I printed everything out. Why won't guys just admit when they cheat. WHy would someone cheat on a wife, and deny the whole thing?
2007-11-05 07:33:49 · 28 answers · asked by Karmin T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Choose your battles.
If you truly want to make a go of your marriage, take this as a red flag .. it's not even about the action .. it's the thought .. so if it's ok with you, ignore it .. if it's not .. then talk to him with love .. "I know you did this, this hurts me. I want our marriage to work, but how can it if you do this?! Even if you are playing or messing around, that's playing with fire and I'm not willing to take that risk. If you feel the need to email .. email ME, not a dating site!" .. if that doesn't work, good luck!
2007-11-05 08:34:30 · answer #1 · answered by Queenie` 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
They think if they deny it then it didn't really happen. I think him doing it and then denying it when he got caught is a pretty good indicator that you either need to end things or get counseling. I was in the same situation (we were only married 3 years though) and when confronted, my husband claimed that he had done it so that I would catch him and talk to him about it! Can you say "lame" excuse? My own husband for whatever reason felt it was easier to communicate with me through the internet, than to just come out and say that he felt there was something going wrong with our relationship. This came on top of several other events that made it so I just could not trust him anymore and I ended our marriage. Whether you do the same is up to you. Is this the first time? Are there other things in your relationship that set off warning bells? At the very least I'd recommend some marriage counseling if the both of you decide to make this work.
2007-11-05 07:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by tonja_95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just amaze me! Its hard to answer your question of "why" someone would cheat on their wife, but denying it is pretty simple. He's probably just scared to lose you, even though he's been cheating, I'm sure he still loves you. See if he would be willing to go to counseling. Maybe there's something he's not comfortable with in your relationship and seeks better with others. He should admit it though, it would be a lot easier for you... Good luck.
2007-11-07 00:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by kimberlygrichard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has no clue how to address this and take responsibility for it, so the easiest thing is to deny it. It's really dumb, but this is why he is lying. Cowardly men do this. He would be so much better off (for his own dignity, not that it would save the relationship) just owning up to it like a man and taking the high road. Liars are so pathetically transparent....and kinda funny too, right?
2007-11-05 07:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by consideringall 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Husbands cheat on a wife, and deny the whole thing because they think they would get away with it.
2007-11-05 07:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If he's denying it and you printed out the proof, he's insulting your intelligence. Get a married but looking page of your own and let him see it, kinda by accident. See how he likes it then. If he confronts you deny the whole thing.lol
2007-11-05 07:52:12 · answer #6 · answered by nikkinics 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wasn't cheating, just playing around.
I have made several personal accounts on those match sites, not to attact women, but to make one for my wife and see if the site really works.
Most of the time it is just either old data, playing, or doing something stupid.
Rule of thumb is deny everything. Just a FYI.
2007-11-05 07:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by David G 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
What he did is cover his tail by lying. This is not good because he broke a trust factor and a respect level. He is in denial. Many men want there cake and eat it too. Do you feel you can trust him ? Can you live with what he did and move on ? I would keep a eye on whats going on and if he's going to continue being single and dating I would move out or move him out till he knows what he has or moves on. Sorry your going through this !!
2007-11-05 07:57:18 · answer #8 · answered by Hugs from Sugar bug 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should he admit anything to you? Even though you know he cheated (he wouldn't have taken out the ad if he didn't) you are still giving him the benefit of the doubt by being there with him right?
That's why!
2007-11-05 07:38:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is telling the truth. Even kids these days sign people up for things that will hurt them in the long run to be mean or get them back for something. Adults aren't any better at times.
Unless you have proof, like the account is linked to an email address that he only has access to, then just tell him to contact the company and have them delete the profile. If he refuses, then he may be guilty after all.
2007-11-05 07:40:38 · answer #10 · answered by Shannon 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋