What is your opinion on how often a married couple of 3.5 years should be having sex?

Question

Our communication about work, the dog, the daily stuff is fine. We have never really talked about sex before. We've been together 7 years in total and have no kids. Just a dog. We used to be the couple that had sex 3-4 times a week, now it's 3-4 times per month. But not suddenly, just decreasing over time.

Answer 1

That's not good....... You have to have a talk with him and find out whats up... If you know for sure its not you then its him...... Why? mmmm? 7 years you should still be doing it at least 3 times per week.... Good luck Grant M in Pennsylvania

Answer 2

There is an old adage that for every time a couple had sex during the first year of marriage a bean would be put in a container. Every time sex was performed thereafter a bean would be removed. Rumor has it that it would take six years to empty the container. The number to times a couple married 3.5 years should have sex depends upon the couple. Some are far more passionate than others.

Answer 3

hello, That is kinda up to you and your relationship. My husband and I have been together 13 years and married 9 of those I have gained about 70 lbs since then and we still have a very great sex life at least 2 times a week and sometimes more and he works 6 days a week 10 hour days. Sex is suppose to be about the closeness together. It is all about you relationship. My sister has been married 6 years has three girls and she only has sex once every 3 months or so. and they have a great marriage... I hope this helps it all depends on the relationship, the daily circumstances and life in general.

Answer 4

At least about 3-4 times per week.

Answer 5

I have been with my partner for 6 years and married for almost two. WE have two children under the age of three. I would love to have sex at least twice a week but the reality is closer to twice a month if we are lucky. either i am tired, he is tired, baby will not sleep or whatever. The thing to do though is try to make a time, go to bed early or even in the morning wake up an hour earlier than normal. We have been pretty slack, but sex is not the most imprtant part of a marriage, it is the most fun part. Good Luck,

Answer 6

There is not a definitive answer here. If you are both happy not having a lot of sex, then it isn't an issue. The problem is when there is an imbalance of desire. I once knew a happy couple who had been together together for 15 years and claimed to do it every night no matter what, I thought this sounded totally awful (and TMI!!!!) but to each their own!

Answer 7

Depends on if you have kids or not, they definately can diminish the oomph of sex. I think 2x/wk is pretty good but I know for my husband and I we may not have it for weeks but we'll communicate it . Some days we'll do it four or five times a day and other times we're lucky to do it at all during the month. If we are under tremendous pressure from some things going on, we talk about the lack of sex but as long as we're both good about not having the sex, then we're ok, there's snuggling and other things going on. It's not a big deal.

Answer 8

At least 3 to 5 times a week.

Answer 9

I think the key here is are both people happy. If what you are looking for is the average it is 2-3 times per week. That means there is someone out there getting it 9-10 times a week to make up for the drought that is my marriage

Answer 10

However much they like. There shouldn't be an average for any couple. The average should be what they want. Is every couple the same? When I have been married for 3.5 years, it is still going to be 6 times a week. On my anniversary, yeah right.