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We are moving and he wigs out.

2007-11-05 07:58:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

12 answers

With empathy.

2007-11-05 08:02:39 · answer #1 · answered by kja63 7 · 0 0

How should you "handle" him? Maybe you should back off and give him a break. The last thing he probably needs is you hounding him, trying to figure out what his problem is, and adding to the stress level. If you want to do something nice, try bringing him a cold beer and the remote control. Tell him what a good job he's doing in certain areas. Massage his ego a bit so he doesn't feel like he's so out of control. The last thing he needs right now is you adding to the stress level by hounding him.

2007-11-05 08:02:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1 0

I have had a similar situation involving a move. But I was the one that didn't take it too well. My husband just stood by me. He said he knew it would get better and it was a rough time for me. It was a whole year for us, but there was more than just a move that we were dealing with. But my advice would be to give him time to adjust and deal with this. Everyone deals with situations differently. But be there for him if he does need someone to vent to and just help him through it. You both will be a stronger couple when you get through it. It made me and my husband stronger and now I know I can count on him for anything. Good luck.

2007-11-05 08:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

first of all there extremely isn't any excuse on your husband to no longer %. up the %. and actually provide help to out. He would love you and he would % a "infant" with you yet that does no longer mean he had any concept what artwork it became going to be that might actually assist you throughout the being pregnant. i did no longer think of of it yet what the others above reported approximately having your wellbeing care professional clarify to him the obstacles is a exceptionally solid concept. in my opinion, and it extremely is from becoming up with a father who became vacant and/or lazy. i think of it extremely is the way he's and you in all possibility won't have the means to alter him. attempt and wait and notice some and pass to the wellbeing care professional with him, and so on yet finally it extremely is probably who he's. provide it a raffle and after a whilst if issues are not getting extra beneficial with him then deliver him on his way packing and break up. Being a single mom on my own will probably nonetheless be easier than being married to a father who's ineffective weight the will arises drag around each and all the time. ignore that. As a guy i will definitely say that at an exceedingly youthful age I observed what my mom went by using with this very form of venture. I additionally observed what my dad did and how it effected mom. definitely, I observed that it would be a substantial hardship and hardship each and all the time to have infants and all of that so I reported "ignore that, no longer doing it". so which you will possibly on the present time at 40-one I actual have on no account had infants and besides being gay i became unlikely to rigidity as lots approximately it besides. the actuality nonetheless remains that if a guy has a spouse and a newborn he desires to step as much as the plate in spite of regardless of inconveniences. apart from liking adult men first of all I additionally found out that i did no longer % infants and the common jobs that comprise it. I wish adult men extremely knew whilst they weren't going to be a father and only come to a decision to ignore a pair of kin and perchance marriage altogether in the event that they be attentive to they're going to wing up being ineffective weight in a kin that drags the spouse down and gadgets a foul occasion for the youngsters.

2016-09-28 09:45:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Moving is very stressful and often very hard work. Just be understanding and it will work out in the end. Good Luck!

2007-11-05 08:02:33 · answer #5 · answered by david 3 · 2 0

first of all buy a bunch of beer (and a bottle of wine or some xanax for yourself) second, dont speak to him unless you have no other choice. third buy more beer.. (and more xanax..).lol i have learned to do the stressful things by myself. pack while he is working.. etc i try to handle everything i can so it doesnt stress him out too much. my man dont mind the work just the stress of preparing the work try that and good luck

2007-11-05 08:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by chrysti's midlife crisis 6 · 0 0

Be patient with him. Depending on how he prefers to relax, you could either give him space, or do something that helps him relax, like rubbing his shoulders.

Try to come from a place of understanding and patience and it will keep him from getting quite so worked up in the first place. Keep yourself calm, and he'll follow your lead.

2007-11-05 08:03:39 · answer #7 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 0 0

my suggestion either talk to him about why he is wigging out and let him vent or don't react at all and maybe he will get the point.

2007-11-05 08:01:53 · answer #8 · answered by beautiful tragedy 4 · 0 0

just talk to him, and tell him your there for him. i know how it can be to move and have a husband under all the pressure, so all you can do is be there for him and talk about why he's feeling this way. good luck.

2007-11-05 08:05:16 · answer #9 · answered by hiswife04 2 · 1 0

Try asking him whats bothering him, and then Listen. Dont interupt, just listen. Let him get it out.

2007-11-05 08:03:15 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine man 3 · 1 0

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