On two occasions my guy friend has told me that he loves me. Once he left it as that. Another time, two years later he told me again, but then added that he didn't love me like he should. We have been intimate and talk all the time. I've never had any other male friends tell me this. Does he like me more than a friend?
2007-11-05 09:16:40 · 19 answers · asked by Astrid W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have been honest with him about how I feel. I would like it to be a progressive relationship. We have been friends for like 8 years. We just recently started being intimate. He did say he was afraid I'd leave him and he's afraid of messing it up and loosing me forever and that he just doens't know what to do with me.
2007-11-05 09:27:33 · update #1
he loves you.
he said it.
:D
2007-11-05 09:19:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to be careful with situations like that. You two started off as friends so the question really is are the feeling mutual? Good friends are really hard to find so if your finding that you dont feel the same way be totally and completely honest with him...remember that he is your friend so because he knows you so wells and loves you the way he says he does he will understand. The worst thing is to loose friendship over mixed signals and emotions. Continue to talk to him and be open about whats going on, you never know, something beautiful might come from this but just as in every intimate relationship take it slow, sex always changes everything.
2007-11-05 17:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by Fashionista-in-training 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have close male friends tell me they love me, and let friends know that I love them all the time.
It sounds like he's being honest, and he loves you as a friend (although he probably wishes he felt differently, because he recognizes that you two could be great together). Sometimes "being intimate" with a friend just happens because you care about eachother and spend so much time together, sometimes it means a lot more, but mostly it is emotionally confusing.
2007-11-05 17:21:52 · answer #3 · answered by eileezy2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is undecided. It sounds like he likes you when he is with you, but may still be deciding if he thinks you are the best for him, or if there is better. Being intimate sure causes more problems because you never know if he just wants sex or whether he really loves you. I would back off being intimate until you really know whether he is just playing the field or whether he really does love you and wants to change the relationship.
2007-11-05 17:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by mortymyth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. He may just be telling you that occassionally just to keep the "fringe benefits" on the side. If he truly loved you I would think he would want a relationship if intimacy was involved. I would not give my heart and I would definitely cut out the nookie, too. See how far his friendship goes without it. Sex can distort the way you feel and think, so don't let it be a part of anything that is not a true relationship if you don't want to be hurt.
2007-11-05 17:22:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're being intimate, yes, I think he likes you more than a friend, and probably assumes you like him more than a Friend as well. Talk it out with him. I love you as a friend, or I love you as I want to be with only you????
2007-11-05 17:19:47 · answer #6 · answered by england562 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welll this is a hard one becuase guys can be very confusing. i have been in the same exact situation also. in my opinion, since you've been intimate with him, it puts your situation a little bit past the "friend" level, so it could be VERY possible that he DOES love you. when people become intimate with each other it is easier catch feelings. especially becuase you two are friends to begin with.
2007-11-05 17:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by *Mizz.Kayy* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a girl and am entirely heterosexual and I once told my best friend I loved her, and she freaked out and I was like "I meant like a sister. I love you like a sister." And she was like "It just seems weird to me." and I was like "We need to go out on the street and ask people if they have any friends who are as close to them as a sibling. That's the only way to settle this." and she said "I know most people don't think it's weird. It's just me." So I said "You've been hanging out with 'Justine' too much. She's poisoning your mind." So she laughed and agreed with me.
2007-11-05 17:22:43 · answer #8 · answered by Professor Cuddles III 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since you've been intimate i'd think yes, either that or hes a man whore. but since he said that he doesn't love you like he should it makes it seem as if he likes you. he probably thinks that you don't like him back since he thinks he shouldnt like you. talk to him about it. if you feel the same way it shouldn't be a problem.
2007-11-05 17:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by thisaintascene_x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he might like u more then a friend but somehow he might jux love u as a friend...i been there and done it so yeah...i have a cousin that she is a girl and im a guy...we are cousin and also bestfriend...i alwaise said to her i love her as my bestfriend or friend...and i alwaise said i miss her... or miss talking to her...well pretty much now i have lost my bestfriend...i have lost everything...so yeah...i dont want u to be in the same problem i used to have or have rite now...
2007-11-05 17:23:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to him. i have a male friend like tht too and it can get rly confusing. if he has been ur friend for ages though the likelihood is he loves u just as a friend
2007-11-05 17:20:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋