Are men more forgivable than women?

Question

I've found more men are willing to forgive their wives after an affair and ususally women is the one to bring up a divorce in marriages do you think that's true?

I asked my husband that question, he said he would never let me go( I would never cheat). My sister did, her husband forgave her

Answer 1

Yes I think most men would be willing to forgive their wife or girlfriend of cheating, not me. I have a saying "If you love me, be with me and only me. If you cheat on me,...I know places the FBI wont look for your body." lol!! In other words I will have nothing to do with a cheater and if a woman ever cheated on me I would tell her bye, well I did get cheated on once come to think of it and I did tell her bye because of it. Men as a rule see a difference between sex and love. I think that's why men seem more willing to take their wife back, and why so many men do not understand why once they cheat their wives will not take them back. I would not forgive a woman who cheated on me, and I would never expect a woman to forgive me if I cheated on her. Like I said men will often see sex as just sex, and no connection or love really involved in it. It is just taking joy in the look, feel, touch, and so on of a beautiful woman. The thing is no one likes to be cheated on, even guys so I say, unless you don't mind your woman sleeping with other guys, you should not sleep with other women. Another reason men can be more forgiving is, well it's hard to find a woman who you respect, are attracted to, and who you really get along with. Once you find one and get her to date you or marry you, you never want to lose her. It is so hard to find a woman that is all those things in one. Women seem to find guys easier than we find women. The reason I think is women will and do date guys they would never consider marrying but like his looks and bad boy attitude. Then, they end up thinking he will change and so on and when he does not they either get divorced or break up. Then she finds another one that some other woman has left who is a lot like what she just got rid of. She then tries the same with him and this just keeps going. Then one day she realizes what she has been doing and begins to date good guys. Usually it will be one of the first three or so she dates, that she ends up with. That means that there are a lot of good men out here just waiting for the right woman to show interest. There are more men than women when it comes to that. So, women do not have a hard time finding another man. Men have a hard time getting a woman that will be kind, sweet, who they can talk to and they find attractive. So I think it is a lot harder for men, that's why as a rule we put up with so much from a woman we love. If we acted the way most women do, heck they would dump us in a heartbeat. =)

Answer 2

I do not know about men being forgiving in a relationships after an affair but you are right about women bringing up divorce or breaking up women now a days just are fed up with guys not being supportive or responsive to a women's dough ts they think that women should not think like that unfortunately we see that men are more likely to have an affair for many reasons correct me if I am wrong but one of there answers to having an affair would be its something new, I got problems , My wife dose not understand me and the most famous one of them all she dose not satisfy-me make women now a days just say no more marriage is not what it use to be now it is until you do something wrong and not until death do us part in richer or poor in sickness or health in bad times or good times that just is not in there book.

Answer 3

That is an interesting question. I was much more forgiving than my x-wife in our marriage but we both agreed before we got married that sex with someone else was a deal breaker.

We said that any other issues we would try to forgive and try to work the issue out, but that sex with someone else meant instant divorce. To me marital infidelity is the ultimate betrayal.

I realize now that I was too forgiving in my marriage and should have set more limits.

Answer 4

That's an interesting fact. Depends on how long the marriage is and how deep in love they are in. I know this guy that wants to marry me, we were asking each others questions and I asked 'If I was to cheat on you would you divorce me?' and he said no, I was surprised, but I said I would divorce him =/ lol, so hey, that fact may be true.

Answer 5

Judging soley by the responses regarding affairs on this website, I would agree with you. Women do seem to be more vindictive and less forgiving than men in such situations.

Answer 6

I think men don't really tend to think about how much it can effect the relationship and they don't feel guilty, reason being that they have done something to the extreme "not to judge"....As for women we will seize the moment to think we are better and have always been right.

But it also goes both ways :)

Answer 7

Definitely. To me, cheating is an automatic dealbreaker - I wouldn't even want to know anything else, I would immediately pack up and leave with an impending divorce.

Answer 8

(This depends) either one (men or women) can be more forgiven than the other

and also this depends on how long the relationship has been and how much (person 1) cares for the relationship/person (than person 2)

Answer 9

yes we are because we understand the whole affair thing and wish us men wouldn't have a affair but it happens and we move on from there

Answer 10

Women are forgiving