2007-11-05 08:27:00 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
IF sex is so important to you then dont get married. Break up and find you someone else. If you can overlook the lackluster performance and love him and he loves you, then go for it. Marriage is hard work and is NOT about the sex. Im a guy and saying this!
2007-11-05 08:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by MrMyers 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I apologize if I come off offensive but this question to me seems really shallow. I mean is that all that you are basing the marriage on. If that is what is important in a marriage to you, certainly don't get married. Marriage is much more than sex, and there are plenty of ways to remedy the sex anyways. Bring some excitement to the bedroom, but if this is all that is keeping you from wondering if he is the right guy or not, apparently he isn't. I would consider alot of other factors in marriage and think sex would rate way down at the bottom of the list as a priority. Good luck to you and god bless
2007-11-05 16:32:47 · answer #2 · answered by ?? yaddajean ?? 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
The more important question is, are you attracted to him? You can work on the sex and make it better, but if you're not attracted to him in the first place, you're going to have problems later.
It's true what everyone has been saying--there are more important things in marriage than sex. Love lasts, passion comes and goes. But I don't think it's shallow to want to make sure you're sexually compatible. I'd think twice about marrying a guy I wasn't attracted to. If this is the case with you, you can still have a happy marriage--but you're going to have to be honest about the trade-offs. Will you be okay with so-so sex for the rest of your life?
2007-11-05 17:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by 1selkie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him enough to overlook the so-so sex? If not, then don't consider marrying him. However, if you think it's something you can work with, then go for it! It's hard to find the "perfect" man out there, so if it's just sex that you'd have to compromise on, that's not such a bad deal, right?
However, don't count on the fact that things will change. You can try to make things better between you guys, but don't count on it happening. That way you won't hold him to any conditions that he's unable to fulfill.
2007-11-05 16:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and he loves you then sex is no everything in the world if you can tell your self that you can grow old in the end and both of you can have a happy marriage together sex is not everything it keeps a relationship but it is not everything. For instance when you get old and it does not go up anymore sex is going to die out. When you'd rather watch a movie and cuddle with the special someone then there will be no more sex you need to see that sex is not everything in a relationship. You can kink up sex later in the relationship with forplay porn find out what terms him on. Take care and be happy best wishes. I have been married for 5 years in the beginning sex was everything to me but we had children we still have sex but it starts to die out but sometimes we have those hot and steamy nights were we can not take our hands off each other of course only when kids are sleeping.
2007-11-05 16:52:34 · answer #5 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex will always fade in time (good or bad)..so you have to have something to "fall back on". If you were to marry someone just for the good sex, it'd be a hollow/fake relationship. Marriage should happen when two people are deeply in love with eachother, not when you've found someone thats good in the sack. Of course, thats a DEFINITE plus, but if you truly love someone the sex will be nice no matter what. It may not be wild-and-crazy, but it'll be loving/fullfilling. If you're questioning whether or not to marry him because of the sex you've had with him so far..you might want to ask yourself "how mature am I to even be CONSIDERING marriage?". Just my two-cents here.
2007-11-05 16:43:25 · answer #6 · answered by :-) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EVERY guy wants to please their woman, that is why they are so obsessed with size among other things. Let him know what you like sexually and make sure you are having your orgasms too. Make sure he knows what and where the clitoris and the g-spots are. To do this in a loving manner, get a book you can look at together. Sometimes though, all the tech help in the world can't help the sex if you are not emotionally connected with him enough for orgasm. Best Of Luck!
2007-11-05 16:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by Well...you wanted an answer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you should marry him if you truly love him. You can do many things to spicy things up in the bedroom once you are more comfortable with each other. There are many ways to teach him the things you really like and/or introduce new things into the bedroom. It is of coarse your decision. But I don't think you should base it on sex alone b/c that can be improved.
2007-11-05 16:35:28 · answer #8 · answered by misbotta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you see yourself being happy with him forever? That's the big question sex comes and goes, but if you truly want to spend the rest of your life with him you have to take the good and the bad, if the biggest question is about the sex it doesn't seem like you are ready. Don't marry until your relationship is what you want it to be.
2007-11-05 16:40:30 · answer #9 · answered by sweetseekinlife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How important is sex to you? Is this something you can work out with some TLC and experimentation? There are so many other facets to a marriage!! And the advice about why people stray is horse pucky!! :))
Many people would welcome an opportunity to learn about new and creative ways to make love. Perhaps he is willing too?
2007-11-05 16:34:39 · answer #10 · answered by that judi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋