my bf got me pregant, he said that he would stay with me and support this baby, i'm worried though. My brother does'nt know yet, he is 21. Kale (my brother) told me when i was 15 and had him as a boyfriend that if he got me pregant, he would kill him. I have a stepdad and 3 step sisters all much younger, (7, 7, 9.) and 1 step brother (jake, 14.) i have 3 bio brothers all oler (18, 19, 21) My step dad hates me. I'm afraid to tell him because i know he and Kale will kill my boyfriend. How do i tell them i'm pregant? How do i get them to not kill Adam? Any good parenting tips?
2007-11-05 08:18:28 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Your family may be upset, but I highly doubt they'd actually murder your boyfriend. It takes two to tango after all...you were involved in making the baby just as much as your boyfriend was. You need your family's support. You might as well tell them now because you can't hide something like a pregnancy for very long.
2007-11-05 08:26:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear you are in this difficult situation. But remember your boyfriend did not "get you pregnant." It takes two to make a baby and you are both responsible for being sexually active before marriage.
I'm about 99 percent sure that your brother and step-father will not kill Adam. Men often say aggressive things like this as a sort of protective measure, hoping it will dissuade someone from doing something risky (which you did).
Yes, they will be upset and angry at your boyfriend. But they should have been upset in the first place because you were being sexually active. That was the first mistake.
If you are only 16, still in school and still living at home, how is Adam going to "stay with you and support the baby?"
Does he have a full-time job? Is he ready to marry you and make a home for you?
If the answer is NO to both questions, he is not ready to be a father. I admire his intentions, but he probably can't follow through at this point. You both need to finish school and stop having sex.
Offer your baby for adoption. I know it might seem very hard to give it up, but as the mother you can make this sacrifice for your child. If you love your child, then think of what's best for him/her - a stable and loving and financially secure home with a married mother and father.
Check into a crisis pregnancy center to initiate the adoption process and talk with some amazing and very caring women.
My prayers are with you.
2007-11-05 10:10:30 · answer #2 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a parent or anything like that but I know that even at the age of 16 a child could do so much better. I'm against abortion, and I'm sure you don't want that. If the father's around then think about everything, and what options you have. Even if you have a big family around you the responsibility is on you. I know two people who when they were your age were pregnant. One of them gave the baby up for adoption but still gets updates and she's doing really well. The other kept the baby and the father left and they're struggling with having a young child and having a job with not enough education to get her far. I would think about everything that you can over this, and seriously think about if you're willing to give your whole life up at 16.
2007-11-05 08:26:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
im sure they wont kill him, this is their grandchilds father they wouldnt want to cause the loss of the babys father. im sure they will be angry especially as you are still very young, but thats a natural parent thing. once they come round to the idea they will be there for you and supportive of whatever you want to do. you need to tell them asap as the longer you leave it the harder it will be. make sure you show them you are acting maturely about the sitation. good luck.
2007-11-05 08:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by * Mummy to 2 Girls * 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋