Me and my now soon husband have been togther for over 2 years. To make a long story short...he has a child with his ex. He has done alot of bad things to me....for a year he was trying to get back togther with her and SLEEP with her fool around behind my back. A million times I have forgivin him.. of the things that he calls mistakes. They keep happening I always check is phone. One nite I came home he had a naked picture of her in his pic mailbox from her name and number but once again he claims that I would be leaving him for a mistake. It was n accident...this happend about 2 weeks ago. All this stuff is not new hes pulled this before alot of times. He saids baby I promise I will never hurt you again. Words get old after you hear them over and over again if anyone knows what I mean. Am suppost to get married in a few days!!!! All this revolves around his ex in the past and now, he claims he hates her...I think different. Do you think he is a cheat????
2007-11-05 08:08:59 · 12 answers · asked by mommy08 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
MAJOR stop sign! Continue on at your peril; yes, he is definitely a cheater and a liar and you just got a preview of coming attractions because you can count on more of the same and more meaningless apologies. He is trying desperately to get her back and might very well be trying to marry you to make her jealous; he is obsessed with her and he lies to you...I believe you know in your gut what he is and you just needed affirmation, well here it is; DUMP HIM!!!!!!!
2007-11-05 08:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry to tell you that he sounds like a lying cheat. But unfortunately you are the only one who can make that judgement.
Here's my advice. Listen very carefully and very honestly to your 'gut'. If you pay enough attention to yourself you will find that you know the answer. Don't be distracted by the part of you that says 'yeah but....' or 'what will everyone think...' or 'but i love him'. All of those thoughts are distracting your attention from the truth. You DO know if he's a cheat - just have the courage to listen to your truth.
Be strong - you need to act on the truth now before it gets a hundred times more difficult. Believe me - I've extracted myself from a marriage to a lying cheat and it took a long time, a river of tears and great pieces of my soul to get out of it. i would hate you to set off on that track if you don't need to.
love & blessings to see the truth
X
2007-11-05 16:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by pippi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line. He is keeping you both on the line in order to see what the best result is. You get married and he will say "baby, but we are married" so help me and "I love you".
He will have child support issues. And you already know the truth... he needs to clear up his past.
Bottom line... he is using you and leave before you get treated like the ex.
2007-11-05 16:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many times do you have to be smacked in the head before you realize you are being smacked in the head?
From what you've written, marrying this man would be a mistake. THEY DO NOT CHANGE JUST BECAUSE YOU MARRY THEM!!!! He will continue to play you for the fool as long as you let him.
2007-11-05 16:20:56 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious??
Has this man not hurt you enough?
Do you want more?
Ask yourself that before you get married. One important lesson I learned from my heart aches, is that men give us red flags and signals, however some women refuse to see them. You can't be that blind can you? If you enjoy someone treating you like that then yes get married, however if you want a normal life where someone loves you and is loyal to you, then move on!
2007-11-05 16:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by Lenka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants both of you. Until one of you pulls the plug, he'll continue to have both of you exactly where he wants you.
If it were me, I would have packed my bags a long time ago. I think you've paid your forgiveness "dues" and now you leave and find someone who will really love you.
He is not the last man you will love. Move on. Emotion is temporary.
2007-11-05 16:20:07 · answer #6 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want you to print out your question to us, stand in front of a mirror and read it out loud. After you cancel the wedding, and dump is sorry butt, come back here and thank me.
BTW, if you even for a second think he will change because you love him, you are WRONG. Men never change, no matter how much you want him to.
2007-11-05 16:18:12 · answer #7 · answered by javelin 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
These are HUGE red flags. I wouldn't marry him unless you want more of the same. He cheats.
2007-11-05 16:15:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
send me her pic---once i forward to a few friends, and they do, and so on-she will be far to busy to bother you--------also dont marry this creep
2007-11-05 16:32:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has you and he has her. he has two women that he is involved with. this is not going to change. accept that this is the way it is gonna be cause of their kid. its your call.
2007-11-05 16:19:09 · answer #10 · answered by jaded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋