My best friends husband has a personal page on an online dating site. He has himself listed as a single person. My question is, should I tell my friend about her husband's page on this site? I'm thinking that I may ruin my friendship with her for not telling her as I knew about this page for about a year. I know, I know, I just didn't want to cause any static in their relationship. This is tearing me up because my friend and I are real close, she was there when I delivered my daughter and if I go on to glory, I want her and her husband to raise my kids.
2007-11-05 07:44:34 · 13 answers · asked by Nikki 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm positive that it's still active because they moved two months ago and he changed his location.
2007-11-05 07:53:43 · update #1
Create an anonymous email acct and then send her the link to his page. She won't know who it came from, but she does deserve to know he is a pig.
2007-11-05 07:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by Enlightened One 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First check to see if it is active, when was the last time he checked the page, etc.
Second if it is still active and he looked recently (within past 3 months), then why don't you just show her by saying you have to show her this page, don't give details until she sees it with her own eyes. But, if it is inactive just sweep it under the rug because he must be committed to her, etc.
Third, if she is as close as you say she is you should of did something about it a year ago when you saw this page.
Good luck.
2007-11-05 15:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by Blessed and Happy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have they been married? It may not be recent and he just never deleted it (unless it is a paid site). Check the picture, does it look recent?
I think you need to at show her but without passing judgment.
What I mean is don't say "I found out your husband is a cheater look at this!" but instead just say "I came across this online and I wanted to show you".
Although she will ask you how you found it. Did you check him out just to see if he was there? Be prepared to answer these types of questions. It is better that she may feel some anger now than in a year from now she discovers on her own and then you need to tell her you already had suspicions.
2007-11-05 15:55:47 · answer #3 · answered by tinyavenger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that you should tell her that you have to show her something and then let her know from there how you feel. Try not to get into too many details because after that if they turn out to be ok then they will point fingers to you and you don't want that. Just let her know if not try to e-mail the page to her or something but since both of you are close you should tell her the truth. Goodluck. Remember to show her the page that you saw.
2007-11-05 15:51:08 · answer #4 · answered by bnm0044 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the husband if he is really close to you he will let you know whats up if he don't do any thing to fix it then i would let his wife know but be prepare and save the page if you can because he may try to make you end up like a lier be careful on this one
2007-11-05 15:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure the site is even active. I mean if it has been there over a year ago, maybe it is not in use. But even still if you and her are really close and you consider her a friend I would try to mention it to her.
2007-11-05 15:48:39 · answer #6 · answered by ?? yaddajean ?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends...
Check the "Last On" date.
If he's logged in in the last couple of weeks, then it becomes awkward.
If he hasn't logged on for some time...and they know you visit these sites (presumably you're a single mom?), you can bring it up in a "I found a funny thing on-line..." sort of way - with both of them at the same time.
Who knows, it might be the page he used to catch your friend!
2007-11-05 15:57:51 · answer #7 · answered by jcurrieii 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I think you should rethink your decision. Why would you want to have your kids raised by a family that could disintegrate at any moment. Any married man who has an add on a singles dating site is no man to be raising your kids.....think about it.
2007-11-05 15:50:12 · answer #8 · answered by skiingstowe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send her an anonymous tip, and then the chips fall where they may. Why didn't you tell her when you first found out? How can you be so sure that it's her husbands web page?
2007-11-05 15:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definately tell her about it and tell her where she can check it out herself. If I were in her situation, I would resent my husband for that crap, but I would be very grateful to the friend that opened my eyes to it.
2007-11-05 18:09:18 · answer #10 · answered by TwinMommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋