I've been with my boyfriend for 10 yrs and we have two kids together. He has become this angry person who snaps at everything and has also become very insecure since I lost 25 pounds. I feel like maybe it's time that we go our seperate ways, but then I cant stand the thought of him being with someone else and having them around our kids. I don't know what to do. I've tried talking to him but he does not want to listen to anything that I have to say.
Anyone with good advise, please help!!
2007-11-05 06:18:14 · 9 answers · asked by g-girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He has also been unfaith full in the fast. I don't think he is doing it now because I just don't see where he would find the time, we were carpooling to work and he is always home with us on weekends. He always tell me that he loves me (everyday) and he's good at showing affection, but sometimes he is the biggest jerk and will sometimes say hurtfull things to me or will take his frustration out on me.
2007-11-05 08:28:28 · update #1
Tell him if he's not willing to listen to you and do what is needed to make you happy then he shouldn't be surprised when you leave him. It takes two to make a relationship work. If he's not willing then what are you really losing? A man who is so selfish he won't even do his part to make it work. You leave when you can no longer stand being miserable every day. Life's too short to waste much time being unhappy.
2007-11-05 06:30:14 · answer #1 · answered by shellshell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication works both ways: if he's cutting it from his end, there's not much you can do. You've tried to tell him what your concerns are, but if he won't listen you can't force him to. I also think it's time to move on in light of this, but why would you feel jealous of him being with someone else?? That shows a bit of insecurity..... not love, but just this feeling of "if I wasn't happy with you, you won't be happy with someone else either".... this is not healthy for either of you. In any case, how do you know he's not ALREADY with someone else at the same time he's still with you?? Having him living at the same house doesn't guarantee that he's "only" with you..... Also, his semi-permanent bad mood is showing that he's unhappy too. So if you're not happy anymore I think you should leave and find YOURSELF someone you can be happy with... and then you won't care a damn if you ex finds someone else as well....... good luck!
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2007-11-05 06:29:46 · answer #2 · answered by Lprod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first he should be happy about the 25 pounds would make me hug and kiss you more also if he is going to be with someone else so are you;;; maybe if both of you go for some pro help about relationships he might lose that angry person and if he does not wouldn't want to live with someone like that good luck
2007-11-05 06:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by john 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i think u guys should go counsellin 2gether seein that u hve kids 2gether. Atleast think abt ur kids first.
2007-11-05 06:30:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you've said it's time to leave him. It's not worth it for you or you children to be around that all the time. But that being said, still keep them in their life unless he does something to them.
2007-11-05 06:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, it takes two and if he is not willing to give a little, you have no choice but to end your relationship. Good Luck
2007-11-05 06:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's at a difficult time in his life, don't just drop and leave him! You should try couples counseling.
2007-11-05 06:23:50 · answer #7 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you leave after you have exhausted all possibilities and you can't communicate anymore. Don't make rash decisions. Do it because it's all that's left.
2007-11-05 06:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by dinny's engaged!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-11-05 06:24:43 · answer #9 · answered by Art 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋