I was on his computer and his facebook account was open and i read his inbox, i know is horrible and if it was him doing that to me there would be hell to pay, but i found a note he sent some girl from his hometown saying "i wanna eat that p****y" that word first of all disgust me, and now i have to imagine my boyfriend saying that to some girl via email... what should i do? and how do i confront him without him defending himself using the invasion of privacy thing?
2007-11-05 06:20:14 · 36 answers · asked by mel_2512 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you are going to confront him, then basically the relationship is over. So just break up with him, and tell him that the email was the reason.
No good can come from you bringing this up to him. The question you have to ask yourself is do you trust him, and can you get over it.
2007-11-05 06:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by blizebliz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend does the same thing. I basically take it as....he doesnt trust you. He has your email password & checks your texts because at some point, hes hoping he'll find something you were hiding from him (just so he could prove to himself that he had a reason to be suspicious). If you confront him, he'll never admit that he actually doesnt trust you, so dont even bother with that. Just try to work on your trust issues with him....& let him know how much it hurts your feelings & makes you feel guilty. Tell him you need some space, so he needs to back off a little bit because you dont do the same thing to him. If you dont do something about it now, he'll do it for the rest of your relationship, trust me.
2016-04-02 06:38:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it was wrong for you to open up his facebook mail & read it, but let's face it: he's cheating on you. It doesn't matter if he has actually had sex with this girl or not (or any other girl). He's sending around messages saying that he wants to cheat.
I don't think that you should be that overly worried about hurting his feelings. I think that you should dump his sorry butt right now. Once a cheater, always a cheater. There is no good reason for you to stay with this guy.
2007-11-05 06:24:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it should go both ways. it is not good for either of you to accept or send that type email to anyone besides each other. but the best thing to do would be to be honest and tell him how you ran across the message, but if he is not the type of person to take it well (invasion of privacy thing) then just pretend to him that this happened to a friend and see how he would react, that may help you decide how to approach him.
2007-11-05 06:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by Linda P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have had some sort of feeling or intuition that caused your curiosity to overtake your respect of his privacy and lead you to finding that. You must have known deep down that something wasn't right. Let him know this and that your feelings were validated by what you found. See if he has any good reason, and if not, good thing you found it so you can get rid of him now and not waste any more of your time with that douchebag
2007-11-05 06:32:52 · answer #5 · answered by cz73 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you need to decide whether you even want to be with the guy anymore after reading that. I don't know if I would ever trust my GF if she wrote something equivalent to that to someone.
If you still want to stay with him, confront him and deal with what comes. If he is worth staying with, he will probably be apologetic and explain himself and such.
If he gets really defensive, obviously he doesn't think there's anything wrong with what he said and did.
Me personally? I'd dump them and find someone you can trust and respect.
2007-11-05 06:29:21 · answer #6 · answered by wrx580 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep you should confront him. Him telling another female that he wants to eat her out is definitely something to discuss. Forget that invasion of privacy crap. If he is writing sh!t like that to other females then he deserves to get found out and you deserve better. Good luck sweetie!
2007-11-05 06:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st you invasion his privacy, 2ND it's could be just a on line friend so he probably not even know dat girl. but people say a lot of stupid thing on line than in a real life OK. just hold on to dat and keep looking for more stuff just in case he really know the girl.
2007-11-05 06:28:40 · answer #8 · answered by nick v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should confront him, if he is first talkin like that, and you dont like it, tell him. i have gone through the same thing, where my boyfriend has said something rude to another girl, and i didnt like the world, i talked to him about it and every thing turned out ok.also, if this is what he is saying about another girl, you need to find out if he is cheating on you... it is really important. and if he gives the whole "why are you invadin my privacy." then he needs to know that he shouldnt even be writing that stuff in the first place, to another girl even. show him who is boss, and confront him
2007-11-05 06:26:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He got caught fair and square. I know a lot of guys that do that kind of **** on myspace and facebook. And they always seem to get caught.
But !
Shame on you for reading his inbox that means you aren't very trusting (which served you well in this case)
2007-11-05 06:28:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋