My friend is rediculous and just does not seem to hear anthing I am telling her!! Her boyfriend and have been dating a little more than a year. They've been having sex for about 3 months. She got pregnant last month and took the plan B pill without telling him. She finally explained what had happened and he got furious explaining that he didn't believe in abortions and that she had killed their child. I just dont see how the plan B pill is an abortion! She is still with him but they still haven't resolved the matter. She can't take birth control b/c it makes her sick! The only form of birth control they use condoms. And they are still having sex!! I'm very worried about her! If she gets pregnant again she doesnt want to keep it and he feels the opposite. What can I say to her to get her to reconsider the situation? I'm so scared for her, but nothing I've said helps so far.
2007-11-05 08:35:36 · 16 answers · asked by Brandi 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
edit: typo, let me rephrase. she wasn't pregnant. they had unprotected sex. so she took the pill a day after to prevent pregnancy.
2007-11-05 08:41:59 · update #1
Pretty self righteous of the boyfriend to be condemning abortion as murder (it is) when he's perfectly willing to engage in the fornication that often results in the unwanted babies who become the innocent victims of these murders. If he's really worried about this, he should keep his pecker in his pants! I'm sorry--you sound like a good person who is deeply concerned for her friend, but you cannot control her actions. Be there for her, let her know what you think, and pray for her is all you can do. :-)
2007-11-05 08:48:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Plan B can ONLY be taken within 72 hours of unprotected sex. If it's over that limit, it's much too late for that. You are NOT a horrible person for considering abortion. In fact, it would make you a logical person if you KNOW that you cannot handle bringing a new life into the world. There is an "abortion pill" or medical abortion, but that can ONLY be administered if the pregnancy is 9 weeks or less. If you suspect you are pregnant and would like an abortion, then please get to your local planned parenthood. They can give you a pregnancy test and then go over everything you want to know.
Good luck hun and try not to let the negativity you will get from others on here get to you. These individuals are selfish because THEY would rather you do what THEY think is right, rather than let YOU do what you KNOW is right. They are also mean-spirited and childish towards ANY woman who DARES to make a different choice than them. If you KNOW an abortion would be for the best, then to hell with anyone else who tells you otherwise.
2014-03-24 08:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLAN B is NOT an abortion pill! it only works 72 hours after sex to prevent a pregnancy from occurring, when other methods of protection were malfunctioning!
(a) It doesn't terminate an existing pregnancy (ie, if you are 6 weeks pregnant and take a plan B, it won't do anything)
(b) it just stops the conditions from occuring to have the egg fertilized.
according to plan b's website it works by
* It temporarily stops the release of an egg from the ovary;
* It prevents fertilization; or
* It prevents a fertilized egg from attaching to the uterus.
PLAN B is definitly NOT an abortion, that would be like saying the birth control pill is like a little abortion every month!!! (ridiculous!)
2007-11-05 09:24:56 · answer #3 · answered by lovesapples 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your point of view. The pill is only a protective measure in case you could have possibly gotten pregnant. Neither of them know for a fact whether or not they had gotten pregnant. She could have not taken the pill and still not been pregnant. You know what I mean? For instance, if you are ovulating and have sex, Plan B simply causes the egg not to implant. No implantation means no pregnant.
Plan B should NOT be used as a form of birth control though. Shame on the both of them for not being more careful. There must be some dosage or brand of birth control that would work for her. Perhaps the shot, the patch, the ring.... there are other options than the BC pill. Otherwise, use a diaphragm, condoms, spermicide...... They obviously aren't properly educated.
2007-11-05 08:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Considering that plan B only works the first 72 hours after having sex, it would not be an abortion. It is simply a pill that stops the egg for implanting into the uterus. The egg does not even begin to form into a baby until after the implantation has happened. And implantation doesn't happen until a week after conception. I think you should encourage the fact that your friends are being responsible the day of sex so that they are faced with such a hard decision later.
2016-04-02 06:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on where people view a child's life begins. I believe that as soon as the sperm fertilizes the egg, a separate life had begun (different human DNA and all that), so to me, taking the Plan B pill can cause an abortion.
A lot of people, including most doctors, say that life begins at implantation (when the fertilized egg implants into the uterus), and in that case Plan B pill can't cause an abortion.
What you should be telling your friend that as someone who feels she is mature enough to be having sex, she should be able to incorporate her bf in her choices without letting him completely influence them. Ultimately and legally it is her choice, but she should consider the fathers values and beliefs for a smoother situation.
Also, there are more forms of birth control than the pill and condoms. Condoms can be paired with other things, such as fertility awareness (she is probably too young to really be responsible enough for this, it can be hard), IUDs, etc
2007-11-05 08:56:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the plan B pill did not make your friend have an abortion. This pill reduces the chances of getting pregnant...it didn't end the pregnancy. Your friend's pregnancy was obviously not meant to be and her body rejected it. As for getting pregnant again.. not taking a birth control pill will eventually result in another pregnancy. There are other forms of birth control besides condoms and the pill....have her talk to her healthcare professional or a planned parenthood organization. Another thing...how old is your friend? Should she be considering another form of birthcontrol if she is still sexually active? I think yes. A baby is a gift and nothing to just take for granted. I lost my child 2 months ago and I'm unsure if I'll ever have another one. IF your friend has any brains, she should really consider what she is doing, how she's going to deal with it and really think of the consequences of her actions.
That's all I have to say....
2007-11-05 08:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by dutchblueyes 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There are other options than the pill
Depro Provera is one.
You are protected from the moment you get this shot and cannot get pregnant. It lasts for 3 months before you need another so thats just 4 shots a year. I got these because I could not take the pill. It was my best option at birth control and your friend should look into it as well. The pills made me sick but the shots did not at all...
2007-11-05 10:00:23 · answer #8 · answered by blair 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she took the "morning after" pill, which is not the same as RU486, the "abortion pill".
The morning after pill prevents implantation of a fertilized egg into the wall of the uterus. Some people consider that this is abortion, if they believe that life begins at conception. It sounds like your friend's boyfriend is one of these.
The abortion pill RU486 works a little differently. I am not sure of the details, but I think it contains a very strong dose of hormones and can trigger a period even if you are in the early days of pregnancy, even after the fertilized egg has implanted, so that the tiny developing fetus is expelled from the body.
You should encourage your friend to go back to her doctor and ask to try a different form of birth control. If one brand of pills makes her sick, she could try a different brand with a different formulation. Or she could try an implant.
It sounds like your friend needs to have a frank conversation with her boyfriend - he will be quite happy to continue having sex knowing that it might result in a baby. If she doesn't want that, then she needs to make it absolutely clear to him, and then they have to sort it out for themselves.
2007-11-05 08:50:58 · answer #9 · answered by Cathy T 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Plan b works just like birth control....some people do consider birth control a form of birth control abortion, but I think he may just be confused. I suggest either they start using protection or she get on birth control or abstain from sex until they discuss this further...now if either of them do not care if they have a baby then i suppose thats fine, but if she doesnt want a baby she needs to decide what to do....---ther are many different birth control options out there and each one is different she needs to discuss them all w/ her dr.....
2007-11-05 08:40:22 · answer #10 · answered by tll 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she was pregnant, Plan B wouldn't have done anything...she'd still be pregnant unless she had a miscarriage due to some other issue. Plan B just prevents the body from either ovulating or implantation...if you're already pregnant, it's too late.
2007-11-05 08:40:23 · answer #11 · answered by Gage's Mommy :-) 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋