my boyfriend loves me and i love him back, we want to start having sex but i do not know if i should what can i do, to take this thought out of my mind.....i do not want to end up pregnant what is some advice thank you
2007-11-05 08:08:29 · 22 answers · asked by gomez27985 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Abstain
No worries. No fears.
And don't think birth control will keep you safe. Young women get pregnant ALL the time while on birth control, yes even pills and the shot. Nothing is 100% effective.
If you spend enough time on Yahoo Answers you will see teens coming on here every day scared and confused because they got pregnant while on birth control.
Do you want to be one of those girls?
Of course you want to have sex with a guy you love. It's only human. And you look around and everyone else seems to be doing it. But what they are not telling you is about the unplanned pregnancies, and the STD's and the heartbreaks and the broken dreams. There is another side to the story.
Wait until you are married, hon. It is the responsible and mature thing to do.
2007-11-05 08:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by Veritas 7 · 11⤊ 3⤋
Don't do it. Birth control fails sometimes - I know people who got pregnant while on the pill or using condoms (and even using both! no joke!). And condoms don't protect you from all diseases anyways. Sometimes they break, and there is more skin-to-skin contact and more skin comes into contact with bodily fluids than just what is covered by the condom. Not to mention that some viruses can slip right through the pores of the latex. Is it worth the risk?
I have 2 kids with my husband. My best advice would be, if you aren't prepared to raise a child don't have sex. Wait until the two of you are married and have the finances in place to meet the needs of a baby. Because unless you have sex while you are menstruating (ew!!) you run the risk of getting pregnant, even if you use birth control. We waited until our wedding night (both of us were virgins) and I am glad we did - I got pregnant just a month into our marriage. Children are fantastic but they are a lot of work, and they need a stable home to grow up in with a mom and a dad who are committed to each other. I couldn't do this if we weren't married.
I know this makes me sound like June Cleaver! LOL But it is still true. Just wait. You won't regret waiting. Good luck!
2007-11-06 09:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by Blue Eyed Christian 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are old enough not to mention mature enough to know that you always look out for #1. You can always justify what you want in an instance, but then you, not your partner will pay the consequences, which will stay right by your side for next 18 years. Think long and hard at what's really important in your life. If you are looking for a life long partner, then do it the right way, If you are looking for sex, do it yourself or get something to help you achieve your short term high. It's a no brainer.
2007-11-05 16:38:08 · answer #3 · answered by kokie1949 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and formost the only way to ensure that you don't get pg is not to have sex. With that being said, I got pg 3 times all on birth control. 2 of the times a condom was also used. Unfortunatly for me, I lost those babies due to miscarriage. When I got pg those 3 times, I was using my birth control perfectly, never missed a pill and took it a the exact same time every day. The 3rd time I was on Depo. If your guy truley loves you, he will wait for you. If he won't wait, then you deserve better. You should not play with fire unless you are completely ready and prepared for the consequences.
2007-11-05 16:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by expctn#1 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you're married. That way there is a very high level of comitment and he can't just run off and leave if he wants to. There is more stability that way, too. Kids deserve to have two parents who are married and stable.
If you are not ready to be pregnant, then you are not ready to have sex. No form of birth control is 100% effective. Sex comes with consequences and responsibilities. If you are not ready for them, then you shouldn't be having sex.
If you are having to ask, then you are NOT ready!
2007-11-05 17:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by Amy B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont have sex...Condoms,pull out method,birth control and others are not 100% reliable and many women and young girls have gotten pregnant like this..I myself loved my boyfriend and he loved me very much (at the age of 19) and we ended up having sex and 2 months later i got pregnant at 19...she is now 6yrs old and we are still together married with 2 other beautiful babies...but it wasnt easy at the beginning...A LOT of men tell u they love u just to get in your pants...If he loved u he would wait..u and him are still so young and should start your careers first etc,anything can happen...
If i were u i would wait...u wont regret it!!
2007-11-05 16:14:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 1⤋
First of all, I would like to commend you for thinking about the serious decision you are about to make...that is one step at being a responsible adult.
When considering becoming sexually active, you need to acknowledge that although emotional love can be expressed sexually, the biological purpose of sex is for reproduction...this being said, pregnancy is ALWAYS a possibility.
If you are confident in your relationship, the next step will be to obtain a gynecologist to obtain knowledge of your own sexual/reproductive health. You can also obtain info. on contraceptive methods, how to use them properly, and their failure rates.
Unless you and your partner have been tested clear of any STDs, never trust anyone's word. Use condoms, they are the only method that will help prevent the spread of STDs.
Understand the consequences of sexual activity, the physical and emotional aspects, not just the joys.
In the end, if you don't think you are ready, then wait to have sex. You are a young adult and the decision is yours. Educate yourself in order to make the best decision.
www.plannedparenthood.org
Good luck.
2007-11-05 16:35:28 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica S 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't have sex if you're not ready to be a mother. Period.
Yeah I know you're in love, but does that make sex right? Of course not. You aren't married so you have no business having sex with a man that isn't your husband.
I can't believe these people telling you to get on birth control. That is so irresponsible given that birth control FAILS every day. Plus, do these people not think you are mature enough to choose to wait until marriage. Do they think you are not strong enough to do the right thing?
I think you can do it. I think you can be mature and wait.
2007-11-05 16:24:18 · answer #8 · answered by Dixie Cat 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Take it from a man who knows. You think your hormones are raging. Ok multiply that by ten and now you know how your boyfriend feels.
He's not talking from his heart. I'm not saying he doesn't care about you, but the fact is men have a very strong sexual drive and they will put a woman in danger of pregnancy and disease and heartbreak just to satisfy their body.
If this guy really loves you BUT he won't wait until marriage, then run far away from him!
Only abstinence is truly safe.
2007-11-05 16:20:20 · answer #9 · answered by Knight of Malta 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
If a guy loves you, he will wait until you are his wife to have sex with you.
Ask your boyfriend if he loves you and respects you that much.
Ask him if he knows that having sex might put you at risk for getting pregnant (even if you're on birth control). See if he's willing to take that risk just to satisfy his hormones.
2007-11-05 16:16:59 · answer #10 · answered by Arabella 3 · 9⤊ 0⤋