And don't expect your friend to be smart about this, I know some smart girls who are dumber than rocks when it comes to their relationships.
2007-11-05 09:37:18 · answer #3 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right get her to come and stay at your place tonight,talk to her and see if she wants to take it to the authorities and if she does then wait till the morning and then go to the police get her to report it and make a statement
but she needs to dump him but the problem is he may get violent when she tells him this so it might be best if she wants to dump him if you are there so he does not try anything
but overall tell her that she is a beautiful person and you do not deserve a scum bag like him
good luck and i hope she is ok
and i hope that the so called boyfriend/woman basher gets beaten up by someone in prison for what he done to your poor friend
good luck mate
-jake
oh yeah give her a call back now and tell her to come to your place
2007-11-05 10:10:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually when women go through abusive relationships, do not tell anyone, because they are scared and embarrassed. If she got the courage to tell you today, means that she really needs your help.
Only that some of the time, unfortunately, you cannot help. Women must help them self. You might try to "save" her, but then she might go back to that relationship..because that's all she knows, until...she makes the smart decision to do something better for her life. My best advise is just talk to her, find out more details...and help.
2007-11-05 09:39:58 · answer #5 · answered by Traviata 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get her straight over to yours...she has asked for help and sometimes that can be so very difficult. You should not have hesitated in your offer! get involved...the very reason this bully and all the ones like him think they can get away with it is because the girls are to frightened to speak about it. The more people that know what a complete koont he is, the better.
These sorts of people should be branded...on their foreheads.
Get her round and give her a harbour in her storm.
2007-11-05 09:35:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let her come over and encourage her to phone the police and lodge a complaint.
If she needs medical help take her to Accident and Emergency.
Things coudl get worse and you would never forgive yourself if anything worse happened to her.
She needs a friend at a time like this.
2007-11-05 09:36:01 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be her friend - just like you are doing.
Be the one to talk to the police or whoever, if she is afraid. She needs to get out of that relationship. This hasn't happened to me, I wouldn't be sure how to handle this. Every girl friend I have, I make sure to get to know her boyfriend - so he knows I'm cool with him in her life, and there is no competition. If it's you she comes running to, I don't know what to say but be there for her. She might try to rebound and come on to you sexually - feeling like she needs a man who loves her. Don't give in and make things worse for her. Be strong when she is weak. She'll be grateful later.
2007-11-05 10:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that your a person looking from the outside in and that he is bad news and is this the way she really wants to live the rest of her life if she marries this dude. knock some sense into her let her know she needs to get out and be happy. You can also let her know that you cant support her if she stays with him in the abusive relationship that she cannot see.
CD
2007-11-05 09:34:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you force her to do anything she is not 100% certain of, She may lash out at you, And become even closer to her boyfriend, Your main job would be to support her and try to guide her, Love can be a funny thing, And trying to remove that bond she may feel for him might be tricky, No matter what he does to her, But if she does truly feel like she cant take anymore, Then sure, Tell her to ditch him. If she still harbours feelings for him, Then all you can do is try to support her.
2007-11-05 09:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋