People go out of their ways to have lavish weddings and receptions. But, why? What is it about the big wedding that is so appealing? Do women really want this, or are the conditioned to want this? My parents went to see the JP and they've been married 45 years. I have friends and cousins that have been married for 10 years or less, and are divorced, seperated or unhappy (and they had the big wedding). Women let me know?
2007-11-05 08:26:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I never found large extravagent weddings appealing. Its a waste of time and money and just creates stress.
2007-11-05 09:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by Keltasia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some of it is conditioning, that and we live in a "bigger is always better" society where people are always trying to one up each other. Two of the members of my band got married this past summer; the ceremony was small and cost almost nothing, my mom made the dress, my grandma did the flowers, this was all their gift. The reception was at someone's house, we wore jeans and had a potluck. It was the most spiritual and loving celebration I've ever been a part of, and I think they have a good chance of being together until parted by death. My godsister had a HUGE expensive blow out, married her college sweetheart, also a very spiritual and loving, family centered event. I think they have a good chance of seeing it through, also. My wedding was medium sized, but we sucked as a couple, (okay, he sucked, but I picked him out), so we lasted about 5 years and then went down in flames! I don't think that the size of the wedding is the indicator so much as the spirit of it and the couple involved.
Btw, my ex husband wanted a huge do, but I wanted a small family celebration, so it's not always the woman who wants the big wedding!
2007-11-05 08:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It used to be a genuine act of celebration, now it's just to show off. Women want the best dress and the best jewelry and the prettiest hair, etc etc etc. You go in debt for thousands , for less than an hour of glory. If you ask me, newlyweds have better things to spend their money on (like the downpayment on a house, maybe?) My best friend got married even though she wasnt sure about the guy she was marrying, just because she wanted the big wedding. She got married at 21, she's 24 now and has been seperated for a year. I'd rather have a small gathering with close friends and family, than some big blow out.
2007-11-05 08:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by Dani 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a small but nice wedding, and I wouldn't even want to do that again. Way too much stress. I am divorced now and am glad that my parents didn't shell out all kinds of dough on a failed marriage. I think it would have made me feel kind of obligated to stay in it longer if they had. If I ever get married again, we are going straight to the courthouse and getting married, or mabye elope or something. No lavish weddings here! I would have a good reception- like party though. No stupid napkins with our names on them or anything, but a good dinner and then rocking out!! I say if you can stay together for 20 years, have the big lavish ceremony to renew your vows. By then, you should know if you are going to stay together forever!
2007-11-05 08:45:47 · answer #4 · answered by GiGi! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 33 years now and got married in Vegas.I was young and a bit disappointed in my wedding because my sisters had large weddings.I guess I felt ripped off.One sister got divorced after 2 years and the other has gone through 4 husbands already.
It's weird, as I get older, it doesn't matter any more, I still have the same husband and that's all that matters to me.
2007-11-05 09:18:20 · answer #5 · answered by Marilyn T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judging from the high number of divorces and miserable marriages, I'd say that weddings are overrated. They seem to be more for the bride to show off than anything else.
2007-11-05 08:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by Subconsciousless 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are supposed to be genuine acts of celebration; however, they have morphed into eleborate dinner parties by those who are obsessed with the wedding and not necessarily with the sanctified institution of marriage.
So, I would say it all depends on the couple and their convictions about what's important, what's not and what they can truly afford without putting themselves, or their parents, into unnecessary debt.
2007-11-05 08:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by Cole 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
that is common. maximum infants act that way. i do no longer see what the vast deal grew to become into. it particularly is in comparison to you have been in a library or something the place silence is needed. It grew to become right into a commencement. that is okay to be excited. in spite of the indisputable fact that, while he gets out of hand only only take him outdoors for a jiffy and permit him understand he desires to quiet down slightly. perhaps purchase him a snack to help save him quiet or a toy.
2016-12-08 13:01:01 · answer #8 · answered by golub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my opinion is that women [not including me cause i act like a guy so]want to brag off to there friends that had a crush on ur boyfriend/husband and she married the one that her girlfriends liked
2007-11-05 11:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by bandtime35 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theyre real but why do ppl go overboard? be smart go to gatlinburg chapel and spend $1200 and feel great about it
2007-11-05 08:37:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋