I saw my ex husband (divorced 7 years) this weekend at a baptism that one of our mutual friends had for their daughter. I am very happily remarried and my current husband was with me and I've always been attracted to him. The weird thing is, I was physically attracted to my ex this weekend! That hasn't happened since we've split, even freshly separated, so it's a little strange. Has anyone else ever had that attraction again after a divorce or separation? Did you mention it to your current spouse? Thanks for your help.
2007-11-05 07:15:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just an FYI - I'd never ever get back with the ex and I'd NEVER let him into my stable again! ;)
2007-11-05 07:40:20 · update #1
I have been attracted to my ex several times sense our divorce. Dicorce isn't an anti-afrodisiac. there was something that drew you to him one... that hasn't changed. You just found out about all of the other stuff that you didn't know about or had blinded yourself to. But the parts that you like are still there. No, I havn't mentioned it to my current husband as it would serve no purpose and he wouldn't understnad that my physical attraction doesn't mean that I am not making plans of leaving him for the one that I obviously didn't want. Men are just too complicated.
Just smile to yourself and remember: You had that good looking thing in your stable once and that he wasn't a good enough pony to keep and then take pride in the stallion by your side and be damn proud of yourself that its been a great rodeo!
~Tyed~
2007-11-05 07:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by owltyedup 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have been divorced for two years and there are moments that I see my ex and feel a glimmer of attraction to him. I think it is mainly because I see something in his eyes that reminds me of how I used to love him. It's always fleeting and I think it is reminiscent of old times when things were simpler and love was innocent. Nothing more.
My current spouse and I are open and honest about things like that so I may mention it to him if it ever came up, but I don't think I would go out of my way to tell him. If your current spouse is also divorced he might better be able to understand what you are feeling. If he is insecure and threatened by your ex in any way I would let it drop.
2007-11-05 09:17:22 · answer #2 · answered by wendysorangeblossoms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after being divorce serval years my ex and I were found at the same place at the same time. We were getting along very well and old feeling started up. we ended spending the night together and I became very confused with my feelings. Luckly the next day he started back to his same ways and I left in a hurry. The next time i saw him was years later( like 17) and all I could think was " I was attracted tto that?" Long story short I think it's normal and it will pass. Don't tell the new husband it will only hurt him and damage your relationship.
2007-11-05 10:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't been married before, but I was in several serious and long-term relationships before I got married. I don't think I'd be surprised if I saw an ex and was attracted to him. I mean, you were obviously attracted to him at one point since you married him, so why would that attraction necessarily go away? I would NOT mention this to your husband though. There is no need to share your thoughts about your ex with him and I can guarantee that it would hurt him. I'd be crushed if my husband told me he found his ex-wife attractive. If you must tell someone (besides us), tell a girlfriend.
2007-11-05 07:21:17 · answer #4 · answered by crabbyone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attraction was never a issue between me and my first husband. Not that we would act on that now...we are two very different people now.
Now my second X husband...I throw up a little in my mouth when I think of him. Can't believe I was with him for so long, I must have been really F'd up in the head. He's just a nasty, rotten teeth having drunk with a horrible disposition. He never deserved me.
2007-11-05 07:37:10 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been divorced from my ex since December. i probably always will be attracted to him in some way--he's a very handsome man. At first I even wondered why I divorced him and thought maybe it was a mistake. When I started thinking of all the bad things, he sure wasn't very attractive at all.
2007-11-05 07:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by dinny's engaged!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are the ex-husband here. No she will not come back to you no matter how much better she is than your current girlfriend. You do not love her or you would not be so angry nor would you have torn up the pictures. Make up your mind, first you say you still love her then you say you hate her. She would be crazy to come back to you.
2016-04-02 06:43:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always thought my ex-husband was a nice looking man. Of course, then I have to remind myself that Ted Bundy was, too.
2007-11-05 07:24:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and I have not re-married and neither has he. We have spent the last 4 years on and off. Oh well :o(
2007-11-05 07:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by Irish Ellen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would'nt mention it to my new husband, after all it's just a fantasy.
2007-11-05 07:19:08 · answer #10 · answered by cooter726 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋