2007-11-05 07:30:01 · 39 answers · asked by lottab2004 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It is not that close friends disappoint any more than the average Joe Blow or Jane Blow.
It's just that our close friends are the ones we love and we hold them to a higher standard than we do anyone else.
So when they do something that we are not pleased about, it affects us more than had that same disappointment come from someone we didn't care so much about.
You've heard the expression: We always hurt the one we love.
Same here. Because we love them, they hurt us the most.
2007-11-05 07:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! Close friends always seem to disappoint the most because they're your friends and you expect them to be there for you and do everything for you but the truth is they can't! We have to face it that even if they're close friends they're still normal people and they can still make mistakes and mess up stuff! Also you depend on them more and sometimes they can't always be there. So thats why close friends always tend to disappoint the most!! Hope i helped. Cherry
2007-11-05 07:43:55 · answer #2 · answered by Cherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's because the closer u get 2 sum1, the more u rely on them 2 be what u expected, and when they aren't, it can really hurt. Also nobody's perfect, so sometimes they accidentally may tell a secret that u didn't want told!! That's one of the biggest things tho. Sometimes friends are selfish, and the closer u get to them, u realize the more they are into themselves. Then sometimes, your friend may tell u the truth about something, and it hurts, but u really needed to hear it!! Also when they tell a secret, because u relyed on them so much, u feel betrayed, and done wrong!
2007-11-05 07:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by helga&olga_bff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a couple of old sayings that I think apply here -- "You can only be betrayed by those closest to you" and "keep your enemies close and your friends closer". As cruel as it sounds, the ones who hurt you the most are the ones who know where the bodies are buried, so to speak...Close friends disappoint so much more because we trust them and we expect them to cherish that trust and protect it....
2007-11-05 07:35:20 · answer #4 · answered by slowride_29_1976 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people turn out to disappoint those around them at some point. The reason that it seems that close friends disappoint more than other people is that either you have shared more with them than other people, or you have shared more deeply with them than other people.
2007-11-05 07:33:58 · answer #5 · answered by Casey G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever heard the expression to those who have more, more is expected (or something like that it was on desperate house wives) well anyway i think that you think that they should care about you the most and do anything for you like best friends do in books or movies, but the truth is they shouldn't be held to that high of a standard, think if you were like in love with a guy/girl you wouldn't expect a kind-of friend to not flirt with him/her but you would expect your close friends to not flirt with them and they might. i think the reason behind this is that so much reliability is put on close friends from the die hard devotions of those in books and movies. i find that it really is your expectency of your close friends compared to your sort of friends. think about it, if your sister took your boyfriend or if your neighbor did, who would you feel more betrayed by?
PS i hope i helped because i found this out through experience with friends who werent as close as i thought they were
2007-11-05 07:44:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because their deeds matter the most. One could not care as much regarding disappointment or injury from a complete stranger.
But friends / loved-ones. Ouch!!
2007-11-05 07:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by Slick98 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because with close friends you expect more from them. You tend to depend on them more for certain things. For example with a close friend you known forever you know you can count on them vs. some who is just a "friend". And if they dont follow through it lets us down more because we counted on them.
2007-11-05 07:34:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you rely on them so much more, the relationship you have with close friends can be as strong as you would have with a partner. So when they let you down it can hurt just the same.
2007-11-05 07:35:16 · answer #9 · answered by THT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're much closer to you and therefore in a better position to cause hurt. If the friendship has gone on for a long time and means a lot to you, you can do your best to talk it over with them. But sometimes you have to let things go. :( Good luck.
2007-11-05 07:33:11 · answer #10 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋