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I'm 8 months pregnant and have been dealing w/ a lot because my husband and his family (wont even go into it). This morning, my husband was complaining about me...which is funny cuz he is a low-life who only cares about himself (yea, I wish I would of known he would act like this...but it all started when I got pregnant). Well this morning he started complaining about how lazy and worthless I am (I'M ON BEDREST!!) I am only suppose to lay on my side (complications from him causing high bp). I just was ignoring him as he kept trying to make me feel worthless and he grabbed my neck and then hit me across the head. It didn't hurt me, but now I just want to leave. The only problem is I'm so late in my pregnancy that it would be impossible to transfer insurance and doctors at this point (my parents live in another state) that's the only people I can go to...Please give me advice! I don't want my baby around this man nor his family...Thanks all!

2007-11-05 05:18:21 · 17 answers · asked by elle 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

Thanks to everyone for the advice. I'm staying in my state, but am moving into an apt. till I have my baby and then will probably move back home. Oh, and my parents are coming out today to help me move! Thank God...and thank all for advice!

2007-11-05 10:50:45 · update #1

17 answers

Ordinarily I would say move now but since Insurance is an issue wait till after the baby is born. Maybe your mom can come for the birth and stay till you are able to leave that way there is someone there if things get worse. Talk to your doctor tell him or her what is going on and find out how soon you can safely leave. Good Luck Hope the baby is happy and healthy. Also you could call the police and have him arrested. It would at least keep him away for a while.

2007-11-05 05:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by ziggy_brat 6 · 2 1

Leave now. Call police, which I am sure you won't but could get protected order. Can be handled over the phone due to medical conditions. Even if you live with his parents. They cann't throw you out. There has to be a chain of events before they do that which I am sure they would not. Go to shelter and they can help you fill out all types of forms and get you housing, foodstamps, wic and AFDC or child support.
This is only going to get worse, don't fool yourself. Think of the baby. His temper will worsen when he hears the baby scream. I really pray your baby does not have colic. You need to protect the baby reguardless of the situation you got into. It's about the baby now. Now, saying that, if you know he's violent and you do nothing and something happens to that baby, you will be charges also. You have to act on this. I know the stress but it will get worse. There has to be a family or friend. If not a shelter and they can help with housing, that doesn't mean living in a shack. There is very nice goverment housing.

2007-11-05 05:37:58 · answer #2 · answered by Lori N 2 · 1 1

You are denitely being abused and a man who hits you and deameans you will not treat your child any better. If anything, the abuse will get worse once the child is born.

Call your doctor's office ... they need to know, and they cannot tell him what you've said. Chances are, they've dealt with an abusive situation before. If you are planning to stay there for the birth, they need to know what's going on ... they may possibly not allow him in the delivery room. You can also have your medical records transfered to a doctor in your parents' area ... talk to your doctor.

Also, call a domestic violence shelter. Not only can they offer you emergency housing, but they can give you counseling, and you are going to need it. Many times, the domestic partner will use guilt or crazy-making (try to make you believe things didn't happen in the way you perceived them to be) in an attempt to get you back ... the birth of this child is going to be a major guilt producer. In addition, they may be able to help you obtain a Civil Protection Order in which you can stay where you're living but he has to leave, but be careful with this one because a piece of paper is only a piece of paper ... at a shelter, you have people around you to help protect you, as well as alarm systems and many local law enforcement agencies work directly with these shelters.

2007-11-05 05:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by Patti 3 · 2 1

You need to get out. If he can hit you then he will hit your baby. You might need to get the help from the state, like a womens place because taking the baby out of state he might be able to do something. not sure but think he can. Don't know about pregnancy, maybe you should get to your parents now. Don't worry just call a doctor close to your parent house. I am sure you can change all of it. Good luck and I will pray for you and your baby!

2007-11-05 05:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by mamato5Boys 4 · 1 1

Call your local women's shelter and get out now! You don't need physical abuse during pregnancy - both for your own sake and the baby's. He can't take you off the insurance until you're divorced, so you're safe there. The women's shelter will be able to help you more, as well as figuring out how to get you to the OB/hospital without your abuser knowing what is going on.

If you don't know the number for the local shelter, call the local human services department or health department and they'll give you the info - or even the local police department.

2007-11-05 05:23:06 · answer #5 · answered by Angelina 3 · 4 1

Beiging on bedrest and so late in your pregnancy is no excuse! You should have called the police on him! Have your parents help you with all the paperwork and evreything you need! Even if they live out of state knowing what is going on is enough to make them help you!

2007-11-05 05:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by Born Country 5 · 2 0

if you wait until this baby is born it will be harder for your to leave. If you move a doctor will take you no matter what. Since you are so late in pregnancy they won't have to do a bunch of check ups and all they have to do is ask for your information to be transferred to their hospital. Go ahead and move! Insurance transfer won't matter because most insurance companies will pick up right away or if you go on badgercare they will back date coverage for 3 months. Save yourself and your baby!

2007-11-05 05:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4 1

you're able to desire to truly take a seat your loved ones down and clarify the full project and how you're feeling. They probable merely don't understand. Seeing because it grew to become right into an prolonged distance relationship they probable do no longer think of pertaining to to the actual indisputable fact that the wear up can impression you merely as much as an in guy or woman relationship. till they have been there, they don't understand. in the event that they nevertheless don't understand, tell them you are going to wish a while to paintings issues out with your self and then stay away from them as much as attainable to stay away from making issues worse. As for procuring back on your ft and taking part in existence, do merely the flaws you adore. prepare dinner or draw or examine, bypass to the videos, and so on... something that could desire to generally positioned you in a greater advantageous temper despite in case you have been already in a solid one. bypass out for beverages with friends and attempt to encompass your self with people who will make you smile instead of argue with you. i understand this is been tough. solid success and digital mail any time!

2016-10-03 09:55:52 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

i dont think you would have to change ins if you left him now. There has got to be some kind of law to protect you anyway, he is an abuser and you should get out NOW. he is putting you and your babies life in danger! Check your phone book for safe havens for abused women and children. i know in Ca there are things like that. out here they have one called House of Ruth. they give you a place to stay and help with everything, including support. Sometimes ins. companies offer help with things like this too--like conseling for you, which will help you find the options you are looking for. maybe you could consider moving back to where your parents are at for some support. at least then you will be far from this man.
good luck, my prayers are with you and your baby

2007-11-05 05:30:04 · answer #9 · answered by potato 3 · 1 1

If he can treat you this way while pregnant with his child, no telling what can and will do to the baby once he/she is born. Go to your parents as soon as possible or somewhere safe. I wouldn't want to sleep in the same house with him, afraid of what he would do, muchless have my child in the house with him. Better to leave now. It would be much harder once you have the baby. He is a creep and deserves to be locked up!

2007-11-05 05:32:12 · answer #10 · answered by lysistrata411 6 · 1 1

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