can't orgasm, no matter what I do. My man makes me feel amazing, and I thoroughly enjoy our sex life, though I never seem to climax. Sex feels great, but I never have had that release everyone talks about. any suggestions? I am not under stress, and I am always relaxed and fully focused on what we're doing. What can I do to reach that peak?
(and I'm not just talking during intercourse. I can't reach this point on my own either! I've tried with toys, water, hands, anything I can think of... nothing! It's so frustrating! Please help!)
2007-11-05 05:55:52 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Trying each of these thing individually may not be the solution. You might consider combining a couple of the pleasures simultaneously. Try 2 toys in 2 spots (use imagination) while you use a finger on someplace special, while hubby watches. If you haven't found it, try to locate and experiment with your "G" spot. Trying to be a delicate as I can without getting a violation, here.
My wife tells me stories like this, from her friends on a regular basis, so I feel for you. Maybe you need to have a night dedicated to "finding your "O". Try anything and everything, with an open line of communication. If if feels good, tell him. If it's not doing the job, tell him. You just need to find the right combination of pleasure to get there.
2007-11-05 06:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The inability to orgasm is often a side-effect of antidepressant treatment. It may also occur as a side-effect of certain illnesses or sexual abuse. This report from the ADAM Healthcare Center details the causes, symptoms and treatments for this condition.
The key element here is to see your physician and get a recommendation for a good sex therapist. Relaxation and "not " focusing on the orgasm is the key to success. When one is overly concerned about reaching the "big O," the appreciation of the process goes away.
There is so much personal history and experience that is needed to be professionally explored, any suggestion here would be too general to be effective.
2007-11-05 14:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by Lou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
orgasm takes place in the brain dear, so there is a mental block you have regarding orgasm. Suggest you might benefit from seeing a cognitive behavioral therapist to work out the issue you have that is causing this block.
2007-11-05 14:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe u may want to check with your gynecologist to see if maybe there's a unknown condition/problem.
2007-11-05 14:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by krissy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋