Would you ever consider hiring someone to check in on your elderly parent or run errands for them?

Question

If he/she wanted to remain independent but was
struggling to meet day to day demands?

If your parent would not move in with you?

Answer 1

Well my parents are already there and I gave up my job and my home to come take care of them myself. I realize that not all folks can do that. But that is what I am doing, caring for my own parents. Although I did get another job close to their house to where I can still take care of them myself. I don't want another person taking care of them or running errands for them. I want to do all that myself.

But if I was not able to do this, then I would find someone that I could trust all the way, and do a back ground check on them as well.

Answer 2

I have gone through all the answers and I do have to say that the children are very considerate indeed.However, here in India we would find this very idea monstrous.The natural habitat of the old are the nest of their son(if no son then there could be problems) even if it may cause some dislocation for the son and company.The errands the olds want to run are very few which can be easily run by the son,daughter in law or the grandchildren.If there are more than one issue the old couple could rotate among them as they desire though normally it is eldest of the lot who shoulders this responsibility.In fac, one NGO in Delhi were hard put to it to get senior citizens for their Old Age Home. If somehow they could grab some old man the next day his son would come beseeching for letting him take away the old man since with his departure he and his house has almost been boycotted by this neighbourers . They do not say anything but they are not blind not to see the disapproval in their glances. The family ties are still strong in this part of the world. Of course with the changing times this idea of securing help to tend the old is catching up but the old values are hard to be devalued and new values accepted. I hope(as an old man)the old values will prevail.

Answer 3

I think ' bro boss' has some good links there. People don't like to loose their Independence, but sadly, that day will come. I would suggest that you hire someone, and let them take your parent with them. So they still feel part of doing the errands. And when they are tired, they can sit down and let the other person carry on doing the errands.

Prayer, also helps, to make someone, open their heart to suggestions you are making. I know it is stressful for you. I hope you can sort the problem out.

Answer 4

We are in the midst of having a hard time with the parents. Mom has had two heart attacks from taking care of Pops. He refusee to admit he need nursing care until she almost died.

Now they are more open to it, and are looking for the right place.

Luckily, they have always had a housekeeper, and it turned out her daughter is an in home care nurse, so we were able to pursuade them to have her in while Mom was in the hospital. Mom has now asked the daughter to only come once a week on the same day as her Mom (housekeeper). I am not pleased.

Answer 5

I paid friends to cook, do light cleaning and marketing for mom. She would fire them. This one lady always called me in tears because my mom fired her. They didn't speak the same language. I finally found a good lady that enjoyed mom. They played dress up together and laughed a lot. But her back went out. About that time I had to put her into a nursing home for Alzheimer's.

I would hire someone all over again if I were in a similar situation.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

If my parents lived independently, yes. My Dad is deceased and my mom lives in assisted living.

However, I would ASK them if it was OK if someone ran errands for them every now and then...it's a touchy area for many elderly folk who have fierce pride...so how it is presented would be the key IMHO

Answer 8

it all depends on your situation as well as on your elderly.
if you try checking others who have expeienced the help the result was a good advantage of both party. As long as you are part involve by double checking the needs and progress of having the help.

i did experienced it and felt good of the good experienced and nice memory with the family.
the appreciation alone makes me feel great day by day.
AFTER all it's not the material needs we want in this life.
But being a help and kind to those who needs it is the best in life there is.

Answer 9

I've been through it all and have come up w/ several ways, depending on their level of self sufficiency and acceptance of your "checking".
I hired a young lady that worked for me at my business and who also did small cleaning jobs, to go by twice a week and "clean-up". Once mother got used to the idea, she enjoyed it. Coupled w/ a nurse checking on her every other week and a service (that I now contribute to) that serves a meal a day to "shut-ins", I had a check point several times a week and two of them checked in with me and let me know of needs ... that I had missed on my own checks or when I worked away from the area.
She objected to; seniors day care, bill paying/shopping helper, therapist ("occupational" therapist who tried to involve her in games, artwork ...) and the neighborhood babysitter stopping by.
Over time, she moved to assisted living, at the suggestion of several of her own friends, and loved it until strokes brought her to live w/ me, a step she rejected until then.

Answer 10

Yes, I would urge my parents to use this type of service if they get to the point where they need the help unless they wanted to come live with me. Even then, I might consider a 'helper' because I travel at times.